From Biblical times to our present day, we as parents have tried to direct our children into the right path to become better for them and better for their future. Many different ways of disciplining children have been used to guide children in the path their parents want them to go down behaviorally. The styles of discipline have changed throughout history, but the reasons why have not changed. We still want our children to obey the rules we set as a parent or the rules set by our society.
The Bible talks about discipline but we might not see it in the sense of disciplining our children but should be used in that way. Hebrews 12:1-11 talks about how God disciplined his children. The person who wrote the book of Hebrews states in verse 4 “In your struggle against sin, you have not yet resisted to the point of shedding your blood”. This can be seen to mean that no matter what point you believe you are in life, you are never too old to be disciplined. The most important verses to me on this subject are verses 7 and 8. “Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all.” These verses show a point that discipline is a parent or adults form of love. When we discipline our child in a loving way that is consistent and with a proper attitude, we are expressing the type of love that God would show us. When we do discipline our children, it can be tough for them and ourselves, but the outcome is much greater than the temporary pain we might feel. But in the end it is a selfless and compassionate thing that will set our children up for a fruitful...
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...come adults they will want the special praise for everything that they do. This should not be confused with rewarding your child’s effort and not just accomplishments. When you have a child who had been struggling in school and brought home a report card that had improved grades, not perfect grades but better than they had, the child should be rewarded appropriately. But if the child brings home a report card that was lower than their normal grades then they should be corrected about their grades.
Raising children in our society where so many different types of discipline are shunned. It is hard to make sure that you are making the right decisions while raising your children. We can look at what type of child we have and then base their punishment off of their temperament. There is not a one size fits all on children or the type of discipline they should receive.
Not too long ago, disciplining children was much simpler. It was a time when children actually listened to and respected their parents. It was the time of “Do what I say.” But today, child discipline is one
...orce the good behaviour with rewards and decrease the likelihood of negative behaviour being repeated. The structured discipline of both parents and teachers help the child to appreciate that good behaviour is much more beneficial than bad behaviour but without this structure in one or both of these settings, could lead to the child not understanding, leading to it being much more difficult to correct behaviour that isn't wanted without resorting to drastic measures of physical or psychological punishment that would do more harm than good. Further research into helping the children in these sort of circumstances would be much more beneficial to the topic of child behaviour and punishment.
Punish them with the rod and save them from death”. Basically, the Bible teaches us that if we start off discipline children correctly we can save them from death and harsh punishment of the criminal justice system. This scripture clearly promotes physical discipline and the importance of discipline, it is something that society must have in order to be productive people hence, it is much easier learned when young. Few juveniles that was not disciplined well have grown up to be rebellious, have no respect for authority, and find it difficult to obey and follow God’s commands. God uses punishment and discipline to correct us and guide us down a righteous path he also encourage us to repent for our wrong actions.
“A positive self concept is desirable for a child's personal development” (Brendan 14). This can cause children to feel like they are grouped off into different achievement categories and want to withdraw from academic activities. Grading can severely affect a child emotionally, so giving them out should be a second
Each parent is different; they all have different ways in parenting and disciplining their children. One’s own parenting style is usually derived from the way one was raised or the society one lives in. Parenting styles include authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive, and it is very important to know which style one falls in because it can have an effect on how one’s child grows up to be and develops. Authoritative parenting would be the better parenting style because it is in the middle of the parenting styles; it is not at the extreme ends of the spectrum. It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come.
It can be said for most parents that they want their children to grow up to be successful contributing members of society. Being a parent is a difficult, yet rewarding task. But why do some types of parenting result in juvenile delinquency while others find success. There are four generally recognized parenting styles and are categorized: authoritarian, permissive, neglectful, and authoritative. This essay will break down the various styles, its type(s) of discipline and effectiveness.
So, therefore, parents must be advised to spend as much time with their children. Parents must set rules and reinforce discipline. Discipline includes teaching on how to handle anger to avoid a physical altercation with other children. It is imperative for parents to encourage and reward good behavior. Meals and playtime must be done together as often as possible.
