With the new world of technology, Helicopter parenting is easier for the parents of developing teens. In some cases the parents take things to the extreme and the children become very sheltered and depressed. Aubrey Ireland is one of many young adults with helicopter parents. She was a senior in college and her parents would constantly drive over 600 miles to “surprise” her. They also had tracking devices on all her electronics and made her keep her Skype open while she was asleep so they could make sure she was ok while she was sleeping.("Helicopter Parenting Has Gone Too Far.") When parenting is taken as far as the case with Aubrey, there is no turning back for the parent. These parents are not intending to harm their children, but over time it is not helping them at all. The hovering must stop! The act of hovering over their children is revealing many complications in young adults by: shielding their kids from reality, weakening our society's future, and causing teen depression.
But what is a helicopter parent? “The hyper-involvement of today's "helicopter parents," a term coined by university administrators to refer to those who hover over their young adult offspring and hinder their maturation.” (Magruder 4) The term Helicopter parent is frowned upon, especially among college professors. No parent wants to be called a Helicopter parent, but there are some out there and the term is not used as a compliment. . Most people refer to the parenting style as “hovering” or exuding control over their children. (Oglesby sect. 8) Helicopter parents believe that this world is too competitive; also, as a parent, feels they must do things for their child.
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Pamela Paul is a primary source because she learned the hard way & she has witnessed Helicopter Parenting.
In the article “Helicopter Parents Now Hover at the Office,” The Wall Street Journal columnist Sue Shellenbarger reveals that some parents have begun to involve themselves into their adult children’s job search. Shellenbarger explains that many parent have a hard time watching their child struggle since they have taken part in their daily lives for so long. She then describes that some children do not appreciate the hovering of their parents because the hovering prevents them from developing self independence.
Cutright, Marc. "From Helicopter Parent to Valued Partner: Shaping the Parental Relationship for Student Success." New Directions for Higher Education Winter 2008: 39-48. Psychology and Behavioral Sciences Collection. Web. 11 Nov. 2013.
While her argument is strong in bringing valuable date of college students into place, there is no specific statistic on how many parents hover over their children; in fact, there might not be any way to measure how many parents are “helicopter parents.” There is a spectrum in Sociology that ranges from being permissive, authoritative, or authoritarian. A permissive parent is defined as being “nondemanding and noncontrolling” (University of New Hampshire). An authoritative is defined as being both “demanding and controlling, but they are also warm and receptive to their children’s needs.” while an authoritarian is considered to be “demanding and highly controlling, but detached and unreceptive to their children’s needs” (UNH). From Lythcott-Haims’ discussion about the girl having her father control her life including her major in economics, her father would probably be described as an authoritarian parent with him not letting her make her decisions. Even though this spectrum may bring a better idea on what kinds of parents are, it still doesn’t show numbers on how many parents fall into each category and that may because of how difficult it would be to fall into one parent style when it’s possible to fall in the middle of certain categories. Because of this, the number of helicopter parents might not be
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According to Stephanie Coontz relationships between parents and teenagers have become more troubled because society is failing to prepare young people for the demands of today's adulthood. Young people suffer from "rolelessness" as a result of the historical extend of adolescence, with puberty coming earlier and full adulthood coming later. The problem with rolelessness has become harder for the newer generations in my opinion, kids nowadays need that role model/mother-father figure because they are easily influenced by their surroundings. Rolelessness has become a risk among the young.
Learning to lead our children in an environment where they grow up every day is a better decision. One of the most difficult things for parents is to give independence to their own children because we do not understand their need for that. In contrast, teenagers have to lean their hand that overprotection is one dad decision for example puttie caballero, even though knight’s twin daughter, symphony and kymberlee age 19 and attending college, knight remain deeply involved in their day to day lives. She goes shopping with them. She gives them advice about their relationships.”
This is because helicopter parenting can come in different styles depending on many different facets. For example, some cultures put greater stress on academics, while others focus more on athletics. For the terms of this study, we will look to identify students of academic related helicopter parenting. General definitions describe helicopter parenting as people who are overly involved in a child’s life, and/or decision making of the child (Hightower, 2014). More elaborate definitions expand on this and touch on specific facets of helicopter parenting. Helicopter parenting is someone who is overly involved in their child’s academic experiences (Hiltz, 2015). Helicopter parents are vocal in their child’s education, and tend to volunteer at many school functions. Helicopter parenting of college or professional age individuals occurs, when the parental figure is in charge of managing their day to day activities (Manos, 2009). This includes aspects of their lives, such as class scheduling, and job searches. From these definitions, we can articulate a more whole definition of helicopter parents that accurately represents are topic of interest. Helicopter parenting occurs when parents or guardians are overly active in their child’s educational accomplishments, failures, and
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
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As termed from an encyclopedia article on parenting, helicopter parenting is an expression used in the media to express contempt or disapproval of parents. Helicopter parents simply watch over, or hover over their children and lead them from a better view to give advice. Helicopter parenting is not what it is depicted as; it is a style of parenting that creates a bond between parent and child that in most cases is beneficial in economic, social, and academic aspects of the child’s life.
When does helping become hovering? The generation of “Helicopter Parents” is becoming more and more prevalent in families. A helicopter parent is a guardian who hangs over the head of their college-age son or daughter. Helicopter parents typically do whatever is necessary to lead their child to success. This controversy has many suggesting it is actually making a positive impact on the next generation, some think not.
noble, kenneth. "THE NATION; PRO & CON: HOW MUCH GOVERNMENT SHOULD DO FOR PARENTS." New York Times 1 may 1988, Print.
In America, the society runs on what teenagers want. From Nicki Minaj to the junior section at Sears, most of what the people see, hear, or touch is aimed at the teenagers. Being an adolescent is probably the most exciting and most popular time period in a person’s life. The teens seem to have it all, but what about the parents who raise them? The parents of the teenagers never get any credit during this time period, although they have every right to. Parents and teenagers should strive for a strong, lasting relationship for these years, though most times there isn’t one. The relationship between teenagers and parents is the most vital bond in the family because this relationship should and will prepare them for the next step in life.
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