During the last segment of Two and a Half Men’s, “Love isn’t Blind, Love’s Retarded” episode there are clear examples of pre-occupational thought, ambushing, and insensitive listening. The person who demonstrates pre-occupational thought is also the airhead of the bunch who has a difficult time listening to anything anybody tells her. For this reason, she’s also the person who used the ambushing technique against Allan when he was trying to have a conversation with her. Unfortunately, for Charlie he was a prime target for insensitive listening even though his girlfriend wasn’t even trying to be so cold to his feelings.
Charlie has been seeing Kandi off and on throughout the entire season until meeting another woman by the name of Mia whom he actually falls in love with instead of just using for his sexual desires. Not realizing that she has been replaced Kandi comes over to visit Charlie. With Mia being in the house Charlie convinces his brother, Allan to distract Kandi which he does in order to help the situation. Allen winds up falling for Kandi which permits Charlie to continue his relationship with Mia. After two months of dating Charlie and Mia are finally ready for consummation their mature relationship. Just as everything seems to be going right, everything ends up go wrong whenever Charlie comes close to the coveted carnal deed.
Allan and Kandi are sitting on the couch inside Charlie’s living room having an adult conversation after Allan’s son, Jake, goes to sleep. Even though it would appear that Kandi is intently listening to what Allan has to say it soon becomes clear that all that’s on her mind is having sex. For instance, after Allan gives up attempting to get through her uneducated brain he says, “I’ll ...
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...What’s the BIG deal?” Shocked Charlie says, “What’s the big deal? This is the part of the relationship I’m GOOD at!” Realizing she has just made him feel upset she attempts to brush it off and move onto a moment that could potentially change the mood. This illustration shows that sometimes without even trying you can become an insensitive listener by only picking up the superficial content of a conversation.
As Two and a Half Men’s episode “Love isn’t Blind, Love’s Retarded” adduces even in a short ten minute time frame pre-occupational thought, ambushing, and insensitive listening happen far more frequently than any speaker would hope. Fortunately, there are ways in which to avoid using such actions or listening skills and one of those is simply by learning about them. The next time it’s my turn to listen thoughtfully I’m going to try my best, what about you?
Listening is an important skill that many people take for granted. Listening empathelicay means putting oneself in “someone else’s shoes”. Listening only to get information takes away much of what the speaker is saying, by being able to empathize with someone one is on the same wavelength. In this world, there exist many different cultures and subcultures.
As the film opens, it quickly becomes apparent that Leon, a married law enforcement officer, is cheating on his wife Sonja with Jane, a woman from their dance class. Jane is also married, but is separated from her husband. It is obvious from the start that Leon and Sonja’s marriage is in dire straits. The other main couple, Valerie and John, are struggling to hold their relationship together after the murder of their young daughter. Valerie also happens to be Sonja’s therapist. Through therapy sessions between Valerie and Sonja, it becomes clear that Sonja is having suspicions regarding Leon’s extramarital activities. Simultaneously, Valerie is counseling a homosexual man named Patrick, who is having an affair with a married man. Both patients seem to be causing Valerie an immense amount of stress, as she begins to question whether John is being faithful to her in the midst of their struggles. As the film progresses, Valerie begins behaving erratically due to her growing jealousy regarding the affair that she suspects John of being involved in. While driving home late one night, Valerie becomes stranded and calls John from a pay phone multiple times, but ...
They went to a couple parties and Charlie even scored his first kiss with a girl named Mary Elizabeth. They ended up dating and things went well until Charlie went to another party. At this party, he dared to kiss the prettiest girl in the room. It just so happens that Sam was in the room too and he kissed her instead of his girlfriend Mary Elizabeth.
Gradually, Charlie regains his strength and is healed through Kanaalaq's patient care. It is only after all this happens that he bothers to learn that she is called Kanaalaq. Slowly, he learns to connect with this young woman in a way that he has never connected with anyone. He learns to appreciate her, discovering that she is beautiful both inside and out.