Children thrive on praise. Praise must be specific and sincere to have a positive effect. It's not necessary for parents, teachers, or peers to wait until their children do something exceptional to provide praise. Praising an everyday event like getting ready for school on time is enough. What's important is that people should focus on the positive things their children do instead of on the negatives. Children need to be shown love and affection through both words and physical actions. Parents should tell their children often that they love them and think they're special. Some parents call their children names and/or belittle them when they are angry. Teachers send children to the principal’s office and their friends either fight children or ignore them. Such methods can have a negative effect on children's self-esteem. Not only that but media too can have a negative effect on a children’s self-esteem. Parents better hope that their children are expose to people who will boost his/her self-esteem.
It is up to the parents to decide how they want to discipline their child. Major influences on how to discipline a child come from the media, friends, elders, and even books. Most parents choose their method of discipline based on how they were raised as a child. In most cases, it all depends on the ethnicity and culture you were born into. According to Child Rearing Practices in Different Cultures, some cultures believe that the father should be the sole disciplinarian, others believe that the role should be shared equally between the mother and father (Everydaylife.com).
One of the most critical aspects of raising a child is the way they are disciplined. Disciplining a child starts early in their life and how it is done sets an example for them of how to respond to undesirable behaviors. Everyone’s parenting style differs, but the majority fall into four major categories: Authoritarian, Authoritative, Neglectful, and Indulgent. Electing a parenting style is hard and in most cases, the chosen or natural parenting style is based on the effects of the parenting style the parent experienced when they were young.
“Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” (Proverbs 13; 24, New International Version)
For instance, parents need to feel in control and see their form of discipline is taking effect that exact moment. However, if adults focus on results rather than addressing the issue, they are ultimately setting their children up for failure. “Punishment usually stops misbehavior immediately, however, the long-term results are negative because we are often fooled by immediate results” (Nelson, 13). Furthermore, this could be the reason why punishment is so popular amongst parents because it’s almost immediate response to misbehavior and the authoritative power it holds. According to Nelson, punishment is used by adults because it’s easier, they know how to punish, or do not know what else to do. (22). As a society, people usually take the easiest alternative to accomplish a task but it may not always be the better, smarter, or more efficient alternative. Furthermore, when people do not know what to do, they stick to what they do know. However, parents need to think of the long-term consequences and take the time, effort and skills to use effective discipline. (22).
Have you ever just thought what the heck are my parents thinking, there is no way I'm listening to them? I know I have and I think you probably have to. Its because our parents aren’t always right. There are always those times when your parents are going to be wrong, I mean they're only human. And sometime you're not gonna want to obey them, even though most of the time you should listen. And there are many reasons for that and I’m sure you could think of more but here are the ones I got from Romeo and Juliet. There are three main reasons I can think of for why you shouldn’t obey your parents; if they want you to do something that could cause harm to you, if they ask you to do something that you are unable to do, or if they want you to follow a plan or something that they want you to do not something that would make you happy.
In a mindset of a parent, he or she plans to educate their child to face the real world. Parents do the best they can to educate their children. Morals and responsibility are well established in the childhood of a person due to the discipline and role modeling of a parent. The disciplining of the children is mainly the responsibility of the parent. The role modeling of parents greatly establishes the morality of a child. An example of a role model of the parents are people who set examples that are imitated. Basically meaning monkey see, monkey do. If a child sees their parent doing good things, they will then do good things. The same principles go for discipline. Discipline is the practice of training people to obey rules or to punish someone due to disobedience. Children must be responsible for accepting the rules of the parents
That also affects the child academic performance as well. Another example Seltzer mentions was corporal punishment leads to increased aggression, which in this case the child is disruptive or destructive in different setting like school and other occasions. Moreover, the child later on in life is correlated with drugs and alcohol abused. In the ending of the article, Seltzer discusses that non-corporal forms of punishment are not the answer either. If the child is still given aggressive response, rather its manipulating, yelling, reprimanding, threatening or verbal reactions to the children’s misbehavior, it can have a significant negative consequence on the child’s mental and emotional development. Seltzer gives ways for a parent to use less negative response when approaching a child bad behavior, for example; more respectful of the child in letting them know in advance which specific behavior that is bad to do, carried out unemotionally and finally, more appropriate with the unacceptable behavior. Even though these are still punishment, however the child will receive the message that these performances are not wrong but