CMN 598 Topic: Communication in the Family / Fall 2015
Kelley exam (the final) Conflict is natural and inevitable in marriages and other close relationships. However, conflicts do not mean something bad or result to negative consequences, but rather conflict avoidance can lead to negative long term consequences. In fact, happy family or happy couples do not always mean lack of conflict, but how they manage these conflicts in a successful manner. Simply conflict mean "an expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive in compatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals" (Galvin, Braithwaite, Bylund, 2014). Actually, Gottman defines three couples types in managing
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When parents deal with conflicts successfully, this causes a positive effect to their kids because they teach them how to manage a conflict in the future. Moreover, partner who shows and experiences love are more capable to deal with conflict more constructively than partners who do not show love to each other. Constructive conflict occur through learning strategies and skills that improve spouses relationship. First, empathic listening without judging helps to know what other party wants to say. Nods and humming (like you 're right, uh umm, absolutely) are useful to make the partner feels that what he says is completely worth and important. Repeating what the partner says is helpful too, because it clarifies a point and show that the spouse listen carefully. Second, using fair fighting. It means allocating equal time for each partner to talk without interruption. Also, make agreement of not step out the main topic as well as not including other conversations or old problems that do not relate to the current problem. Third, create boundaries about what is acceptable behavior and what isn’t, such as no cursing, no physical interaction, no yelling or screaming. Fourth, change the environment would help too, because choosing bedroom for example as a place in discussion conflict may link the bedroom with problems instead of intimacy and romantic. Thus, it is good to choosing an appropriate …show more content…
He inferred on that by indicating that power relationships have important implications in marriage and families even when conflict does not exist. For example, power hierarchies may help to shape the family system. For that he suggests "it seems wise to keep the ideas of power and conflict as distinct as possible, even though in many concrete instances they will be found together" (McDonald, 1980). For example, conflict arises when spouse (who has implementing power) attempts to modify the situation beyond the boundaries established by the
Conflicts within relationships are inevitable and some conflict can help strengthen a relationship; however, in marriages and families, many people fail to work through their conflict, which results in unhealthy patterns of behavior. Over time, if left unresolved, these patterns of behavior can lead to a breaking of the relationship. Furthermore, most people do not set out seeking conflict within relationships, but rather they lack the emotional maturity to move through conflict. In fact, it is not the differences between the two parties that create the conflict, but rather the emotional reaction to their differences. Therefore, an intervention is required to begin the healing process of working through conflict. Often a pastor or counselor
Most studies in marital conflict pertain to three particular dimensions of communication. The first dimension is affect which refers to messages that express positive or negative feelings about another person, such as supportiveness, hostility, confirmation, coercion, sarcasm, or global positiveness or negativeness (e.g., Gottman, 1979 and Sillars and Wilmot, 1994). The second dimension to characterize conflict behaviors is whether they are constructive or destructive for the parties’ relationship. Research in the United States indicates that exiting from the relationship and neglecting the partner are destructive problem-solving responses and are more powerfully predictive of couple distress than giving voice to problems and being passive loyal (e.g., Rusbult, Johnson, & Morrow, 1986). The third dimension to characterize conflict management is engagement versus avoidance (e.g., Hocker and Wilmot, 1991 and Sillars and Wilmot, 1994). Engagement is reflected in direct, overt verbal confrontation of conflict issues, while conflict avoidance is reflected in withdrawal and aversion to dealing directly with conflict issues (Canary, Cupach, & Messman, 1995) and includes circumscribed, irrelevant, or ambiguous communication. Since the purpose of this study is to examine the effect of culture on marital conflict strategies and marital satisfaction, the discussion will be limited to the third dimension of marital conflict, engagement–avoidance, along with Rahim's styles of conflict.
Manifestation of domestic conflicts differ within family relations, although the issue of domestic conflict is universal. This work is an analysis of the dynamics of conflicts that exist in various family relations. Various aspects, reasons and proposed resolution systems of spouse and parent-child relationship conflicts have been
Marriage is a copmlicated but lovely bonding in which two individual spend their life with eachother and play a important role in meeting the demands of man and woman.(Berne,Steiner, Dusay, 1973). Marital conflicts happen when one or both people are self-centered. One selfishly wants what he wants without consideration for the capabilities, plans, or goals of his spouse. Researches has
Interpersonal conflict is very common with many relationships. It occurs when two people can not meet in the middle or agree on a discussion. Cooperation is key to maintaining a healthy debate. More frequently; when dealing with members of your own family, issues arise that include conflict and resolution. During this process our true conflict management style appears “out of thin air”. (Steve A. Beebe, 2008, p. 191).
