Have you ever sat down and wondered what does a healthy love relationship provide for us as subjects? We recently discussed Kelly Oliver’s Family Values: Subjects Between Nature and Culture. Kelly Oliver “examines the ways in which nature and culture have been defined in relation to sexual difference, articulated as the difference between mother and father” (Oliver xi). The reality of relationships has been controverted by some philosophers and has been accredited to the idea that everything can be fulfilled from self-love. Kelly Oliver gives us a clear picture, through text, of all the possible aspects of life we can gain within a healthy love relationship by two or more individuals coming together. These types of relationships can be developed with family, friends, and lovers. I would like to take you readers on an enticing journey of what I as a philosophy student believe one can allegedly obtain from a structural relationship. We, as society, have a distinct definition of what a healthy love relationship is, but we as individuals have a mindset of values or important concepts that we put in a distinct order of how we feel a healthy relationship should progress. In this section, I will discuss what Oliver means by “social” and “embodied”. Before I get into Oliver I will begin by introducing readers to the broad definition of embodiment according to the dictionary, “embodiment can be an expression of or give a tangible or visible form to (an idea, quality, or feeling)”. We’ve just seen how society explains what embodiment is, but now I must go on to Oliver’s text. Oliver explains in her introduction that her philosophical work is explaining “ the opposition between nature and culture has been figured as a war between the sexes... ... middle of paper ... ...nd physically. The positive factors associated with social and embodied relationships can lead to a longer, happier, and healthier life. As one reflects on their social and embodied relationships they can interpret the positive results from those relationships in their daily lives. “There is no denying that the fantasy of the nuclear family is still a centerpiece of our cultural imaginary”(Oliver xvii).Without influential depictions of an embodied father and a social mother, the depictions of maternity and paternity in culture leave us with despondency images of isolation. Changing the stereotypes and portrayal of our culture is an essential step in changing our family situations. As we try to recreate family structures outside the limitations and unfeasible idea of the average nuclear family, we alter our representation of the possibility of love and of ourselves.
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
This is a book that tells the important story about the social significance and long-standing implications of fatherless families from a seldom heard point of view. The male siblings are linked by their struggles achieve peace with father and with the women in their lives as they move from adolescence adulthood. This text is filled with rich characterization and visual imagery.
Many couples in the United States idealize the myth of a “tradition family”. The idea that a woman can spend quality time with her child while maintaining an effective sexual life with her partner seemed to have caused a lot of stress during the 1950s. Coontz’s says “this hybrid idea drove thousands of women to therapists, tranquilizers, or alcohol when they tried to live up to it.” (Coontz, 569). Which explains that it is merely impossible to try to mold a family to be “ideal.” Many families still strive for a traditional life, which they define as life “back in the day.” They need to forget the past and start living in the 21st century. “Two-thirds of respondents to one national poll said they wanted more traditional standards of family life.”(Coontz, 582). Which goes to show that many families want to change to what once used to be perceived as an “ideal family” but “the same percentage of people rejected the idea that women should return to their traditional role.”(Coontz, 582). Families want to take bits and pieces from what used to be “traditional families” over time and create their own i...
Every one want a partner who take care and can do anything for his or her. Many times we see that people marry different person in respect due their culture, race, religion, age, etc., and people wonder that why they marry or be in relationship with different person. This thing has been explained in this article Mixed relationship offers diversity by Holly Nall. She presents her point of view mainly in pathos but also some part of logos and ethos .This is merely considerable as wanted reader to think deeply about society and marriages.
If we take a minute to explore Urie Bronfenbrenner’s Human Ecological Theory, we can see that the intricacies of family are deeply imbedded in the center of the Microsystem around which, all other systems stem. The Microsystem is the underpinning of the Chronosystem, the way in which environmental effects develop over time; also the way transitions, such as divorce, affect the individual’s growth and development (nacce.org). The nuclear family, consisting of he father, mother and at least one child (Sigelman & Rider 2009) is not always what we think about when the topic comes to family. In today’s world, with divorce and remarriages, there has been a shift in how we as a society define family. It has become more per...
A developed relationship can be interpreted as one where the couple is interdependent, tolerant, and dedicated. Equity allows a relationship to efficiently develop in this manner. Judith Viorst illustrates a poem depicting a couple’s struggles and their sacrifices for the other in “True Love”. In many points of the poem, the couple is compromising for the other’s flaws in order to avoid unnecessary conflicts. “I do not resent watching the Green Bay Packers / Even though I am philosophically opposed to football” (Stanza 1) is an example of the wife forcing herself
Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
Families are becoming more diverse and they come in all shapes and sizes. Some people consider families to be strictly biological, while others consider people they love to be their family. Although two-parent families, also known as a nuclear family are the majority, one-parent families are becoming more common in today’s society. A sole-parent is considered to be a parent without a partner or spouse who is the primary care giver of one or more children in a household (Ministry of Social Development, 2010). From the age of 14 onward I was raised by m...
