Foreclosure is one of the hardest things that a person can be introduced to. It can make a person or break a person, but for me it made me so much stronger. I can truly say I have accomplished much more since getting out of a foreclosure scam at a very young age of 16. Throughout that hard time I just continued to not only motivate myself, but my mother because I understand getting something taken away from you that you have worked hard for can destroy a good person. This is what happened to my family and I, and what we did to overcome it.
April 1, 2007 we got the phone call stating we had finally been approved to move into our first family home after 13 years. We were so ecstatic that we immediately started packing that very night. The week before, we got the keys and walked around every day as a family praying on the steps of the home that we would be able to get it. That house was our dream come true and it was the first house I can remember living in. The first month of moving in we did nothing but pray about how thankful we were that we were able to not only afford the house but also be chosen as the owner…well renter. That is where our problems arose from. We did not own this beautiful house and because we were first home buyers we were put into a lease, to rent to own. Our lease stated after 2 years we would have paid the full amount for the house and would be able to own it. We did all the right things: paid all our bills on time, kept the house spotless, kept good talking grounds with the owner, and treated the house like it was ours. We planted flowers and trees and had the grass cut every 2 weeks. We loved that house and had nothing but high hopes. We felt as though we had just been given a new lease on life. 5 mont...
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...n mine, you don’t want to blame anyone for it. The best thing to do is to just look forward. And don’t hold grudges because holding grudges only hurts you. You are the person who has to remember you are holding a grudge not the person who helped you into the situation you are in. By holding a grudge you only give that person control over your mind.
You won’t always win getting your home back in your custody, but if you follow these directions above you will receive something even greater. Your family and you will have a stronger bond because you have accomplished working together. You will intertwine these steps into your everyday life making yourself a better person. My family and I lost that home but as one door closes another door opens. We were put on another path to a even better scam free home which we appreciate even more. And our bond is closer than ever.
Why is it that we as human beings feel the need to blame someone for every negative situation, which occurs? If we really look at the situation with any great depth, we may discover that an almost endless amount of things may be 'blamed' for the tragedy blaming an individual is pointless - only fate can really be blamed.
Life as we all know is full of disappointment and filled with disparity. Most of us are able to go through these and learn from and forgive ourselves. Yet, this isn’t always the case. People are faced with traumatic experiences that often take a long time to get over, if they ever do get over it. These experiences brew in our brain popping up at the most random points often bringing our spirits down. Although these experiences may scar us and fill us with regret and guilt, we can’t continue to live in the past and let these regrets haunt us. Self forgiveness is a key to healing and to moving on in life, no matter how hard it is.
We have lived with other families in their homes and as an effect, we have had to store our belongings in a storage. In 2010, we were unable to pay the monthly bill for the storage and our storage unit was sold in an auction; we lost all of our belongings. It had felt as if my parents and I had just immigrated to the United States – we had nothing to call ours. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, I saw this misfortune as a motivation to set long-term goals and I pledged to my parents that I would be college graduate to eschew living under the same circumstances during my
There is, I believe, no easy way to solve the foreclosure crisis. The reason for this is that the underlying problem is not merely the individual foreclosures. The underlying problem isn’t even all of the foreclosures as a whole which constitute the crisis. No, the real underlying problem is ultimately human greed. Consequently, the way to solve the foreclosure crisis, I believe, is not merely through some kind of “stimulus plan.” Yet, this matter shall be examined more thoroughly later.
At the end of my junior year of high school, I was on cloud 9 entering my senior year, getting my license, going to prom, and other school events. But as they say, everything great comes to an end and on May 4th My mom kicked me out over disagreeing with me on medical care choices. Throughout the next week, authorities and DCF got involved. By May 8th DCF sent me into emergency custody and removed from the family and home I had known and grown comfortable with for 17 years. I had scarcely any clothes or hygiene products. For the first night DCF placed into
I was an open and loving person who quickly became depressed and isolated. Even when my relationship with Owen’s dad had ended his attempts to manipulate me have not. The lying and thieving behavior continues and escalated initially after the
It all started when he threatened to take them away and never return. When he said this to me I didn’t know what to think or even how to act. I was young; I had very little experience and feared I would never see them again. All I knew with all my heart was court was going to happen and I will make
What can we do to remedy, you ask? Well we can start by thinking about what we do before we do it and putting ourselves into the other person’s shoes. How would you feel if you are working at McDonalds and you make this huge bag of food and give it to the wrong car. Then the next car pulls up waiting for its food and you realize what happened, so you explain it to the person and rush to make some more food.
