The 5 Love Language Book: The Five Love Languages

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The 5 Love Languages book is a clear and helpful tool for couples who are not only married but for anyone who is looking to understand their relationship, relationships in general, or marriage better. It encourages you to identify your primary love language which is the way that you like to receive love whether it’s words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time, acts of service, or receiving gifts. It also very much encourages you to find out what your significant other’s primary love language is. That will help you to understand how to give love to them in the way that they best respond to. This book gave more than enough real life examples of couples who have put this method to the test, and I was impressed with every single one of …show more content…

One of the many things in this book that stood out to me was the point the author made about how love is a choice. He said that the average time that the “euphoric” feeling of being in love only lasts about two years, after that the work begins. You have to choose to love your significant other every day in the way that they best respond to love. You choose to speak in their primary love language. Making that choice to do so is the greatest act of love in a marriage. You are saying every day that you value that person and you want them to feel loved by you. Especially if your spouses’ primary love language does not come easy or naturally to you. That could be an even more meaningful way to say that you love that person. It says you are willing to basically learn a whole new language that is completely foreign to you, in order to make that person feel appreciated and loved. That concept stood out to me because I never really thought about love that way. I never really saw it as a choice that you had to make every single day. I always thought that if you were really in love and committed to someone then it shouldn’t be that much work and I thought that if you had to choose to love that person then that …show more content…

Another thing that the author talked about that stood out to me was how real and accurate the primary love languages are. One of the husbands that he talked to thought that he was doing everything he could to make his marriage work. He did all of the house chores, he cooked dinner, he cleaned, he drove the kids everywhere and he was still confused why his marriage was in trouble. The couple went and talked to the author of this book and discovered the importance of love languages. The husband realized that while he was doing his best to make his wife feel loved, she just didn’t because she wasn’t being loved in her primary language. Looking back, he realized he was acting as if her primary love language was acts of service, doing things around the house and getting everyday things done to make her feel loved. But acts of service was not her primary love language at all. It was in fact, quality time. None of the little chores and things he did for her spoke love to her. All she wanted was to spend time together, to not be focused on anything else besides each other. Finally, he realized that once he started spending quality time together, their marriage

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