Holmes (2000: 300) stated that : It seems possible that for men mock-insults and abuse serve the same function – expressing solidarity and maintaining social relationships – as complements and agreeing comments do for women For the writer, he agrees with this statement because for male counterpart; it’s hard to find and identify the equivalent for men towards women’s gossip. Men tend to discuss and focus on things and activities, rather than feelings and also personal experience as the main topic for conversation. Some topics like sports or cars turn up regularly and the focus were more on facts and information compared from feelings and reactions. The verbal sparring is reported by others who have examined all-male interactions and in some groups, the verbal insult is an established and ritual speech activity. Evidence of this kind makes the task easier to understand why some researchers have suggested that men and women belong to totally different cultural groups. In the other hand, it also helps to explain why women and men sometimes miscommunicate when communicating with each other. Meanwhile, it should being noted once more that most of the research which have been referred in order to describe women’s and also men’s interaction patterns were in Western English-speaking communities, and most of the data came from white middle-class adult speakers. While there are some evidence that proves women tend to be more supportive and men become much more competitive conversationalist in the other cultures too, but still there are some increasing amount of research which describing the alternative patterns. So, the writer here would like to say either he agree or not with this kind of statement. For the writer himself, h... ... middle of paper ... ...e seems to stray away from the main topic which been discussed, but bear in mind that for language which someone utters; all those factors were need to take into account in judging person’s personal language choice. So, that was why it need to be discussed altogether when explaining about this issue. Then, as the statement which Holmes had mentioned above, men’s mock-insult and abuse. It truly shows that the environment itself and situation plays very huge role in men’s language choice. The psycholinguistic factors also cannot being just simply put aside but need to be discussed together in this issue as well. In the end of this issue discussion, again the writer would like to emphasize on his stance which he actually supports the particular statement made by Holmes when analyzing between men and also women conversation style.
“Men are from Mars, women are from Venus” as the famous saying of John Gray goes. It is believed men and women are nothing alike in almost every aspect. In Deborah Tannen’s essay “Gender in the classroom: Teacher’s Classroom Strategies Should Recognize that Men and Women Use Language Differently” she focused on how men and women differ when it comes to communicating, with emphasis on how it effects to how men and women behave in the classroom.
In recent years, gender differences have already been one of the most controversial issues in various research. As an important communication tool of mankind, language is inevitably involved in controversies. However, Rachel Rafelman, a Canadian journalist and the author of “The Party Line” express her thought and opinion in her essay. She not only have some great points on what and how women and men are likely to talk, but also have different points on the talking environment. She comes up with facts and fit real and particle examples in her essay to make it understood. Whereas, Ronald Macaulay, a professor of linguistics and the author of “Sex Difference” uses words of novels to argue and promotes them as a cause of reinforce to men’s and women’s stereotypes in his essay. He argues through his whole as rebuttal and gives some examples to oppose the preconceived notion of sex differences. Over all, both Rafelman and Macaulay are the good writer but Rafelman is having upper to prove her essay better organized using her tones as per requirement.
In the beginning of the article, Holmes presents situations where the men are more talkative, and how that contrasts the myth about women. One of the example that she used was when the author analyzed the number of questions asked in 100 public seminar, and she found that men dominated the discussions in all but seven. Where the number of men and women are somehow equal. She relates that behavior in publ...
David Grazian’s study builds on Quinn’s research on men and women's interactions and Grazian finds similar results as Quinn did in her study. In the study of Grazian the performance of both men and women was driven by both genders trying to prove that they are as the audience (society) says they should be. Society has men believing that all women want only one type of man, a masculine man and society has woman believing that men want women who are quite, pretty and live to make their man happy. Both parties in both studies have been fooled by society and they don’t realize or understand
Deborah Tannen is the author of the book You Just Don't Understand where she analyzes the different meanings of communication between men and women. Her research shows that women and men use the same words and phrases and yet can interpret and react to those same words and phrases differently. Tannen compares the two sexes to find men use their conversation as a type of competition or to preserve their independence. For example, men talk about their knowledge regarding sports, cars, women, exc. Meanwhile, women try to foster intimacy through communication. For instance, women often talk and relate on a personal level. Throughout Tannen's book she uses "cross-cultural communication" to describe the differences between the language of men and women. Tannen observed that, "For males, conversation is the way you negotiate your status in the group and keep people from pushing you around; you use talk to preserve your independence. Females, on the other hand, use conversation to negotiate closeness and intimacy; talk is the essence of intimacy, so being best friends means sitting and talking. For boys, activities, doing things together, are central. Just sitting and talking is not an essential part of friendship. They're friends with the boys they do things with" (Tannen 95).
