Love, Intimacy, and Technology
While movies, books, plays, and love songs certainly provide all individuals with a distorted view of both love and intimacy in today’s day and age, It also seems that it does not matter where love is mentioned or in what it is mentioned in people act like starved animals that are in need of a steak dinner. As a result all the information about love and romance and relationships that is available to individuals may provide them with a dreamy and fanciful view of love and intimacy in the digital age. It is also true that technology and the many advancements of mobile communication that are available to help people navigate their daily lives no matter where they live in the world is extensive and overwhelming to say the least.
It also seems that it does not matter where love is mentioned or in what context it is mentioned in people act like starved animals in need of a steak dinner.
The impact of technology seems to have affected every part of an individual’s life here on earth from their workplace, to their vehicles, to the criminal justice system, to the medical field, to their education, and their homes to name a few, and there are still many instances in which we create, develop or use technological devices in accordance with a normal human beings existence on earth.
It is also true that people who are blessed to live in the new millennium are so enamored with technology and the new ways it helps them on their daily journey through life that they use it to connect with anyone and everyone from family and friends to significant others on a daily basis.
This becomes most apparent in the way we approach relationships with other individuals, while it is true that long gone are the days of co...
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“Love, Internet Style” by David Brooks and “Why Jane Austen Would Approve of Online Dating” by Elizabeth Kantor both discuss certain aspects of online romance and draw conclusions about online dating’s effectiveness. Brooks’ piece informs the reader of similarities and differences between online romance and courtship rituals of the past with particular focus on how men and women behave in online dating situations. Kantor’s informative piece uses comparison and contrast primarily to highlight comparisons between online dating and assembly balls from Jane Austen’s novels.
Meghan Daum, born in1970 in California, is an American author, essayist, and journalist. Her article “Virtual Love” published in the August 25-September 1, 1997 issue of The New Yorker follows the author’s personal encounter with cyberspace relationships. Through this article the author presents to us the progress of an online relationship that after seeming entertaining and life changing at the beginning becomes nothing more than a faded memory. In fact she even ends the text stating that “reality is seldom able to match the expectations raised by intoxication of an idealized cyber romance.”(Daum, 1997, P.10) Daum concludes that online-dating or virtual love rarely survives the physical world when confronted by its obstacles such as its pace, idealization, and mainly expectations. However, although the message of the author is true, yet the way by which it was conveyed is found faulty.
Before You Start Internet Dating What to Watch out For, What to Beware Of! Web. 20
This article presents the deceptions of online dating through the users profiles through self-presentation, emotions and trustworthiness.
The practice of online dating has become an increasingly popular and acceptable method of dating in modern society and looking at this social behavior from the perspective of a functionalist and a symbolic interactionist would involve very different focuses.
Dating, the starting point where two individuals look forward to a romance. Romance is the second stage where love begins, which will eventually lead to a marriage. The question is, where can it start? People are often looking for someone to date, but where they begin has many options. Online dating is one of many choices that allow us as people to experience one thing that many desire, a shot at love. As a Aziz Ansari, author of the book Modern Romance, points out, you can meet someone through a friend, or a family member, or even through work or church(pg 81). They’re all great options, but the one that is the most efficient is through online. Many people are constantly meeting through online websites such as, Match.com, Cupid.com, Christianmingle.com, and many more considering that there are millions of people meeting everyday. Online dating first started out as ads on newspapers which allowed people to tell other civilians a little about themselves as a person along with a contact number. This later on became more advanced and slowly began to become what we now know as online dating. online dating has made a mark as to how we date, and it has improved it for the better.
The word “love” has always caught attention with its meanings. There have been many definitions used for this word throughout history, beginning with its start during the ninth century. With the examples of current use(from Urban Dictionary, Twitter, a student survey, a song, and a film) it is obvious that the definition of this word has been lost in translation in many different ways. Looking closely at the synonyms, along with the history and current use, the true definition is clearly seen through a usual worldly haze.
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Based on a research of Online Dating & Relationships, Smith and Duggan stated that the ways of finding partners have been changed with the times. In the past, people used matchmaking, arranged marriages and printed personal ads. With the rapid technology advancement, there are alternative methods - online dating sites and smart phone dating apps. To compare with the people who date traditionally, people who date online are active to choose their dream man or woman by browsing the others profiles (9).
In the twenty-first century, we use the internet for almost everything that we do. We use search engines such as Bing or Google to find information. Websites like Netflix and Hulu allow us to watch shows and movies without an expensive cable or satellite subscription. Social networks provide a new way to communicate with friends and family. Entire companies are run through the internet. With gas prices rising every day, it has also become increasingly popular to see a lot of jobs turn to telecommuting. It’s only natural that as other aspects of our lives conform to the internet, that online dating should also begin to be more prevalent in how we form new romantic relationships. Online dating is the new normal, and this is more evident now than ever.
People in society today can find potential sex partners in a heartbeat. In Nancy Jo Sales’ article “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse,’” she talks about how powerful the Internet and dating applications can be in helping one find potential partners. Jo Sales argues that dating applications and the Internet are not generally used for dating, but they are used for finding instant sex partners that lead to one-night stands. Short-term relationships are increasing due to the Internet and applications and will continue to increase in the future. Scholars have argued that sexual activity has tremendously increased, moving from traditional dating to a new style of dating called hookups. Also, research indicates numerous examples
Dating nowadays has evolved into something similar to a math equation. Technology has changed society and culture so much in the 21st century that something which did not seem normal probably 30 years ago seems mundane now: meeting people via computer. In order to find the most compatible person, suddenly people are not able to find “the one” and need the help of a computer to tell them who their personality matches with, causing many people to not develop proper social skills along with confidence. People have different relationship goals which they wish to achieve, be it through either traditional or online dating. Although traditional and online dating have many similarities, at the same time they are very different when it comes to the
With technology advances steadily in today’s society, individuals steadily advance too. One of these aspects includes dating. Individuals in today’s society hope to find companionship through online dating websites so that someday some online daters might be able to find a companion. With websites like eHarmony, Match, Christian Mingle, OkCupid, Black People Meet, and JDate, finding the one seems to be easier and more convenient than ever. Most of these websites even display statistics showing that one out of five relationships start online. The questions that should be asked, is this a better and safer option than looking for the one in person? Individuals tend to ignore the possible risks involving online dating. They are willing to release personal information from pictures of oneself, to locations of where they work, or live just for the possibility of finding a companion. The online users have to ask themselves: is the risk worth it in the end, or does the benefit outweighs the cost? When searching for a companionship through online dating websites, negative aspects such as profiles, self-presentation, self-disclosure, predators and sexual mishaps, may outweigh the positive aspects and cause more problems and strife then actual good.
The article “Love Via The Internet”[3]. The writer started the article by showing her own opinion clearly about the long distance relationships through the dating websites “I'm having doubts about a long-distance relationship that started through a dating site.”[3]. Then she started to give an example of a relationship via the...
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