On Tuesday the 8th, I was surprised to discover the number of times I drifted off into my thoughts, was preoccupied or distracted in a day. These were all instances when I realized I was not listening, nor being respectful to the other person. This assignment was particularly difficult because when a person is not listening usually, they are not aware of the situation until after the fact. I discovered my nonlistening habits in school, in my social life, and in my personal life. While in school, I noticed a few instances where I was not listening, being present, and being respectful to the person in focus. Starting at the beginning of my day, I found myself not listening in your class (Professor Evans) . This was certainly not intentional. …show more content…
Being in a social atmosphere, there is a sense of laxness where individuals may not feel obligated to use proper etiquette. For instance, on Tuesday when eating lunch with my sister, I was playing on my phone. I had received an important text and was responding. In this moment, I certainly was not paying attention to my sister 's conversation. She was telling me about her day of shopping and had missed part of the conversation due to the phone interruption. This was quite rude of me, as a result I could have upset my sister. An immediate consequence may have been missing a good deal at the mall. However, a long-term consequence is damaging a close relationship because of constant phone distractions. In today’s day in age, this is all too common. I hate it when someone does this to me, therefore I should not do it to someone …show more content…
Perhaps the most common are daydreaming while accomplishing homework. I flash between, thinking about past events, worrying about future events, thinking about my schedule and other random thoughts. I’ve recently caught myself daydreaming when sitting in my chair doing marketing homework. In this instance, I was thinking about how nice the weather is outside, and how many assignments I could get done by staying inside. Usually, I sit in a quiet room when executing my homework but, this silence coerces my mind into other thoughts. In fact, daydreaming can have positive effects on a person 's cognitive function. Some scientists believe day dreaming reboots the brains and allows one to refocus with a lucidity. On the flip side, daydreaming may have its consequences such as prolonging assignments, causing a loss of focus and a detachment from the world around me. When daydreaming, I am not focusing on the assignment at hand and essentially not providing my teacher with the dedication he
“One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.”(McGill). The short story The Monkey’s Paw by William Wymark Jacobs has many instances of characters not giving their full attention when somebody was attempting to speak to them. When the sergeant came to the home of the White’s and showed them the monkey’s paw, the White’s did not listen to the sergeants warning of the monkey’s paw of it bringing great consequences whenever they made a wish. Mrs. White did not listen to Mr. White when he tried to explain why they should not wish for their son to be alive. Mrs. White rushed down the stairs ignoring Mr. White’s warnings of opening the door to let their son into the home. Listening more to people other than someone’s self is an ideal that has been lost in society.
Petersen, I have realized there are many actions and changes I need to make in my life. One thing I struggle with the most is listening. In order to overcome this struggle, I am willing to incorporate the “talker-listener card” into my everyday conversations (Petersen, 2007, pp. 55-64). Using this tool will guide me in developing active listening skills. Whenever I have a disagreement with a friend or family member, I can utilize this card. According to Petersen (2007), “Using the TLC opens the door to more effective conversations when someone needs to ‘talk things over’” (p. 55). This method helps prevent screaming matches and forces people to respond calmly and rationally to disagreements they are
Investigations spanning multiple countries and multiple lab studies “indicate that between 30% and 50% of waking life is spent daydreaming” (Poerio and Smallwood, 2016). The heterogeneous nature of daydreaming includes many types of self-generated thought (e.g. worrying, involuntary memories, fantasies, etc.) that a person could focus on separately for varying amounts of time depending on their personality. Adding up all the time spent generating these different types of thought, it is hard to ignore the significance of daydreaming in some form or
The new "glorious" invention of cell phones seems to make lives easier, but they aren 't as great as people make them out to be. Cell phones were first invented in the early 70s (Szumski 17) and have since evolved into a deadly weapon, causing all sorts of health and safety issues including cyberbullying and brain tumors. Cell phones have also been linked to behavioral problems in teens and children, even without the facts it is easy to look at this generation compared to 20 years ago. This generation is more worried about their phone rather than an actual human being. When walking and on their phone someone bumps into another person and drops their phone, they check to see if their phone is okay and then afterwards say sorry to the person.
A social issue regarding the effect of incivility is the constant use of cell phones. When in public, people who are on their cell phones may be “so wrapped up ‘in their own little bubbles’ that they don’t even realize they’re blocking a sidewalk or holding up a line” (qtd. in Clay). This phenomenon is due to the fact that a human’s attention has a limited capacity and a selective nature (based on the research of Hermann von Helmholtz) and therefore, when their attention is on their phone, they’re “b...
.... Through the evaluation of reactions from both myself and others, I have realized the significant impact the misuse of a particular listening style may have. These effects reach beyond social and professional environments, and in some cases may produce unintended negative effects with family. I had not realized that the two listening styles I use most commonly could be so incredibly polarized when it comes to employing critical listening. As a result, I have devised appropriate steps which I feel will assist in creating a more balanced conversational environment and improve my overall effectiveness in communication. I was surprised to discover that my listening styles are not always conducive to the environment in which I am listening; however, I am consequently compelled to take the steps necessary to achieve higher-quality communication in every aspect of life.
