Throughout life we come across many people, some who influence us in negative ways, and those who influence in good ways, often changing our complete outlook on life. For me, it took the struggle of one of my best friends to open my eyes. I only wish it wasn't too late to thank her.
I grew up having more than the average kid. My parents bought me nice clothes, stereos, Nintendo games, mostly everything I needed and wanted. They supported me in everything I did. At that point in my life I was very involved with figure skating. I never cared how much of our money it took, or how much of my parents' time it occupied, all I thought about was the shiny new ice skates and frilly outfits I wanted. Along with my involvement in soccer, the two sports took most of my parents' time, and a good portion of their money. Growing up with such luxuries I began to take things for granted. I expected things, rather than being thankful for what I had and disregarded my parent's wishes, thinking only of myself. Apparently my parents recognized my behavior and began limiting my privileges. When I didn't get what I wanted I got upset and mad at my parents somehow blaming them for all my problems. Now don't get me wrong, I wasn't a bad kid, I just didn't know how else to act. I had never been exposed to anything less than what I had and didn't realize how good I had it.
Regina Maywack lived just down the road from me. Before 5th grade I never knew who she was. As the year progressed we got closer and closer. Regina was extremely talented. She was, in my mind, a genius; she loved school and always did well. She was also blessed with athletic ability. Something I respected since most other kids we knew weren't involved in sports. No matter what day it was I always went to school knowing that Regina would be there with a smile on her face. It seemed as though she didn't have a care in the world. There were days I would show up mad at something my parents had done, or at something that hadn't gone my way, and she would just look at me with those honest eyes and tell me to be thankful for the good things.
Everything from me starting the car in the morning and not taking off, to me going to school everyday and so on. There are also irregularities in our daily responsibilities such as me having an English assignment on occasion or me having to get to guitar lessons. Every one of those things is a responsibility that if neglected will have a negative impact on all parties involved. If I don’t go to school, then my parents feel like they are neglecting me as a child and I am doomed for the streets, or they are given the headache of trying to discipline me, which despite all teenagers beliefs – discipline is not something that parents have fun giving out. Also, should I ever start the car in the morning and take off, my mother now has to walk to work, or call Dad.
I yelled at them, ignored them, and occasionally did the opposite they told me too. At the time, I thought that made me better than them, but in the end, it got me nowhere. Soon I entered high school and my bratty preteen-self calmed down. However, my parents became stricter on my grades because there was a big milestone that would be coming up in a few years, getting accepted into college. My parents made it very clear that if I did not get a large scholarship to any university, I would have to go to the local community college. That was the last thing I wanted to happen, I wanted out of the house. I now had a strong incentive to do well in school. I wanted to be able to go out on my own and escape their tight grasp on me. I completed year after year, always making “A’s” in my classes. I soon climbed to the top of my school’s ranking system and was at the top of my class. Though, this did not matter to me, I wanted out of my house. At this point, I knew I was not disappointing my parents, they were as proud as can be with a daughter at the top of her class. This was the first time in my life that I felt as if my parents were generally proud of me and my accomplishments. I still however, felt guilty. Even though I was doing it for myself, I felt bad that I wanted to escape my parents. I did not hate them, I just could not stand being under their control
In the text book: At the school level, a properly executed “positive behavioral interventions and supports (PBIS) program should be implemented using the “PBIS Pyramid model” addressing Primary (for all students: “prevention, effective for 80 – 90% of students”), Secondary “focused on At-risk students (to “reduce problem behaviors for 5 – 10% of students”), and Tertiary Interventions (“for students with high-risk behaviors for 1 – 5% of students”).
Deep down inside, I have always known my parents are loving parents that will do anything they can to support me to prosper and succeed in life. The only problem is that my parents came from very traditional household that used the authoritarian parenting style, so that is the style they used on me. While growing up with parents using the authoritarian parenting style, I was not exposed to their warmth or nurturing side. Instead, I was taught to respect authority and traditional structure in a demanding, controlling and punitive way. This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school.
Both students were close to repeating the third grade and have serious behavior problem displayed in the classroom and at home. A PBS plan was created as an intervention to get these students back on track in the classroom. The goals were to prevent aggressive and distracting behaviors in the classroom that was impeding their education. The methods used in their PBS plan were self-monitoring, teacher and peer mediated support, and positive reinforcement (Lynnette, Young, & Marchant, 2004). The positive reinforcement used most often was praise for appropriate behaviors and a token economy system administrated by teachers and paraprofessionals that interacted with the students (Lynnette, Young, & Marchant, 2004). The result of the plan was an immediate improvement in their socially appropriate classroom behavior. This was measured by comparing their behavior in a sample of same-aged student evaluated by their teachers (Lynnette, Young, & Marchant, 2004). All in all, the researcher found a major difference in the two student’s behavior in the classroom that lead to them improving
Having a system for managing students’ behavior is important for the students and for the teacher. Students need to be acknowledged when they do something well so they can do it again. Even as adults we sometimes need acknowledgement. I know at my job we are always acknowledged when we get a customer to apply for a credit or debit card. If the students are not being acknowledge for their good deeds they wouldn’t want to try harder to do that same behavior again or even try harder. They need a system that challenges them and lets them know what would happen if they behave well. Having an effective system in place also keeps the teacher prepared for certain situations and with a system in place the students will strive to do well so they can receive the benefits of the system in place.
