John Doe was born on January 28, 1924, in Rhinelander, Wisconsin. John Doe began the conversation by telling me when he was four years of age his older brother woke him up while holding a shot gun in his hand. John Doe’s brother began to tell him he needs to get up but quietly so he does not wake his parents. He and his brother went out to the cornfields near his house and lay on the ground. John Doe said with a smile, “I can still hear my brother whisper in my ear that we were going to get dinner for the family.” John Doe looks up and sees two deer in the fields, his brother, only five years old, raises the gun and kills one.
His brother pulls out a knife from his pocket and instructs John Doe to start gutting the deer. John Doe stated, “I was only four years old, I didn’t know what I was doing. I have only watched my father do this from a distance.” He began to tell me how he closed his eyes and pulled out anything and everything from the deer’s body. The two of them dragged the deer from the cornfield to the barn where the found his father standing by the door with his arms folded. John Doe stated that he knew at that moment his father was not happy they brought home “dinner.” John Doe laughed while telling me that he can still feel the pain on his behind from all the whippings he got from his father but they did end up eating that deer for dinner. John Doe told me that he felt he had to grow up at a young age due to his family falling below the poverty line. He said that is why he and his brother felt they needed to help get dinner.
John Doe began to tell me that he was very close with his brother throughout life. When he turned 17 he joined the air force to be with his brother during World War Two. He showed me picture...
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...mic theory by trying to recover from his losses by starting a family of his own or by rearranging furniture. From interviewing John Doe, he made it seemed like he always tried to cover up his feels by keeping his mind busy throughout his life. John Doe did not display that he was truly able to let go of the losses in his life.
Attachment Theory
Bowlby identified four phases of grief: numbing, yearning and searching, disorganization and despair, and reorganization (Litsa, 2013). The following list will describe Bowlby’s stages of grief:
1. Numbness. This is the phase where there is a sense the loss is not real and seems impossible to accept. John Doe displayed this first stage by when he came back from the war and he did not want to believe his brother was killed. John Doe started his own life and family without fully accepting the fact that he lost his brother.
Grief is a various response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone that has died. People have a bond or affection formed over time making it hard to lose someone. Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, a Swiss-born psychiatrist, presented a theory of the five stages of grief that is recognized by society. In the book, Drums, Girls and Dangerous Pie by Jordan Sonnenblick, the main character Steven Alper lives a normal life. He plays drums and hates his little brother, Jeffrey. Steven is constantly being annoyed by him which, bugs Steven. When Jeffrey is diagnosed with Leukemia, Steven’s life is flipped right upside down. He is hit hard with the five stages of grief. The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Throughout the story, Sonnenblick explains the five stages of grief very well with Steven Alper.
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There are five stages that are associated with grief and loss. A medical doctor known as Elizabeth Kubler-Ross gave an in-depth explanation of the five stages in her book, “On
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It was a beautiful October afternoon as I climbed to the top of my tree stand. The sun was shining, and a slight breeze was blowing from the northwest. I knew that the deer frequented the area around my stand since my step-dad had shot a nice doe two days earlier from the same stand, and signs of deer were everywhere in the area. I had been sitting for close to two hours when I decided to stand up and stretch my legs as well as smoke a cigarette.
After stumbling upstairs I go to the computer and turn on Da Yoopers’ “Da turdy Point Buck”, the song our family must listen to before we head out the door and into the woods. With the song blaring through the house, I walk into my brother’s room, turn the lights on, rip the covers from his bed, and narrowly escape a swift kick from his leg. After a breakfast of pancakes my brother and I jump into his truck and head for the hills. We own 120 acres three miles from the house, so we must drive to our destination. Any other morning there would be no vehicles on the road, but this particular morning we pass about ten other trucks all taking their passengers to their particular hunting spots.
The stages of death are known to be a process of mourning that is experienced by individuals from all phases of life. This mourning ensues from an individual’s own death or the death of a loved one. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross dedicated much of her career to studying this dying process and in turn created the five stages of death. The five stages are; denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. These stages may not occur in sequence and sometimes may intersect with one another (Axelrod, 2006). The reality of death many times causes a feeling of denial; this is known as the first stage. In this stage, people have many emotions and have a tendency to hide from reality. This reaction is momentary, but should not be rushed. The patient or loved one needs time to adjust to the awaiting death. This adjustment helps bring them through to the next stage; anger. Anger is a common feeling and many times routes from a feeling of not being ready. This emotion may be directed toward God, strangers, friends, family or even healthcare professionals (Purcell, 2006). In some cases, it can be targeted...
Everyone has or will experience a loss of a loved one sometime in their lives. It is all a part of the cycle of life and death. The ways each person copes with this loss may differ, but according to Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s novel On Death and Dying, a person experiences several stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and, finally, acceptance. There is no set time for a person to go through each stage because everyone experiences and copes with grief differently. However, everyone goes through the same general feelings of grief and loss. There are also sections in Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” that connect to the process of grieving: “On Pain,” “On Joy and Sorrow,” and “On Talking.” Kahlil Gibran’s “The Prophet” reflects on Kübler-Ross’s model of the different stages of grief and loss.
The loss of someone close can be a very painful experience. When someone passes over to the other side, the people they leave behind are left grief-stricken. The process they go through is called bereavement or another word, people may use is called in mourning. This all depends on what beliefs the bereaved may have on dying. Different religions cope with mortality in different ways.
Grief can be defined as the natural reaction to loss. Grief is both a universal and personal experience (Mayo Clinic, 2014). Individual experiences of grief vary and are influenced by the nature of the loss (Mayo Clinic, 2014). There are multiple different theories that have attempted to explain the complex process of grief and loss. Theorists such as Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, William Worden and John Bowbly explain in their theories how they believe an individual deals with the grieving process. In this essay, I will be focusing on William Worden’s theory and will be discussing the process for a child aged nine to eleven.