Every wonder why the mind have a tendency to go off focus and, start to think about something else than the task at hand. You start to think about where rather be than where you are or an event that happen in the past. The state of consciousness is called daydreaming. Daydreaming is “a common variation of consciousness in which attention shifts to memories and desires, away from the immediate situation” (Zimbarbo 332). Mostly everyone part take in daydreaming every day. Going without daydreaming is abnormal. Normally thirty (30) percent of the day is spent daydreaming(Zimbarbo 332). People daydreaming can be positive and negative . There different themes and w
It is impossible to deny that cell phones have become increasingly important in the business world of today. They are a great way to keep in touch and be reminded of daily events. Still, it is necessary to remember that they have their time and place. Your life is not the only one at stake when you get behind the wheel and common courtesy should still remain a highly regarded value. Maybe it is because cell phones have interfered with the need to exercise our memory, but we seem to have forgotten it was once possible to survive without them.
Today’s society accepted phones so fast and easily, that most of the things that can harm us, are actually some of our social norms that we don’t even realize we are doing. Cell phones can have effects on the way people think and act, their interactions with people in society, and the amount information people retain from the direct result of multi-tasking. Cell phones are a very important asset to people, and good resources of information, but they can have negative effects on people such as depression, anxiety, and addiction to the use of the cell phone. Distractions from cell phone use have also been linked to many motor vehicle accidents as well. Cell phones were created to make our lives better, and more efficient, but do they harm us more than help
It is very important to understand that in everyday communication we are either the speaker or listener and it’s important that we do those jobs as best we can in order to have a healthy communication relationship. This activity was very useful because I got to reflect on my past successes and failures in my communicating strategies and in doing so I can improve and adapt to become a better communicator and listener. I believe that this assignment is very useful because it is real life experiences that may occur again and I can better assess the situation and use the appropriate communicating strategy necessary. This reflection will help me in my personal development by giving me situational experience that I will be able to correctly approach in and out of the
While in high school I had to have very good listening skills while working within the choir, band, and in the theatre department. These different extracurricular activities had many in leadership positions where I often had to listen to what the director was telling me needed to happen and then I personally would have to go lead the group in doing so. Along with this I always the one people had to go to then with any concerns over what is going on. This led me to build a very strong listening skill to be able to mediate between the adults and students. As a nurse, I believe that listening is one of the largest aspects to the career. Without a nurse who listens properly, details are missed which can lead to harm upon the patient. When I work at my nursing home, my residents often compliment my communication skills because unlike most other workers, when cleaning people up and getting them ready for bed, I have full conversations with them. They are all very appreciative of me taking time out of my hectic work night in order to listen to how there day is going or on how their children are
On a daily basis, we come in contact with individuals that we have to communicate with, wither it be for work purposes, educational purposes, or social practices. As active humans we cannot escape the idea of socializing or communication, therefor; we make it a daily routine who we communicate with, how we communicate with them, what we listen to and how we listen it. With this routine habits are formed, some are strengths but others are weaknesses that diminish the communication quality. It is extremely important for individuals to recognize these strengths and weakness within their communication routine. By recognizing their strengths, they are able to improve even further and use their ability to get them closer to goals they may have set for themselves. Recognizing their weaknesses is just as important if not more important.
Last, I am determined to become a more patient listener in all areas of my life. A lot of times I fall victim to not letting people who are close to me fully state their opinions without me cutting them off and putting in my two-sense. I need to allow the speaker to finish their thought and process everything that is said and then politely respond to them. It is definitely easy to interrupt and state my case, but I am focused on training myself to concentrate and be respectful and listen. Whether this is geared towards something I am passionate about at my company or a story my mother is telling, I need to put myself in the speaker’s shoes.
After reading the article “Technology Etiquette in the Workplace” By Ellen Reddick, I realize that I am in violation of many technology etiquette guidelines. One guideline I violate quite frequently is I do not turn away from the computer when holding a conversation. Even though most of the time I am doing work while conversing, I should be able to make time for people after I finish my work. In the article it says, “If you’re working on your laptop and someone enters the room to talk to you, close your laptop and focus on them” (Reddick, 2011 p.8). Even though we have computers at school, I still have to learn how to turn away from it, and I have to learn to focus on the person talking. Another guideline I violate with my phone is texting when it is not urgent. Being an average American teenager I am connected to my phone; I’m almost connected by the hip quite literally. It says in the article, “When you send people a text, in most cases you are interrupting them...If you are going to interrupt someone, make sure you
To be effective listeners, the listening process should be incorporated into our lives. We should be attentive to what people say, clarify what the speaker is trying to come across, and respond in a way the speaker can understand what we are saying. I think I was aware that I needed some improvement in certain areas of this process but I feel as everything is slowly changing. In the future, I’m going try not to interrupt people, get distracted, tune out, and try to get a bigger picture of what the person is telling me. If good listening habits are applied in our day-to-day life, we can easily communicate with anyone and everyone.