All schools have rules and regulations that students need to follow. Schoolwide Positive Behavior Intervention and Support (SWBIS) is an intervention plan that engages positive behavior and supports social behavior. By implementing SWBIS into a school system, disciplinary action is equal for each student. Therefore, “Schools that promote prosocial, cooperative behavior and academic success are central to preventing problem behavior” (Martella, Nelson, Marchand- Martella, and O’Rilly, 2012, 309). To insure that SWBIS is effective, there is a three-step tier that help categorize student’s behaviors, and allows teachers to create enough data on these behaviors. “In any school, three types of students can be identified: typical students not at
There are many consequences to living an unhealthy lifestyle. The annual death rates due to poor health will continue to increase and grow worse. There would be an Increase in obesity and diseases corresponding with unhealthy weight gain through all ages such as; Cardiovascular Diseases, Stroke, Type 2 Diabet...
My family is very different and has different views than most average American families. My family and I moved to the United States from Albania when I was the mere age of two. My parents didn’t speak any English when we landed in America. However, they strived for a better living situation for my brother and I, which I am thankful for every day. My parents didn’t expect me to do well in school and attend college so, they didn’t bother to take me to music classes or dance classes like other moms would do with their children. I would always be the child that didn’t fit in which in away forced me to do well in school. On the other hand I think my parents held me back from the opportunities I could’ve had. If they were to put me in piano classes
I don’t know where I would be without my best friend. The person who keeps me sane when my family is driving me crazy, or the person who will stay up with me all night to support me when I have a last minute paper due in a class; I don’t know where I would be without that support. I found this support in my best friend, my sister from another father, Regina. Regina is an eccentric, overbearing, lover of all things natural type of girl. She lives life to the fullest and never backs down from a challenge. She is funny, full of whit and sharper than a tack fresh out of the box. Although it hasn’t always been a smooth road for us we still remain friends to this day.
Passionate love is based on drive. Couples in passionate love feel physically attracted to each other. Sexual desire is typically a component of passionate love. Passionate love is not limited to sexual attraction, however. It is a way for couples to express feelings of nurture, dominance, submission, self-actualization, etc![4] Passionate love is considered the "hot" component of love because of the strong presence of arousal between two people. Sternberg believed that passionate love will diminish as the positive force of the relationship is taken over by opposite forces. This idea comes from Solomon's opponent-force theory[5]!
My parents followed moderately different parenting styles. My mother’s parenting style was strict and extraordinarily Authoritarian, while my dad practiced a mix of Neglectful and Authoritarian parenting. My Father was a workaholic and was not around much. During early childhood, I would be in bed by the time he arrived home from work, so I would rarely see him. He did not get involved with my schoolwork and would rarely show up to piano recitals or swim meets. The few times he did show up, he would ridicule me and tell me I should have done better. Since my
Sometimes we act instinctively and think our behavior is normal until we reflect on what we are doing. I was considered a troubled teen. Funny enough, no one seemed to ask why. Maybe you’re not like me and maybe you are. My parents, as great as they are (in their way) ways didn 't pay much if any attention to me growing up. They were busy trying to create ‘a better life us’. We all do the best we can with what we have. What they failed to realize was that they were missing some fundamentals that we needed. We didn 't need stuff, although who doesn 't like stuff. We needed them and their time and understanding.
“An Event Which Changed My Life” An Event which changed my life, well when, I think back on my life there’s Many changes for the good and some were bad but, there were some learning experiences that help make me a better person. The events in my life, was dealing with the Birth and The Death of my first daughter. The First, Event was the birth of my first daughter it, was a joyous event in my life.
Eating unhealthy can effect more than just yourself. If you feel like eating healthy is too expensive; how do you feel about your loved ones? Do you want to see your kids grow in to adults? Of course if you have kids you want them to grow up and be healthy and successful. Eating unhealthy may be cheap on money but it costs you in other places. Eating unhealthy can prevent you from being able to exercise to your full potential. If your kids wanted to play when they got older, you would not be able to when you get older and your bad habits catch up to you. Eating unhealthy does not mean you will be fat but it is most likely