In today’s society, school has been looked at to be a form of child day-care. In school is seen as a learning environment and parents want to their child to be exposed to driven instruction to get maximum results of a fine education. In reading I found the Chinese mothers to be superior in their child’s education and performances. Failure is not an option and anything less than their child’s best must be focused upon and perfected. With determination, strictness, and parental involvement, we find that these types of children receive the most out of their education. It is most intriguing to take a closer look at the strategies and the intellectual expectations of Chinese mothers from their children. As for Western parents their standards are not as strict, they may be high but not as high as the Chinese mothers. Western parents are more worried about their child’s self esteem and if the hurt there feeling or not. As far as the Chinese mothers’ ways of parenting being an effective way of parenting, I would have to say that it may be it is. I don’t think that I would take it to the extreme like they do, but also something determination is the key to success.
The Chinese mothers’ ways of parenting may be effective, because it will teach them discipline and it will make their children strive for greater success and to never settle for anything less then what they are capable of. I would have to say that grades are important in a young child education, and they ways the Chinese mothers’ discipline may be what’s best for them, because after all practice does make perfect. But as far as their social life, there ways of parenting may just be too much. The children should be able to choose what instrument or sport they want to play. I...
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...reparing them for an increasingly competitive world. Against this background, Prof. Chua attracts much attention by advocating a so-called “Chinese style,” in which parents play the role of enlightened rulers. Parents keep their children’s best interests in mind, and work hard to promote their interest, sometimes against their wishes. This style may make children disciplined, knowledgeable and marketable, but may ignore or hurt children’s feelings, and suppress their freedom and creativity.
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Sun, Y. (2011). Balancing freedom with discipline. Room for Debate, Retrieved from http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2011/01/13/is-extreme-parenting-effective/balancing-freedom-with-discipline
Amy Chua believes that Chinese mothers are more superior than any other mothers because they raise such stereotypical successful kids. In her document “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” I believe that she does a great job of explaining why she believes they are more superior. Amy Chua uses examples, facts, and emotional connections to provide information to the reader about why Chinese mothers are superior. Rhetorical appeals can be defined as three elements that are used in the art of persuasion. They are logos, ethos, and pathos. In the article “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” Amy Chua I believe that the rhetorical appeals that Amy Chua uses are effective in informing the reader about Chinese parenting over Western Parenting.
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The author, Amy Chua, portrays her opinionated argument that Chinese children are more Why Chinese Mothers are Superior Why Chinese Mothers are Superior successful because of the way they are brought up in her article, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior (2011)”. This theme is important because it compares and contrasts the tactics of Chinese mothers to Western mothers to strive for their children to be successful. This paper describes the three key arguments Chau (2011) ties into Ed124 and why Chinese parents act the way they do towards their children.
She gives good reasonings as to why parents are so strict to their children. Chinese parents what to see their children to succeed and make them proud. Chua makes it easy for the reader to connect with the article by sharing her personal story. For example, Chua talks about her daughter and how she forced her daughter to learn how to play the song “ The Little White Donkey” on the piano. They fought for hours about whether she could play it or not but Chua’s daughter finally got the hang of it and played it in her school’s talent show. Parents came up to Chua and told her that the song was perfect for her daughter and that they were very impressed with how well she played
Chua believes that Chinese parents force their children to be academically successful in order to reach “higher” goals in life. She emphasizes this when she states “…Chinese parents have … higher dreams for their children…” (Chua 8). Although Amy set higher s...
Chao, R. K. (1994). Beyond parental control and authoritarian parenting style: Understanding chinese parenting through the cultural notion of training. Society for Research in Child Development, 65(4), 1111-1119.