Petersen, J.C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & Connecting in Relationships. Tigard, OR: Petersen Publications
The Importance of Listening for Professional and Personal Relationships Listening is essential for communication, yet is a skill in which most are lacking. Though we are listening constantly, knowing what to listen to requires an enormous amount of discipline and practice, which is vital for communicating effectively. Learning to listen will benefit all relationships from professional to personal and not being able to listen effectively can cause these relationships to deteriorate. “Indeed, although aware of the instrumentality of listening, even trained communicators often fail to listen correctly or at opportune times” (Cline, 2013). In order for all of areas of communication in an individual to flourish, listening must be emphasized.
to have sex, Al blames Peg for his failure in life, Kelly is screwing some guy
Firstly, Charlie's realizes that his co-workers aren't his true friends after all. When Joe Carp and Frank Reilly take him to a house party, they made him get drunk and started laughing at the way he was doing the dancing steps. Joe Carp says, "I ain't laughed so much since we sent him around the corner to see if it was raining that night we ditched him at Halloran's" (41), Charlie recalls his past memory of him being it and not finding his friends who also ditched him and immediately realizes that Joe Carp was relating to the same situation. Charlie felt ashamed and back-stabbed when he realized that he had no friends and that his co-workers use to have him around for their pure entertainment. It's after the operation, that he finds out he has no real friends, and in result feels lonely. Next, Charlie unwillingly had to leave his job from the bakery where he worked for more than fifteen years. Mr. Donner treated him as his son and took care of him, but even he had noticed an unusual behavior in Charlie, lately. Mr. Donner hesitatingly said, "But something happened to you, and I don't understand what it means... Charlie, I got to let you go" (104), Charlie couldn't believe it and kept denying the fact that he had been fired. The bakery and all the workers inside it were his family, and the increase of intelligence had ...
Petersen, J. C. (2007). Why don’t we listen better? Communicating & connecting in relationships (1st ed.). Portland, OR: Petersen.
With Sadie needing a caretaker for her flat, she talks about how a fellow named Hugo is “madly in love” with her and has been trying to reach her, thus giving her a reason to hire a caretaker. Upon discovering this, Jake is surprised and is quoted “Hugo being in love with Sadie was, when I considered it, overwhelming”. Knowing Sadie and Hugo personally, Jake concludes, “Hugo was not at all the man to love Sadie, Sadie was just the woman to be in love with Hugo.” As to who Hugo is in love with, Jake says “and in an instant it was clear to me that it was not Sadie that Hugo was in love with but Anna,” since “Anna, of course, was very much more the sort of girl whom Hugo would be likely to love.” With this revelation, love comes to play in this scene by acting as a force that complicates human relationships. As seen in the relationship and former friendship of Hugo and Jake, love creates a tension and a slight barrier between the two. Additionally, love is something that can’t necessarily be judged, which is what Jake does with Hugo and Anna.
A vital aspect of interpersonal communication is the style in which one listens. While every individual possesses their own preferred method of listening in communication, it can be enlightening to analyze our own strengths and weaknesses so as to maximize effectual communication. Within the confines of four main listening style categories, I have chosen those which best describe my own personal listening style.
According to Burley-Allen (1995); “There are five styles of listening including, the faker, the dependent, the interrupter, the self-conscious listener, and the intellectual or logical listener” (p.60-64). The faker happens when a person pretends to pay attention when someone is speaking, when actually their mind is thinking about something else. This is something that I have been guilty of especially when the message is not something that interest me. When you fall into this category you will act like you are listening and paying attention to make the person speaking happy. When someone is trying to fake listening they will try to memorize specific fact in the message. When trying to memorize specific facts in a message, the message will
As a professional in today’s society, it is greatly important to be able to communicate effectively with other professionals, with clients, and with those that are encountered in daily living. In order to communicate in a proper manner, not only is talking and non-verbal communication, but a large aspect is the ability to listen. Listening is a vital task in order to build a relationship and find meaning in someone else’s words. In order to find this meaning one must follow the characteristics of active listening, face the challenges to listening, and reflect upon one’s own listening skills.
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To be effective listeners, the listening process should be incorporated into our lives. We should be attentive to what people say, clarify what the speaker is trying to come across, and respond in a way the speaker can understand what we are saying. I think I was aware that I needed some improvement in certain areas of this process but I feel as everything is slowly changing. In the future, I’m going try not to interrupt people, get distracted, tune out, and try to get a bigger picture of what the person is telling me. If good listening habits are applied in our day-to-day life, we can easily communicate with anyone and everyone.