Marriage Differences Between to Cultures

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When you look around the world and see all the hate, destruction and annihilation of people and their countries you have to wonder is it because of how they form their families? Let us look at two articles one written by Steve Sailor , The Cousin Marriage Conundrum and the other written by Serena Nanda ,Arranging a Marriage in India. We will look at the practices and protocols of two different countries and cultures through two essays, one that has prearranged marriages India and one that encourages inbreeding by way of marrying first or second cousins. Let us start with the first essay by Sailor about people of Iraq; we have three ethnic groups, the Kurds of the north, the Sunnis of the center and the Shi’ites of the south. Each of these ethnic groups has their own alliances and rivals, a country so torn they must inbreed with cousins to continue. Then we have the next essay written by Nanda of people in India a peaceful country that can look within its entire land to find a mate. Between the two cultures you have the choice of having your family find your mate for you or in Iraq your spouse and you share the same gene pool. Of course this consanguineous has not just went on in Iraq, the old stereotype of inbred mountaineers found that in 1942, 19 percent were consanguineous in Kentucky. Cousin marriages average not much more than1 percent in most European countries and fewer than 10 percent in the rest of the world. This practice seems to enable the ethnic groups or community to keep their population higher and stay within their beliefs. The Indians practice of arranged marriages is to protect the strengths of their families. They too look to keep the beliefs and cultures strong within their dynasty. Families search out and find perspective brides and grooms for their sons and daughters. This allows for their sons and daughters to be more focused on school and work not really much different then marrying someone you already know. We must also look at the Hindus in southern India and their consanguinity, although there uncle-niece marriages were the socially preferred. Medical problems existed strong in these unions; the DNA was just to close causing birth defects to multiply in the offspring.

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