Sometimes the biggest tragedy in someone's life is loosing a loved one. The tragedy of this event can be amplified if you're last words are bad or if there is something you forgot to tell them or meant to tell them. There are many book's that are write about this theme, for example In the book "Shoeless Joe Jackson" by W.P. Kinsella, the main character Ray Kinsella is trying desperately to reconnect with his dead father and is willing to put his reputation and financial security at risk for the opportunity to reconnect with his father as well as put his sanity up for question.
In the book" Shoeless Joe Jackson" Mr Kinsella owns a piece of farm land on which he decides to build a baseball field. He does this because he hears a voice in his head that tells him to and because his dad introduced him to the love of the game before he passed away and he is trying to reconnect with his father.Doing this brings up many questions from his neighbors and family about his state of mind and sanity. While he is building the baseball diamond the ghost of Shoeless Joe Jackson appears. Ray Kinsella while working on the pitcher's mound yells. Page 24, 6 lines from the bottom "What about the catcher?" .... Joe smiles. "I said we'd look at him, remember?. In this quote Ray Kinsella makes it clear that he wants his dad to come back to play and that is one of the reasons he is rushing to finish home plate. He finishes the field and does everything he is told to do without question because his need to see his father is so great that he doesn't care if he appears normal or if his reputation of being a good farmer is damaged. He is willing to look crazy, watching and talking to an empty field and appearing crazy to his wife's family as well...
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..."If you build it. he will come.". This quot shows that he has developed a quot with a deep meaning and covered it up with an easy explanation which he follows with saying that (page 6) "He, of course, was Shoeless Joe Jackson" even tho he deep down knows that "He" is his father. He says this to himself as a way of not getting his hopes up. This all states how much he misses his dad and is willing to believe anything to become reunited with him. These are just two of the many experiences that create the impression of craziness showing that he will believe anything if it means the chance of reconnecting with his dad.
Ray Kinsella is willing to risk his reputation, financial situation and put his sanity up for question just to have the chance to reconnect with his dead father. This shows that the biggest tragedy in someones life can be loosing someone close to them.
After hearing the second voice, "ease his pain",Ray assumes that the voice is referring only to Shoeless Joe Jackson, and he builds only a left field because Shoeless Joe was a left fielder. He believes that this will “ease the pain” of Shoeless Joe, who was banned for life by Commissioner from the sport that had brought him so much happiness. Ray later discovers that is was about J.D Salinger and makes his way to Salinger's house. Once Ray arrived, he talked to J.D, and told him that he was taking him to a baseball game. Salinger was surprised, and not knowing this man, thinks Ray is a lunatic. Salinger thinks Ray is kidnapping him, and that he may be crazy, Going to a baseball game with a stranger was not on J.D's list of things to do, but he goes anyway for one reason only, "because you [Ray] seemed so hyper. I was afraid that if I ran, you might shoot up the whole side of the mountain"(63). Ray was happy that he finally convince J.D to go to the game with him. He was finally getting somewhere.
... Series and banned from baseball forever. Rays father felt his son had the potential to also be in the major leagues, but it was too late as he passed away before he could even play a game of catch with his son. Ray is confused and lost internally because of the loss of his father on such bad terms; this becomes a bigger tragedy than he ever thought. It may have even been a tragedy as big as the death of Joe Jackson who died guilty of throwing the World Series. He was never eased of his pain until after his death which was too late. Tragedies are not uncommon phenomena in life, Ray Kinsella and Shoeless Joe Jackson have the misfortune of living a struggle fulfilled life that only consists of tragic events around every corner of their lives.
The sympathy of loss is persuaded as a devastating way on how a person is in a state of mind of losing. A person deals with loss as an impact on life and a way of changing their life at the particular moment. In the book My Losing Season by Pat Conroy he deals with the type of loss every time he plays basketball due to the fact, when something is going right for him life finds a way to make him lose in a matter of being in the way of Pat’s concentration to be successful.