As there are many different types of people, different standard of success are existing. High education level could be one of the standards of success for someone and excellent reputation could be other standards. Patriarchal period, which dominated by religion such as Christianity or Catholic, people taught various elements for success in life including morality and ethics. However, Capitalism and its market only focus on property and money so the visible wealthy becomes the only one important element for success. In fact, Hochschild illustrates the study which proves the changing of people’s preference in life. According to Hochschild, “between 1975 and 1991, the role of family in people’s idea of “the good life” declined while the importance of having money increased” (187). In this study, it is proved that having a lot of money is more important than family for the quality of life. In other words, people might be satisfied when they become rich in terms of the successful life. The money is not only productive conclusion for success, but capitalism forces to make people think in this way. For instance, Chua indicates the Chinese parents’ parenting style which might be great example how the capitalism takes important role in family and how it represents in parenting. In Chua’s article, she claims that “the Chinese believe that the best way to protect their children is by preparing them for the future […]” (56). Because of this reason, Chinese parents requires their children to get perfect grades and they cannot accept A minus or B as a children’s academic result. For Chinese parents, having excellent skill might be able to lead their children to successful life in the future. In the view of capitalism, Chinese parents’ parenting styles seems based on capitalism market system. Capitalism market system divide only ‘useful’ and ‘useless’ and its influences
This view makes children feel like an instrument, rather than a loved human being. Children don 't choose their parents, let alone choose to be born. Kids do not owe their parents, and if anything, the parents owe their kids everything. Parents should not choose the routes that their kids go in life, but rather influence it keeping in mind their child 's desires and passions. It isn 't that Chinese parents don 't love their kids, instead it is quite the opposite. They love them so much that they feel that have to do everything for them to guide them in the right direction by making all the decisions for them. This a form of "authoritarian parenting." This means parents establish rules that must be followed with no exceptions. Authoritarian parenting comes with forceful measures which "may result in children who are unhappy, have a large gap in social skills and often have low self-esteem" (parentingabout.net). This shows that Amy Chua 's form of authoritarian parenting as a tiger mom can have major long term effects on her
Parsasirat, Z., Montazeri, M., Yusooff, F., Subhi, N., & Nen, S. (2013). The Most Effective Kinds of Parents on Children’s Academic Achievement. Asian Social Science, 9(13), p229.
Parenting in today’s society is extremely competitive. Raising children has become the new sport interest to the parents, and the success that the kids achieve in life is the gold medal. You see the articles in magazines, the websites online, and the ads on TV that promote the newest and greatest parenting methods used by mothers and father everywhere. The differences we see in parenting can differ from family to family, but the biggest contrast is between the different ethnicities of the world. How a Western mother raises her child may be completely different than that of a Chinese mother. These differences are the ones that are observed by author Amy Chua, as well as mothers who have read her works of literature.
Though both Asian parents and Asian children deal with extreme pressure, for the child’s academic success, the pressure is different for the child. For example, Amy Chua in “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” states, “…if children do not excel at school then there was “a problem” and parents “were not doing their job” (411). The parent has extreme
“Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” is an excerpt from Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua, a Yale Law professor. In this excerpt the author explains why Chinese children tend to be more successful in life and expresses her dislike towards Western parenting. The first idea Chua explains is a list of activities her daughters are allowed to do and not do in order to focus solely on academic progress. Second, the author demonstrates the contrast in mindset between Chinese mothers and Western mothers by explaining how Chinese mothers feel differently than Western mothers in regards to academic success and learning. Furthermore, she describes how Chinese mothers can demand things from their children. Finally, they can also say
In today’s society, the fixed model for ordinary Chinese student is working hard on their study since very young to be admitted by better primary school, middle school and high school and then, they would get high marks in Gaokao, which is a kind of exam like ACT, to enter some best universities to get a well-paid job in the future. As the fierce competition in China, parents ask their children to put 100% energy in study and they usually think working part-time would decrease school success because of less study time. Gwen (2012) notes most of Chinese parents are more strict in study than American parents. They push their children to study, practice more and get achievement and give children enough financial support. Furthermore, many Chinese students think doing extra part-time job would make them feel more stressful because most of them are forced to go institutions to have extra classes at the weekend. As a result, many Chinese people do not have positive attitudes toward students working
The parents alone decided how to raise the child, what the cultural norms are, what pressures to put on the child, and how they want to be when they grow up. For example, in China toddles are selected by state run sports schools. The parents of these children can decide to send their one and only child off to these sport training boarding schools, where they undergo years of grueling training. But to these parent this is the best way to raise their child, because they have a slim chance of bringing honor to their family and to China and can have more opportunities for a successful career (Taboo). As the earliest and most durable source of socialization, a child’s parents are the first people with whom he identifies, and they remain the strongest influence in his development. This overwhelming importance of parenting has led developmental psychologists to take an intense interest in parent/child interactions(George and Rajan, 99). A study of the relation between child inhibition and parenting styles(Canada vs. China) has shown that, child inhibition was associated with mothers ' positive attitudes toward the child, including acceptance, lack of punitiveness, and encouragement of achievement among Chinese participants and with punishment and overprotectiveness among Canadian participants. In another study done by Sonia George and Amar Rajan, thirteen variables (factors) were identified as factors of child-rearing, which constituted how parents bring up their children. The factors include acceptance, punishment, protectiveness, responsibility, responsiveness, reward, understanding, non-critical, permissiveness, encouragement, rapport, emotional stability, and patience(George Rajan 101). To generalize all thirteen, the variables include: acceptance/rejection, punishment/reward, and behavioral