Zoe Hicks is a licensed psychotherapist for the ‘love and relationship’ website YourTango.com, who recently published an article on, psychology website, Psych Central. She said there are five stages of intimacy: Infatuation, Landing, Burying, Resurfacing, and Love. She also states that, similarly to the Kübler-Ross model of grief, these stages might not happen in the same order, but “the intensity, the dullness, the gains, and the loss all mirror one another” (Hicks, 2013). The first stage is Infatuation; during this stage we become almost obsessive over this new person and relationship in our life. In addition, our dopamine levels increase, causing a full body euphoria, which leads to seeking out sex, but this stage does not last forever because one cannot last that long with euphoria like that. Which leads to the second stage: Landing. Landing is the stage in which you start to see things more clearly, and you notice little things that bother you, almost as if the hazy sheet of infatuation had been lifted. The end of this stage can either be “light and sweet” or “rocky and discombobulating” (Hicks, 2013). Burying is the third stage, and it is when the lives of each person in the relationship steps into the relationship. This stage is not always bad, Hicks says, “It’s a sign that the relationship is real and weaves into your everyday existence” (2013). The fourth stage is Resurfacing, this is the stage where the passion and excitement is restored. This can be brought on by a lot of things, but the easiest to understand and explain is, as a couple, solving a massive problem you two have been having. The final stage is, of course, Love. In this stage, the feeling of “I have it good” (relationship wise) rolls in, and th...
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...s a species, are capable of forming so many different types of relationships, even though this article does not cover that specific issue, I was able to us my textbook to determine what prepares us for intimate relationships. This article and the textbook helped me understand how development influences our ability to form intimate relationships. In the future, I would like to learn more about how different intimate relationships between animals form, and if there is a gene linked to the trait that allows us to form lifelong intimacy.
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Interpersonal relationships can take many forms and develop from multiple different factors. For example, Pat Solitano and Tiffany Maxwell, two characters from the movie Silver Linings Playbook, seem to have developed consummate love – a combination of all three factors in Sternberg’s triangle of love theory, which are passion, intimacy, and commitment (Aronson, p. 390-91). Their relationship developed over the course of the movie, starting from a little passion or physical attractiveness, growing into a somewhat dysfunctional form of an exchange relationship with hints of jealousy as well as self-disclosure, into the consummate love that is seen at the end of the movie. The two characters start to develop intimacy, passion, and commitment
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While this may sign may be difficult to reconcile in the context of fears of intimacy, it makes perfect sense.Relationship addicts by definition cling to the newness of a given romance during the honeymoon period. Once that period ends however, they often move on to someone new to replicate the feelings and emotions experienced during the previous relationship. It is the “high” of the honeymoon that causes them to jump from one dating experience or relationship experience to another.” I have met so many people in my life that are like this. They can have three relationships in a span of six months and I always thought it was absolutely ridiculous. Doing this research paper has helped me to figure out why these friends of mine do these certain
Intimacy Intimacy is often defined as arising from a close acquaintance, association, or familiarity. This definition would definitely describe the relationship I have with my sister, Catherine. We share just about everything that goes on in our lives and know each other from the back of our hands. We are so close, in fact, that rarely do we hear what another is feeling before we already know. We can tell each other's mood by the body language we use.
Rosenthal, D. A., Gurney, R. M., & Moore, S. M. (1981). From trust on intimacy: A new inventory for examining Erikson’s stages of psychosocial development. Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 10(6), 525-537.
Researcher Mark Knapp is best-known for describing and developing a 10 step model of relational stages, it explains how relationships come together and how they come apart (Alder, pg 287). I decided to take one of my past relationships with an ex-boyfriend of mine through Mark Knapp's relational stages model. I will be referring to my ex-boyfriend as Johnny throughout this paper.
David, P., (2014a, Winter Quarter). Stages of intimacy assessment. Class handout from Applied Couple Therapy. Antioch University Seattle.
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McKay, A. (n.d.). Intimacy versus Isolation Stage: Lesson, Examples, & Quiz. Retrieved April 6, 2014, from http://education-portal.com/academy/lesson/intimacy-versus-isolation-stage-lesson-examples-quiz.html#lesson
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All relationships have the stage of new love, but the companionate stage is what allows the relationship to last. The passion in a relationship starts and can affect what the relationship could turn into. Haidt quotes Ellen Berscheid and Elaine Walster, two social psychologists, as they explain passionate love as a “wildly emotional state in which tender and sexual feelings, elation and pain, anxiety and relief, altruism and jealousy coexist in a confusion of feelings” (124), while companionate love was also described by Berscheid and Walster as “affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined” (125). The main difference between the two types of love is, passionate love can, and most likely will, fade overtime; it does not evolve into companionate love. Passionate and companionate are two bases of love that develop at their own pace with no real r...
How does 'sexuality' come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life on a more general plane? In answering these questions, Anthony Giddens disputes many of the interpretations of the role of sexuality in our culture. The emergence of what he calls plastic sexuality, which is sexuality freed from its original relation of reproduction, is analyzed in terms of the long-term development of the modern social order and social influences of the last few decades. Giddens argues that the transformation of intimacy, in which women have played the major part, holds out the possibility of a society that is very traditional. "This book will appeal to a large general audience as well as being essential reading for those students in sociology and theory."(Manis 1)
“Most of our lives consist of socializing with others, beginning new relationships, and strengthening old ones. Love is all around us, embodied in three main categories. Each of these is experienced in a different way; each of these is approached in a different way (Lemon2x).” However, all of them share one common quality- they are not planned, unpredicted, and developed overtime. In addition, an intimate relationship is harder to develop. “Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other. Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability, and reciprocity (Wikipedia). A lot of people think intimacy is all about sex. Intimacy is connecting with someone of the same or different sex on levels that ignite sexual interactions. There are many possible reasons why some people are attracted to each other and form relationships. Some of these reasons are personality, physical looks, things in common, and differences. These three things are what a relationship is based upon, besides trust and other things such as attraction.
Richmond, Raymond Lloyd. “Sexuality and Love.” A Guide to Psychology and its Practice. 01 Mar. 2005. http://www.guidetopsychology.com/sex_love.htm#n4
This paper will discuss developing and maintaining relationships in relation to my own relationships with my family, friends, and boyfriend.