Suffering is a part of life and dealing with it is always the hardest part. The short story, “Sonny’s Blues” by James Baldwin, describes how each individual character tries to deal or cope with certain happenings that occur throughout the story or their lifespan. These happenings include death, misunderstandings, and the ability to finally deal with hidden suffering. Sonny, Sonny’s older brother, who is also the narrator, Isabel, Sonny’s parents, and Gracie are all a part what creates this short story and essay.
...e to cope with the ominous recurring flashbacks and the heart-aching memories he suffered from every day. He may have been able to be saved if he only had an outlet to express his feelings. To that end, the significance of connection and communication between one another cannot be further stressed and hopefully this story was encouragement enough to reach out to fellow loved ones and even acquaintances in an effort to gain better relationships and advance as a society.
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
Phoenix Jackson overcame adversity in “A Worn Path” she overcame the dangers of the long journey into town, she stood up to the hunter, and overcame her old age.
As a parent, Deputy Chief Michael Beckman’s talk about his son’s suicide was very moving. To stand in front of a group of complete strangers and discuss the hardest thing you can face as a dad, shows great resiliency and character. Even more difficult is to stand in front of the group and admit your own faults and how they possibly played a role in some of your son’s behaviors. Steven’s life began to spiral out of control and there was nothing he could do to stop it. He admitted he made repeated empty threats to his son, however never followed through with the consequences.
Death in a family seizes control over the emotional and physical health of the surviving family. Facing death is difficult, but it cannot be ignored. The trauma may be an opportunity to grow from the experience, if it is talked about and discussed and worked through with the support of others; or it may throw a family off course, misdirecting their actions or leaving them altogether emotionally stagnant. Two families confront death differently in William Faulkner’s “A Rose For Emily,” in which a well-respected woman degenerates into a reclusive spinster after the death of her father, and in Brady Udall’s “The Wig,” a flash-fiction story about a son who wears a discarded wig that resembles the hair of his dead mother. These two stories offer very different portraits of families who try to recover after the death of a parent -- in Udall’s story, the mom; and in Faulkner’s, the father -- yet each story, through imagery, metaphor, symbolism, and their climaxes, comment similarly on the importance of communication after a devastating loss such as death.
Devito, Joseph A. "Communicating with the Grief Stricken." Devito, Joseph A. The Interpersonal Communication Book. Boston: Pearson, Allyn & Bacon, 2009. 175.
Anthony was on his way home and two kids got Anthony alone and killed him because they wanted his money. Anthony ran 2 blocks before he finally got to my house and died. The kid who killed Anthony was found in less than 24 hours. Anthony did not have a family. The only family he had was my family. Anthony made lot of money, but I’m sure he would turn it all in just to be alive again for one day. I will never forget the looks in his eyes. Even though he know he was about to die Anthony smiled for the last time. I will never forget Anthony and how he influenced our
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My father passed away in 1991, two weeks before Christmas. I was 25 at the time but until then I had not grown up. I was still an ignorant youth that only cared about finding the next party. My role model was now gone, forcing me to reevaluate the direction my life was heading. I needed to reexamine some of the lessons he taught me through the years.
Each of you here had your own relationship with my Dad, each of you has your own set of memories and your own word picture that describes this man. I don’t presume to know the man that you knew. But I hope that, in this eulogy that I offer, you will recognise some part of the man that we all knew, the man that is no longer amongst us, the man who will never be gone until all of us here have passed.
Eavan Boland’s poem “Amber” was published in the Atlantic Monthly in December of 2005. This poem starts off sad, talking about a death of a friend and how grieving seemed to last forever. Boland shows us this through lines one through five. It then goes on saying that if you think of all the good memories that the grieving process will pass and you can be happy when thinking about the lost friend. Boland’s poem “Amber” is showing us that grieving shouldn’t last forever and that memories can take away the horrible feelings and bring happiness when thinking about a lost loved one.