To be honest, the first time I read Fifty Shades of Grey, it was for the illicit sex. The second time was to process what I read. The third, fourth and fifth times was to delve deeper into Mr. Grey’s neurological and psychological impulses. Something about his mannerisms, and the way he interacted with others, spoke to me on a profound level. I know autism when I see it. For those not familiar with autism, Autism Speaks, the world’s leading autism science and advocacy organization, defines autism and autism spectrum disorder (ASD), as both general terms for a group of complex disorders of brain development. These disorders are characterized, in varying degrees (hence, a “Spectrum” that includes both low- and high-functioning individuals), by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and repetitive behaviors. "If he could read body language, he wouldn’t need the dreaded 'safe word' would he?" Appalled at my audacity to label everyone’s favorite Dom with autism? Let me assure you that autism isn’t a dirty or shameful thing in my household. Nor should it be in anyone’s household. Apple, Microsoft, Google, Facebook and the like wouldn’t be the standard-bearers they are today without having employees with autism and ASD. It's no surprise that the autism and ASD populations in tech hubs like Silicon Valley, California and Redmond, Washington have incredibly high autism populations. But, let’s get back to Mr. Grey and my autism theory. Based on the criteria and symptoms of autism and autism spectrum disorder, I hereby submit to you several examples of Mr. Grey’s autistic behaviors: Difficulty with social interactions and relationships Christian Grey… • Dislikes direct eye contact, and can’t read body language. If he could read body language, he wouldn’t need the dreaded “safe word” would he? • Is unable to make friends. Well, he does have one friend. But, only because she shares his predilection for pain. • Lacks empathy. He doesn’t understand why someone finds it overwhelming to receive expensive books, cars and computers. Truthfully, I don’t understand why someone would mind receiving these gifts, so let’s move on to another example… • Can only engage in a relationship if a person signs and adheres to a specific set of rules and regulations, which make him comfortable. He’s more rigid than one of his bamboo canes, apparently! Difficulty with verbal and non-verbal communication Christian Grey… • Had a speech delay until the age of 6. Children should babble by 12 months and speak words by 16 months. • Converses with people in a flat, abrupt, monosyllabic manner, and finds nothing wrong with that affect.
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Cohen, Patricia. "Discussing That Word That Prompts Either a Fist Pump or a Scowl." The New York Times 23 Jan. 2010: 1-2. Print.
18-22 months a two-word stage. 22-36 months the child is learning word modifications and rules for sentences. Age 3-7 or 8 years old mastering ASL
Humans have been communicating for thousands of years using nonverbal and non-written ways by giving specific gestures like, facial expressions, body movements and postures, eye contact, touch, and space between individuals. The way someone looks, moves, stands, and positions themselves tells the other person if your care, how closely you’re paying attention and tells them if you’ve been truthful. When your nonverbal communications match up with your subconscious actions, like the look on your face they increase trust, confidence, and rapport. But when they don’t, they can create pressure, suspicion, mistrust, and confusion.
What exactly is Autism? Well it is one of many mental conditions that affects precisely one in 110 kids in the U.S. More specifically, Autism is a developmental disability. In other
When we think about communication, we think about interactions. So what is your body language communicating to me? This are the words that Amy Cuddy a social physiologist, uses when she start up her talk about body language. Cuddy’s talk “how body language shapes who you are” explains how body language can identify how much power one is feeling just by observing someone’s body language. Amy Cuddy states that when one expands one is feeling power, and when the opposite is done which is shrinking one is feeling powerless.
Fifty shades of Grey currently makes the top of my favourites list. I first heard about Fifty Shades of Grey from a few close friends who couldn’t stop talking about Christian Grey’s impeccable looks, charming and bossy personality, and sexual abilities. After a lot of convincing, I read the book; I needed to understand why the book was so popular, and what about it intrigued millions of young girls and women. The first time I read it, I couldn’t stop- it was intriguing, enthralling, different, and realistic. It is the most sex driven and eroge...
To begin with, many people are concerned when others are judging their body language. In the TED talk, Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are by Amy Cuddy, the author points out how
...to grow and increase yearly, one can imagine the effect on society these rates already have, and can possibly have with continued growth. It will not be long before autism becomes the normal society. That is a concern will should all share as creatures of earth. All families that are faced with autism will find happiness with the life shared with an autistic individual. Sadly, these individuals face bullying, and social rejection. They deal with health care rejections, and limited services available into adulthood. A future unknown. Although these individuals are different, that doesn’t mean they are less. As humanity, we need to treat everyone as an equal part of this important reality we call existence. Autistic individuals are the quietest souls, but that may only be because we haven’t learned to pay attention. Autism speaks, so isn’t it time to listen (htt1)?
Nonverbal cues fall into two basic categories, nonverbal messages produced by the body or nonverbal messages produced by the broad setting (Tidwell). This paper will focus towards nonverbal messages produced by one’s body. Eye contact and posture are two of the most significant nonverbal cues that one can use to make or break a situation. Imagine a customer chatting with a sales agent discussing the perks of the item for purchase. If the sales person does not make eye contact with the customer or is constantly glancing away there is reasonable cause to assume that the customer is either going to feel as if the sales agent is shady or that the agent is otherwise preoccupied. This will lead the potential customer to feel non-important to the agent and the customer ma...
What is Autism? People are quick to label people as Autistic but very rarely understand what it means though they may nod their head and say "ohh makes sense". Autism - also know as ASD, Autism Spectrum Disorder- is a complex developmental disorder affecting primarily ones communication and social interaction skills. Meaning they have difficulties communicating effectively or even at all. They struggle in social setting and don 't typically excel in social games or activities.
From my point of view, I think that this book is reflect his true heart, Basil Hallward reflect his truly personality, Dorian Gray is the character that Oscar desire to be, and Lord Henry is show his image that look by the society.
Autism is a disorder characterized by significant problems in communication and social functioning. Autism is actually called Autism Spectrum Disorder and encompasses a broad range disabilities such as Asperger syndrome, Rett’s Syndrome, and Pervavasive Development Disorder (Dunlap & Fox, n.d.). There are also varying degrees of the disorder from low-functioning (no communication and no social interaction) to high-functioning (some communication and inappropriate but existent social skills.)
Body language reaches beyond the arenas of just what we are doing with our full, physical being. Eye contact and voice tone also play into body language, and we can often lose sight of how these pieces fit into the full puzzle. The inability to maintain eye contact with someone can convey a lack of respect or personal confidence or can be perceived as dishonesty (Reiman, 2008). The ability to maintain a low voice can also convey dominance and confidence.
Non-verbal communication doesn’t involve words, but is a powerful form of communication. The way your body language is tells the other party whether or not you are receiving their message or just listening. When your nonverbal behaviors align with the words you’re saying, they indicate to the person you are communicating with that you are trustworthy. When non-verbal behaviors do not align with your message it sends mixed signals on what you are trying to convey. When communicating in business it is imperative that you are conscious of your own body language and nonverbal cues as well as that of