For All Eternity: Comparing Arranged Marriages to Marriages for Love

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“For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part”. These words, or similar, are spoken as a result of a traditional love marriage; granted at the time of the marriage, a spouse cannot leave the opposing spouse unless death is the cause. Nowadays that is not the leading cause in the separation of a couple. The American Psychological Association stated that 40 to 50 percent of traditional American marriages lead to divorce whereas 1.1 percent of arranged Indian marriages lead to divorce. In some cultures a love marriage is frowned upon because it does not guarantee a relationship. By parents arranging a relationship for their child, it guarantees that they will be taken care of. The difference between the two is that an arranged marriage brings together two strangers while love marriage is two strangers who have become well acquainted with each other. The divorce rate is seemingly lower within arranged marriages and it has been proven that they are more stable than any other relationship. An arranged marriage guarantees a lifelong relationship whereas a love marriage is based on emotions.
“An arranged marriage is said to be arranged when the man and the woman are introduced through a third party, their families also meet up and finally the marriage takes place with the consent of both families and the couple” (HubPages). There are four main factors that help match two individuals together: caste also referred to as the social status, horoscope compatibility, and an ego. An arranged marriage brings together to people who have little knowledge about each other and they are wedded as soon as possible. In the Indian culture dating is forbidden and if the parents have a strong belief in th...

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..., friendships, and fun, but being arranged brings responsibility, trust, and security. In this situation love may not conquer all, but it does create a stable family environment.

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