According to Mills (2005), the relation between gender and impoliteness is important because it is the way that the participants view their gender identity and the way that they think others will judge them. In her study, Mills (2003) argues that women are more polite than men because they are expected to speak and act in a certain way in our society. On the other hand, she argues that men regard the world as a battlefield in which they tend to attack in order to achieve something or maintain their social status. Aydınoğlu (2013) conducted a study to find out if there were any gender differences when participants were presented with a scenario that showed impolite acts. In this study, participants were divided into two groups. Participants in the first group were given scenarios that showed impolite acts such as insults, threats and disapproval. In the second group, participants were given scenarios were impoliteness was showed in a form of sarcasm, teasing and complains. The results of this study concluded that men responded to impoliteness more offensively when they were shown acts of insults, threats and disapproval, while the women reflected more on the passive roles showed in the
In her article “But What Do You Mean” Deborah Tannen, claims that there is a huge difference in the style of communicating between men and women. Tannen breaks these down into seven different categories; apologies, criticism, thank-yous, fighting, praise, complaints, and jokes. With each of these she compares men to women by explaining the common misconceptions that each of the genders do. The different style of communication can cause some problems at the workplace and even affect the environment. The different styles of communication has been around forever and almost becomes a “ritual”(299). Tannen is effective with mainly women and not men. She is primarily successful with women due to the fact that her tone targets women, also the organization
While analyzing the results, researchers wanted to determine if any responses between men, women and the children were different. The adult women tended to be more hesitant when participating and had experienced less eye contact with the Westerner than men did. There were
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Language is a multifaceted topic. It seems that language cannot be discussed without also discussing the differences that occur within speech. One of the most obvious differences exists between the speech of men and women. This paper describes the existence of “women’s language” and “men’s language.”(O’Barr and Atkins 1980) More specifically, this paper will discuss how these so-called languages differ in the way they address power in a formal situation. These gendered differences in speech occur in the way topics are brought up, what words are chosen, how hedges are used, and how intonation is utilized. (Holmes 1986;O’Barr and Atkins 1980) I will address how male language tends to be more assertive and confident in situations that affect power, while female language tends to be more apologetic and tentative when asserting information. (Kiesling 1997;O’Barr and Atkins 1980) I hypothesize that these differences do not reflect natural inclination or ability of the two genders. These differences in male and female language occur because they have been socialized in America by the construct of gender roles and respective expectations of genders. (O’Barr and Atkins 1980) I will analyze this hypothesis with sources of third parties and with my research.
Communication is a necessary skill for success in life. Misunderstandings in communication occur frequently between people due to language and perceptual differences. In intimate relationships, this misunderstanding in communication between the man and the woman leads to great agitation and tension -- seemingly the two sexes speak in completely different vernaculars. The Genderlect Style Theory explains that men and women talk in distinct cultural dialects and mannerisms, which reflect the different genders’ objectives; men desire status and achievement, while women desire personal connections and relationships. In the following pages, I will identify the theorist behind the Genderlect Style Theory, examine her educational history, and discuss other contributions she has made in the world of social sciences and psychology. Using physical examples, I will demonstrate the Genderlect Style Theory in the real world to steel our understanding. Lastly, I will explain what I have personally gleaned from my research.
Wardhaugh states different social norms defining the standards of being men or women, which has a profound influence on the language behavior shown by different genders. In other words, both men and women should possess the ability to show either masculinity or feminity through the language they use. When this ability overlaps with the other gender, however, one might be considered as as outsider of their own gender. He then lists the main differences between males and femals with the connection with language: genetic differences, social differences (e.g. various roles people take within a certain society), and linguistic differences (e.g. speech style and word choice). Doing so, he gives readers an indepth idea about how gender differences link to various language behaviors. He further explains how these differences are possibly created and constructed in society. Wardhaugh also examines a few common gender stereotypes, such as women talk more than men, and proves most of the stereotypes are wrong.
Gender communication focused on the method of expressing a thought or idea through the use of a gender in the relationship and the role of people. Some will argue that gender communication is qualified as a form of intercultural communication on the development of effective communication skills when we interact with an opposite sex. The communication between men and women have a huge difference because people from different culture speak different dialects. In the current society, it is common for us to hear phrases such as “ you men (women) are from a different planet,”these phrases are developed due to the miscommunication between men and women over the course of evolution. Men and women had developed different methods of
How does language affect our interaction with other genders? Language is the basis of all interaction. The language we use is essential to other’s perceptions of us. We instinctively know this, so we cater our language to suit how we want to be perceived by others. Language is not the only factor in perception though. Other’s interpretation of our language is as important an ingredient in their perception of us as the language we use is. Our perceptions of each other, more than anything else dictate our interactions with each other. The essential question is does interpretation of language vary between genders?