Apostle Paul said, “Be content with such things as you have as He has said He will never leave nor forsake you so that we may boldly say, The Lord is my helper”. Be aware that the hurt you feel about the past is not in the present and no matter what happened in the past, your present memory of it is what gives life to it. So heal yourself of past pains, focus your attention on the present, the less attention you give to the past memory, the less life and power it has. Focus on your feelings right now. Memories are only thoughts and they have no power until you ponder on them, so the more you ponder on the present, the less of the past you will think about, taking your interest off those things that do not benefit you.
It was my dream to always own my own home. My wife and I set out to purchase a house on our own. In our process of trying to be first-time homeowners, we looked at so many houses until we were about ready to say maybe now is not the time. One day we were out driving not really looking and stumbled upon a house which we thought would be our home. We got the information we needed and made the call to see the house. The house was a newly built house with all the amenities my wife wanted. Not knowing the ends and the outs of purchasing a house, we thought that it could not be that hard. We went all in for this house, our house. The builder/realtor was not willing to negotiate the asking price of the house. We were even expected to pay closing cost. The contract included a lot of costs which we also found out were non-negotiable. Had we been represented by a agent, things may have gone a little differently. We were then told that there was another contract on the house and it would be taken. We lost the house we considered or thought would be our home.
I knew if they found anything stolen he'd be in trouble, so I hid the items and lied to the cops. All to protect him from getting arrested. All I did was make matters worse because then we were both in trouble. Getting sentenced to jail time wasn’t expected. We were shocked and not ready to handle being tore apart again, even though he said he'd wait forever.. I was in jail for 29 months all together but my husband was only around for the first 6 weeks ( Yes, 6 weeks). He cheated on me and left me for a girl he met at work. By the time I got out of jail he had divorced me , got engaged and had a 3 month old Son. My heart felt more than just broke that time. It felt as if it were shattered. That all changed my outlook on love. I no longer believed in it and thought love now was just a myth , a fantasy, some crazy illusion. I was not the loving caring person I once used to be. I was now cold hearted and mean. I felt lost and empty inside. I was miserable all the time and I began to live recklessly by drinking and abusing my prescription medication to pain pills. I no longer cared if I lived or died. I hated everything about life and most everyone in
If you are able to look back at those painful memories and you don’t feel the pain anymore, then you know that you have truly forgiven, healed and made whole. You need time to work through your pain and loss. However, some offenses you encounter lead to a sense of loss of trust, security, friendship, relationship and a whole lot more. You may also lose your direction and forget the purpose and meaning of life when inflicted with pain through an offense. Sometimes you’re most horrible and painful experiences can teach your life valuable lessons, making you a more insightful and stronger individual through them.
It was a slow but hectic day for me and all I could think was showering, eating dinner and going to sleep. We finally arrived home and everything seemed to be normal. With groceries in hand, I decided to give my oldest daughter my keys to open the door. As we walked in, we stopped in shock and starred at each other. We looked around and noticed our home did not look the way we left it that morning. The first thing we noticed was clothes all over the living room floor and furniture. Then we noticed our large flat screen missing and that is when we realized our house had been broken into.
My aunt had sent cops to our house to arrest my mother. We never opened the door. The next day my mom went to some police department. She found that my aunt had put a restriction order against my mom. My mom had also gotten probation. My aunt had accused her of Domestic Violence. I thought it was foolish of my aunt to press this kind of charges against my mom, since they did not live together. I hated my aunt. I knew that both my mom and my aunt were guilty for what had happened, but my aunt had gone too far. My aunt was not injure except for the slap my mother gave her. After that, my dad’s brother and his wife did not wanted us to go to their house. Even though the problem started at their house, we thought nothing was going to change with them, but we were wrong. After the fight they did not talk to us. My mom, my dad, my brother, and I felt so much resentment at them for turning their back on us. I did not know how to treat the wound and it hurt so
The past is over, let it go. Forgive and then forget. Allow the power of God to heal your heart and soul by trusting in Him and feeling His pure love for you. You are a cherished daughter of a loving Heavenly Father who only wants the very best for you. You are divinely watched over and guided continually—trust in Him.