One of the micro perspectives is Lee’s styles of love, which was created by John Lee after interviewing several heterosexual men and women and reading romantic works of fiction and nonfiction. Lee’s perspective breaks love down into six separate categories. Relationships may be based on one or more of the following categories. The first is Eros, which is passionate love. The second is Storge, where we find mutual love, trust, respect and companionship. The next in Lee’s categories is Pragma, practical and sensible love. Ludus is the fourth category and it contains playful, casual, and carefree love. The fifth category, Agape is love that is kind, altruistic, and patient. The last of Lee’s categories is Mania, the type of love that is obsessive, intense, and possessive. The majority of relationships contain aspects of more than one category and the types of love we have can change over time and with different types of relationships. In Lee’s categories we can also see aspects of the types of attachments formed as babies. It is possible that those that fall in to the Mania category had anxious-ambivalent attachments to their
The American family model traditionally included the mother and father with two kids, a boy and girl. In this 1950’s family model the husband is seen as the breadwinner while the mother is the homemaker. This model is exemplified in the Battleship advertisement where the father is resting from a hard day’s by work playing a board game with his son. At the same time the mother is doing the days dishes with some help drying from her daughter. Today however, these rigid stereotypical roles are no longer applicable to the members of the modern family. With increases in divorce rates and teen pregnancy combined with the shift in economic roles of the majority of families, the traditional nuclear family is a minority (Wetzel, 1990). The JCPenny
Robert Nozick’s Love’s Bond is a clear summary of components, goals, challenges, and limitations of romantic love. Nozick gives a description of love as having your wellbeing linked with that of someone and something you love. I agree with ideas that Nozick has explained concerning the definition of love, but individuals have their meaning of love. Every individual has a remarkable thing that will bring happiness and contentment in their lives. While sometimes it is hard to practice unconditional love, couples should love unconditionally because it is a true love that is more than infatuation and overcomes minor character flaw.
Relationships is one of those words that people use all the time but have troubling defining. There are many ways how we for relationships such as appearance, similarity, complementarily, and proximity with these formation it does help a relationship grow while it is a lesson to learn or not. In this paper, I will be talking about three people that I have a relationship with and a theory to combine it with. The first person will be my mother Grace Pagan and with her I will be talking about my Johari Window paper and the social exchange theory. The second person will be my ex fiancé Tony and with him I will be talking about my conflict paper and the Knapp theory. The last person will be my father Tito Pagan and with him I will be talking about
My motivation to research, discover, and stimulate social change is rooted in my childhood experiences. As a young child I grew up in a household filled with domestic violence, which ultimately ended with the suicide of my father. I subsequently came to know a variation of the typical American nuclear family: a single parent household. As I began to study family dynamics further, I was able to see my life experiences in a broader context. In hindsight, I now realize the impact and weight my own mother had on my personal development. It was through her strength, determination, and optimism that I was able to find the spark within myself to set goals and dreams for my future. She encouraged me never to accept anything at face value, including the way our society attempts to define my womanhood. As a result of this, I now question American culture’s classification of a ‘successful’ family and the factors that determine a ‘stable’ family.
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Some people believe that there is no such thing as “true love” they believe that love is nothing but an illusion designed by social expectations. These people believe that love ultimately turns into pain and despair. This idea in some ways is true. Love is not eternal it will come to an end one way or another, but the aspect that separates true love from illusion, is the way love ends. “True Love” is much too powerful to be destroyed by Human imperfection; it may only be destroyed by a force equal to the power of love. Diotima believed that “Love is wanting to posses the good forever” In other words love is the desire to be immortal and the only way that we are able to obtain immortality is through reproduction, and since the act of reproduction is a form of sexual love, then sexual love is in fact a vital part of “True love”. Sexual love is not eternal. This lust for pleasure will soon fade, but the part of love that is immortal, is a plutonic love. You can relate this theory to the birth of love that Diotima talks about. She says that love was born by a mortal mother and immortal father. The mother represents the sexual love, the lust for pleasure. The father represents the plutonic love that is immortal. Plutonic love is defined as a true friendship, the purest of all relationships. A true plutonic love will never die; it transcends time, space, and even death.