Premarital Cohabitation is a rapidly growing phenomenon in our society today. Cohabitation is defined as two people living in the same household who are unrelated, and of the opposite sex (Kunz, 2012). There are many studies that state disadvantages to cohabitating, before marriage, but at the same time there are many studies stating little to no difference in cohabitating couples and couples who did not cohabitate before marriage.
There are quite of few different types of cohabitation before marriage that Kunz (2012) lists her book. A very common type is the “trail marriage,” the opportunity for couples to test out their compatibility in a long-term mindset. This is more typical of college students and graduates rather than that of people with high school diplomas or less (Copen, 2013). Another type that relates to trail marriage is the prelude to marriage cohabitation. This type of premarital cohabitation has the expectation of marriage; the couple is just testing out the relationship. Similar to that in the stage in marriage process cohabitation, this type of couple tend to achieve other opportunities in their lives before getting married. It is also common for this type of couple to have children before marriage.
Unlike the above listed premarital cohabitations, there are some couples who cohabitate without any intention of getting married. This type is call alternative to singlehood cohabitation, rather than being single these couples prefer to live together. Another cohabitation with no intention of getting married would be the alternative to marriage cohabitation. These couples generally have children and families; they just have a preference to not be married. Also there is in indistinguishable from marriage which are...
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...ht. Cohabitation with out intention of marriage is risky and probably full of emotional ups and downs that is not good for a persons overall health.
Although there has been a major change in attitude towards cohabitating before marriage, it is still a diverse issue with many sides to it. People either choose to focus on the positives of testing a marriage out before actually being married or focus on the negative effects such as divorce and depression.
Works Cited
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Gordon, A. (2012, August 19). The Potential Perils of Premarital Cohabitation and How to Avoid Them. Psychologytoday.com. Retrieved November 18, 2013
Kunz, J. (2012). THINK marriages and families, 2nd edition. Upper Saddle River, NJ: Pearson. Retrieved November 18, 2013.
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Bruce Wydick argued that, “cohabitation may be narrowly defined as an intimate sexual union between two unmarried partners who share the same living quarter for a sustained period of time’’ (2). In other words, people who want to experience what being in a relationship truly is, tend to live under one roof and be more familiar with one-another. Couples are on the right path to set a committed relationship where the discussion about marriage is considered as the next step. However, many people doubt the fact as to live or not together with their future partners. Some of them think about it as an effective way to have a chance to get to know a potential husband/spouse. Meanwhile, others completely deny the idea due to their disagreements with certain religious beliefs. Wydick suggested that, “the increase in premarital cohabitation is a product of a general movement within western society away from traditional ideas about marriage, divorce, birth control, abortion, women’s rights, and a host of other related issues” (4). Consequently, now people are more open-minded, meaning that they accept the idea of pre-cohabitation mainly as a social institution. People should live together before they get married because they have a chance to test their partnership and avoid the problems that may arise in the future.
There are many advantages and disadvantages in living together before marriage. Today there are many couples living together before marriage. Sometimes these kinds of relationships 'living together before marriage' end up with success and sometimes they are unsuccessful. Some of the advantages of living together before marriage are such as getting to know your partner, learning about one's abilities if he/she can satisfy your expectations and more. Also, there are some disadvantages in living together before marriage and they are such as religious and family values, parenting problems and more. I think there are more advantages then disadvantages in living together before marriage, because sometimes disadvantages in this kind of relationship are avoidable.
Everyone one has a different background weather it’s a matter of principles, religion, or culture. Marriage is a legal union between two people who promise to love and care for each other for life. There’s a big process that comes to play when you make a decision of marrying your significant other. In the generality of the marriage process everyone has I different perspective of getting to know our partners. The biggest of them all being, if living together before marriage is better than marriage first. My personal belief and principles are that marriage should come first before moving in with the person. You should be sure that your partner is the one you want to share life with, make sure that your comfortable around them enough to marry them, and that you prove you both have enough respect for each other to be sure that what you got is real enough to marry them before moving in.
The debate on whether to get married or stay single has been raging for a long while, with both sides of the coin having their own pros and cons regarding the matter. Many proponents of either marriage or single life have strong individual convictions, and it is difficult to reach a definitive objective conclusion. Is the married individual happier than his/her single counterpart, or is getting married just a comfort seeking ritual that people believe they have to fulfill at some point in their lives? It is necessary to dissect this issue in the light of four factors: health and other medical factors, the economic and finance front, mental and emotional wellbeing and lastly, the social factor.
Marriage is traditionally defined as a social institution uniting men and women in special forms of mutual dependence for the purpose of founding and maintaining families (Polomeno). At the age of 16, with parental consent, a majority of states will allow marriage. For the couples that marry between the ages of 14 and 17 years of age they are twice as likely to divorce as couples who wait until their twenties (Kecskes). Today the average age of first marriage is 27 for women and 29 for men, but fewer than 8% of women and 13% of men married for the first time at the age of 30 or older (Avins) (Pattern 1A). Couples who marry when they are 18, 19, and 20 tend to be blindsided by many problems that take place during marriage such as unemployment, abuse, unexpected pregnancy, in-laws, affairs and many more (Kecskes.) Youthful marriages are a higher risk factor to divorce instead of couples who wait till they are older because of low income, poverty, and cohabitation before marriage. Around two thirds of couples who marry today are already live together and are known to be less committed in marriage (Koontz).
The sudden socioeconomic transformation of the last century has substantially affected the tradition of marriage in modern society. Therefore, several alternatives to marriage have become available and grown to be more popular than marriage for today’s couples due to its suitability to current conditions. Some of these alternative statuses to marriage are cohabitation, divorce, or simply continuing to be single and this claim is supported through the findings of a recent study. The percentage of adults who are married has notably decreased from 1960 to 2008 by twenty percent (Pew Research Center). These statistics will not improve any time soon as “the average age at which men and women first marry is now the highest ever recorded” (Pew Research Center). These statistics may seem that society has lost a valuable part of life and the significance of two partners becoming one. However, from another perspective, it is a positive change in society where one or both partners do not lose their individuality and are equal, and are more accepting of other relationship choices.