The Definition of Friendship
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Friendship is the most wonderful relationship that anyone can have. Ideally a friend is a person who offers love and respect and will never leave or betray us. Friends can tell harsh truths when they must be told. There are four different types of friends: True friends, Convenient friends, Special interest friends, and historical friends. To have friendship is to have comfort. In times of crisis and depression, a friend is there to calm us and to help lift up our spirits.
There are many illustrations that show why a friend can be a great comforter. For example, if a student is going through a hard time at school, a friend can offer guidance, encouragement and support. A true friend is also someone who loves and respects us.
A boyfriend and a girlfriend desire to be with each other. They love each other so much that they just want to be with each other as much as possible. This bond is also present in a good friendship because it has genuine love. Also, as friends they respect each other. They try to avoid causing conflicts. They don’t make fun of each other, but treat each other with respect.
As friends, we all make sacrifices for each other. Some friends risk their lives for a friend. An example of this true friendship can be found in the movie, American Pie. Todd had a championship football game, but on the same day there was an All-State choir going on. Todd and his girlfriend were both into choir. He couldn’t be in two places at once, so he gave up his football game so that he could be with his girlfriend. Everyone on the football game looked up to him because he made a sacrifice to be with his girlfriend. When his girlfriend asked why. He responded, I did it for you. This shows friendship through a humble heart.
One of the most important details in a friendship is to never leave or forsake the other. A friend is also loyal, for example in the movie Lord of the Rings, Froto and Sam Wise had a wonderful fellowship. They lived in peace and in one accord. Also in the movie, gandalf sent froto on a mission. Froto was scared and he didn’t want to go on the journey by himself.
Gandalf brought frotos friend, Sam Wise, who went with him on the journey.
As they traveled together, Sam Wise made a promise to Froto that no matter what happens he will never leave or forsake him. When Froto decided that he needed to continue the journey on his own, out jumps Sam Wise who runs after him. Froto didn’t want Sam Wise to be with him because his mission was dangerous.
However, Sam Wise didn’t allow this to happen because he made a promise to him. He jumped into the ocean, and since he didn’t know how to swim, he sacrificed himself for his friend. Froto didn’t want Sam Wise to come because he feared that Sam could get injured.
At one point Froto snuck out to the boats and tried to leave Sam behind. Sam eventually caught up and even though he couldn’t swim. He went after Froto. Froto in the end was reassured of his friendship between Sam Wise himself. As Froto lifted Sam Wise by hand, they continued their quest. This movie showed me the true meaning of friendship.
As started earlier, we also have convenient friends. For example, a next-door neighbor can be helpful to us. When a neighboring family goes away, or is at work, a next-door neighbor can get their mail. If a neighbor’s child is sick at school, a caring neighbor can take care of the child until the parents come home.
There are also special interest friends. This kind of friendship is not that close. For example, special interest friends may like to go to the mall and shop. They are not intimate friends by they enjoy the companionship of shopping together. For example, a friend and I would often play tennis or watch movies together. Though we didn’t talk to each other that much, we would often get together to share activities. Our friendship wasn’t that intimate because were often busy.
All of us have friends who know us very well. These types of friends are called historical friends. Historical friends know about our past. For instance, a while back I had a friend who knew everything about me. We shared the good and bad times, and had many things in common. Now we have gone our separate ways, but we are an intimate part of each other’s past. For instance, this friend remembers the type of music that I used to listen to. Indeed, historical friends are a blessing to have.
Friends cannot read each other’s mind. I often think that my friends should know what I am thinking or feeling. But when I expect my friends to read my mind, I feel disappointed. Therefore, friends should just tell each other what is needed or what is on their mind, so that there won’t be any misunderstanding.