Sharing the power in a relationship helps couples to avoid power imbalances and conflicts over power will lessen overall negative conflict in the relationship. To keep communication going, "the partners should focus on the fat that sharing information is essential and reinforce each other for keeping the process alive" (102). To do this, for example, don 't become defensive when a partner reveals their feelings; if you punish disclosure by becoming angry, the partner is less likely to disclose in the future. I often still experience this in my marriage. When I tell my husband my feelings and he responds by getting angry or defensive, I feel hurt and upset and do not want to open myself up to that again. This can cause a pattern of sharing, hurting, and then a period of time with little communication, until one party opens up communication again. However, if you follow the other strategies, and go back to the first principle of effective communication above all-if you make it a priority- it will be easy to keep open lines of communication in a
Gottman (1999) conveys that the integration of active listening and conflict resolution techniques is not sufficient to safeguard marriages from a probable divorce. Due to that couples who develop throughout the years a high level of
Marriage is legal bound between man and women to spend their whole lives together. While living together they may face conflicts including perception, making a decision. Every marriage has challenges. Every marriage has difficulties because marriage is comprised of two people of very different personalities, very different gifting. Two people that are independent and they decide to come together and be married for the rest of their life. Well this can cause conflict. Aggression is an important factor creating a conflict Aggression is any behavior directed toward another individual that is carried out with the immediate intent to cause harm. Research shows that aggressive behavior leads to
In order of being able to analyze the sources of conflicts regarding the clothing manufacturer, I will present the Conflict Process Model according to McShane and Von Glinow. Therefore, I will first define what conflicts are, and second present the different sources of conflicts and carve out which conflicts are involved regarding to the given case. The third step is to explain two different strategies to minimize these conflicts in future. Finally, I will provide a recommendation and conclusion.
Conflict is something that you encounter pretty much every day. It is almost inevitable that you will not encounter conflict as you through your day or doing anything else. There are different ways to confront conflict, and it depends on the type of person that you are. The different ways that people can confront conflict are either head-on or just complete avoidance. When people avoid a conflict, sometimes it tends to work in their favor, but sometimes it does not and the problem just becomes bigger. Also with handling it head-on there are some major problems. Sometimes the people who confront those conflicts are not people who can express themselves in a good manner, so they tend to blow things out of proportions. “Our basis understanding
If a conflict occurs and it’s not handled correctly, it can cause one or both of you to become defensive toward each other. If both parties have two different opinions, it can sometimes lead to a conflict which causes people to have a misunderstanding. It is better if you deal with the conflict in a positive way. According to the text, “Paying attention and modifying your behavior, checking your perceptions with other people, practicing effective listening skills, and using the skills of emotional intelligence can all be useful means of diminishing conflict” (Bevan & Sole, 2014). If you use these techniques they can help reduce interpersonal conflict from occurring. There really isn’t no way to avoid conflict, but you can change the way you communicate to solve the problems that you may face in your marriage. When you learn how to solve conflicts successfully it can help improve your relationship. You must develop a strategy in order to manage interpersonal conflict. If you want to avoid conflict due to perceiving things the wrong way, you must properly determine the genuine meaning behind the message before forming judgements. Your marriage can be filled with happiness, but there will be some disagreements. If a situation comes up before blowing it out of proportion you should first identify the
We each possess unique ideas, opinions, beliefs, and feelings about specific situations in life. This uniqueness is a large part of what makes us human. Because we all have our own individual way of looking at things, we each have a different viewpoint on what is proper or improper. With all that variation in society conflict is inevitable! Conflict is antagonistic in nature and we all must find ways to work through conflict issues both at work and at home. This paper describes different types of conflict, the influences I personally had in learning to deal with those conflicts, some of the conflicts that I commonly experience, how I go about dealing with those conflicts, and how conflict affects me on a personal level.
that may result in a struggle for power or position. Conflict management, therefore, can be
To begin with, lack of communication is a significant cause of the recent rise in the rates of divorce. A marriage is on the rocks when the lines of communication fail. People will tend to stay quiet about money management and job issues, because they don’t want to burden their partner. Most of the time they think it’s easier to deal with it by one’s self, but in reality, it’s pushing their partner out of the room and shutting the door. When this starts to happen, it’s harder to push back. In marriage, one person’s problems is supposed to be handled by both. One will feel neglected if they don’t have a say in a particular situation. Thus, resentment and distance starts growing between the two. Those small problems now become big problems, which result in separation. In order to have a good solid foundation, each couple needs to be heard and voice his or her own feelings. This includes conflict of opinion with concerns to small or big disputes such as religion, children, job opportunities and money management.
When most people hear that word conflict, they decide instantly if this is something they care to get involved in. Most people rather avoid conflict than get caught up in other people’s drama. Laura Stacks author of conflict in the workplace compares conflict to pain. She argues that pain and conflict has one thing in common; no one likes either. However, someone once said that pain was a gift, because pain is the indicator that God blessed us with so that, we will know when something is wrong and we may need medical attention. If pain is not all bad according to Stacks illustration conflict is not all bad either. According to Porter-O’Grady and Malloch, (2015) it is normal for conflict to occur within various relationships; people will just have to learn to deal with conflict sooner or later. This paper will address the issues surround workplace conflicts and their resolutions.