Summer romance, crazy flings, and first loves; these are all common occurrences during those high school years. High school relationships are essentially the beginning of a teenager’s dating career; dating helps young adults develop their emotions and temperament while being with a significant other. In a way dating prepares students for the real world that they will soon have to endure. For teens in high school, the most complicated relationships are long distance ones. Long distance relationships are a difficult task to handle, with each individual willing to take a chance at ‘tough love’. Though it is good for teenagers to be able to experience relationships in different circumstances, long distance relationships are believed to be tough to handle as mere high school students. More often these affairs end badly due to the lack of emotional strength or, perhaps, lack of maturity. A couple puts in a great deal of effort to be together regardless of the distance separating them, in order that it may prove to be more than just a fling. “So how do you stay close and get even closer, when you're so far apart? It's not simple, but it's not impossible.” (Amenstein, Sherry). Like any other type of relationship, it begins the same way, butterflies in your stomach, love only a glance away, and all the clichés; but this one has a catch, it’s actually too good to be true. However, opposed to other typical high school relationships, most of those individuals who choose to be (involved) in long distance relationships generally have an average of 14 months of planning before actually deciding on being together. This demonstrates that more thought goes into a long distance relationship, due to the fact that the 'distant' couple is more patient... ... middle of paper ... ...rare occasion that a teenager is actually fully developed and mature to handle a long distance relationship, it won’t be taken seriously by many people, especially by their parents who will most likely disapprove. The bitter end to this story is that it depends an awful lot on the pair’s characteristics and emotional strength, trust, communication, etcetera. Many teen agers are not emotionally prepared to handle a long distance relationship and those who are, are dismissed by adults who believe that they are not mature enough. Works Cited Amenstein, Sherry. "5 Secrets of Successful Long-Distance Relationships - IVillage." IVillage.com. IVillage, 2004. Web. 24 Jan. 2012. . Leek, McKenzie. "What Is Love?" The Sun Chronicle. The Sun Chrinicle, 3 Jan. 2012. Web. 24 Jan. 2012
Fairy tales tell us that once upon a time a girl met a boy; they fell in love, and lived happily ever after. Reality is not that simple. Long-term relationships force couples to get to know each other, involve themselves in each others’ worlds, fight through the hard times, and eventually develop deeper connections as noted through distinctive stages of Knapp’s relationship model. Although I have dated the same person for over two years, our communication through relationship stages makes it seem as though I am now dating a different person than the one I met years ago. Following dissolution and subsequent repair, I realize the most exhilarating of roller coaster rides develop through sets of ups and downs, much like the stages on how our relationship is built.
Entering a high school today, one might not see too many relationships, but one thing one might see is that the people in a relationship care about dating for a significant amount of time. The teenage culture of the 1950’s believed “going steady was a sign of popularity,” and the popular kids dated each other (Bailey 140). In Rebel Without a Cause, Judy, who is the dominant female of her group
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
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As any romantic will assert, love is by far the most powerful force known to human hearts and minds. This sentiment is espoused throughout history, almost to the point of cliché. Everyone has heard the optimistic statement, “love conquers all,” and The Beatles are certain, however idyllic it may be, that “all you need is love.” Humanity is convinced that love is unique within human emotion, unequalled in its power to both lift the spirit up in throws of ecstasy, and cast it down in utter despair.
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Long distance relationships (also known as LDR’s) are one of the toughest types of relationships to maintain. Many variables can affect this type of relationship
Arnett (2000) explains the nature of romantic relationships in adolescence as tentative and transient where dating has more of a social component rather than romantic. He also describes dating in adolescence as often taking place in groups, where “adolescents share recreation such as parties, dances, and hanging out” (p. 473). It is evident that romantic relationships in adolescence are unstable, short-lived, and lack the mature component seen across adult romantic relationships. Arnett conveys that exploration in love becomes more serious and intimate during emerging adulthood. As opposed to adolescent romantic relationships, dating in emerging adulthood “is more likely to take place in couples, and the focus is less on recreation and more on exploring the potential for emotional and physical intimacy” (473). For instance, an adolescent in high school may seek a romantic partner to gain some sort of social status or experience in the process of romantic exploration whereas a senior in college may seek a long-term and mature partner to build a life with in adulthood. Exploration in the area of love during emerging adulthood “tends to involve a deeper level of intimacy, and the implicit question
"Interpersonal attraction refers to positive feelings about another person. It can take many forms, including liking, love, friendship, lust, and admiration" (spark notes). Sometimes these kinds of relationships can happen between individuals that people meet throughout their daily lives. For any relationship to exist or last,last there has to be effective communication. Communication is a major factor used to either build up or tear down interpersonal relationships. Also, having effective listening skills helps the relationship become stronger. In the movie, 50 First Dates, there are many instances where interpersonal relationships are illustrated. This paper will discuss the different types of interpersonal relationships that are found in the movie, as well as how important communication is in a relationship to keep that bond strong and last.
Young people more and more often ask themselves what is better: be in a relationship or being single. Nowadays, being in a relationship is too difficult for young people. They are too busy to bother with building relationships – they have to study and often work at the same time. But is a relationship such a big burden as they seem? There are some advantages and also disadvantages of being in relationship, but being alone is not a good solution either. Now, I would like to compare and contrast those two statements.
When I moved from New York to Texas I left behind the most important thing: love. I had been dating Franky for a year when I up and moved south. It was a really sad parting for us both, but we decided to continue our relationship as long-distance to see how it would work out. However, I knew deep down that it would not last very long. Long-distance relationships are hard, and the chances of them failing are great. Needless to say, the odds were not in our favor and our relationship ended four months afterwards. The causes that led to Franky and I’s failed long-distance relationship were numerous.
Everybody has felt it at one time or another, whether it is for a person, everyday objects, or your pet. Love is an important symbol that has traveled through generations and still exists in today’s society. Love is a common word used to describe one’s affection towards people that we care about in our lives. In Will Weaver’s short story “A Gravestone Made of Wheat” love is found between a man and a woman who lived on a small farm in Minnesota. Olaf Torvik and Inge Altenburg fall in love with each other during their strenuous attempt to get married.
Vincent and I met when we were in grade school, and since then we have grown into best friends and then into boyfriend and girlfriend for more than a year now. Vincent was from the class below me, and while I was heading to another college, we decided to start talking and ended up being in a relationship, knowing that it would be a long distance relationship. We entered into a long distance relationship having in mind that we were in school and needed to accommodate our relationship as best we could.
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Are relationships in high school truly worth the potential heartache? Answers to this question vary, ranging from the enthusiastic “yes!” to the skeptical view of which cutting off one’s own third toe makes more sense to indifference. Yet, how can the value of a relationship be determined when the tumult of everyday teenage life may result in the potential loss or gain of a new relationship every week? One view may be relationships teenagers enter into are valuable practice for later in life, teaching those which engage in them how to interact with members of the opposite sex in a way which leads to marriage or family. Others, however, state the truism being a significantly low percentage of high school romances result in marriage. Although some may say the benefits outweigh the risks, relationships in high school are not feasible for many and may not be worth the effort put into them.