Marriage, a monogamous relationship where a man and women unite and are to hold on to their vows for rest of their lives, but when the marriage does not work people tend to do the most simple thing, divorce. There are a lot of reasons why couples decide to divorce and get the easy way out, yet they forget that their kids are to suffer the most from their decisions. The most common reason why couples divorce is lack of communication, which includes: lack of commitment and infidelity, lack of compromise leading to arguments, and unrealistic expectations from marriage at young age.
Marriage is based off of trust and commitment but because of lack of communication couples tend to drift apart which results in lack of commitment and infidelity. Divorces that happen on the bases of lack of commitment are 73% while divorces that happen on the bases of infidelity are 55%. These two together cause approximately 64% of the reasons for divorces (Dr. William H. Doherty 44). I interviewed attorney Katherine Kraus and according to her one of the main reasons is cheating (Katherine Kraus). Couples lack communication and forget to express their feelings and spend time together which causes one of the partners feeling neglected so he cheats. The cheater usually chooses this path to seek attention that they want hence do not have. They tend to get that attention from someone else other than their spouse (Timijo). These mistakes happen and they start lying and start making mistakes that ruin their marriage. They start lacking the commitment that is required in a relationship. These issues affect children the most. Affairs that the parents have affect children in many ways like: desperation of being loved and sexual addiction. The kids h...
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...n who are married at young age expect to either have kids later on in life or they expect a child without harming their body. They feel insecure about their husbands cheating on them because they are not attractive anymore but they forget to communicate this to their husbands and usually go for abortion. And if they keep their child, the child will not get the affection that a child needs for a while in their lives (Wendy Baldwin). Lack of communication can cause unrealistic expectations from each partner and affect the children in future.
In conclusion, the common reason for divorce that includes infidelity and lack of commitment, arguments due to lack of compromise, and unrealistic expectations for couples married at young age, is lack of communication. Marriage is based off of trust and commitment but most importantly compromise and communication.
Overall a major reason for divorce is the fact that men and women have very different conversational expectations. If men and women could put their conversational differences aside there would be less failed marriages. Until men and women figure out how to put aside the differences marriages will continue to fail in the future.
Divorce can be caused by problems such as drugs, adultery, abuse, and money. The United States is a fast-paced country with little to no time to spend on the basic family values it was founded upon. Jobs are more demanding, kids are spending most of their time with people other than their parents, and the economy drains marriages by causing worry and stress. The foundation upon which marriage was built has been shaken.
Divorce is becoming a worldwide phenomenon, significantly affecting children’s well-being. It radically changes their future causing detrimental effects. According to (Julio Cáceres-Delpiano and Eugenio Giolito, 2008) nearly 50% of marriages end with divorce. 90% of children who lived in the USA in the 1960s stayed with their own biological parents, whereas today it makes up only 40% (Hetherington, E. Mavis, and Margaret Stanley-Hagan, 1999). Such an unfavorable problem has been increasing, because in 1969, the legislation of California State changed the divorce laws, where spouses could leave without providing causes (Child Study Center, 2001). This resolution was accepted by the other states and later, the number of divorced people has been steadily growing. Such a typical situation is common for most countries in the world, which negatively affects children’s individuality. However, remarkably little amount of people can conceive the impact of marital separation caused to offspring. (? passive) Many children after separation of parents are exposed to a number of changes in the future. They have to be getting used to a further living area, feelings and circumstances. Their response to divorce can vary and depends on age, gender and personal characteristics. This essay will show the effects of divorce on children under various aspects such as educational, psychological and social impact. In addition, it will contain data about the divorce rate in the US and present disparate reactions of children. It will also include adequate recommendations for parents as to how act to children after divorce, in order to minimize the adverse effect on children.
Divorce is a heavy concept that has many implications for those involved. The situation becomes even more consequential when children are considered. As divorce has become more commonplace in society, millions of children are affected by the separation of the nuclear family. How far-reaching are these effects? And is there a time when divorce is beneficial to the lives of the children? This paper will examine some of the major research and several different perspectives regarding the outcomes of divorce for the children involved, and whether it can actually be in the best interest of the kids.
Divorce is a process that many people in America go through. The divorce rate continues to escalate over the years. Divorce is a serious problem, it is a gradual process that ultimately results in families breaking up. There are various factors in which a marriage can fail and end up in divorce. Some skip the step of trying to reconcile things and make it work. In some cases it is easy for a divorce to take place. For instance, in cases where both parties are in agreement and have no children it is easier to handle a divorce. But in the cases where children are present, what happens to the kids? Both parents are at each others throats or one is devastated from the rejection, what role does the child play? It is a hard thing to cope with as an adult imagine as a little one or even a teenager, it affects them in more ways than anyone can imagine. It can affect them both physically and emotionally. The effects of divorce are immense, it permanently weakens the bond or relationship between a child and his parents. Can lead to them reaching out or looking to others for attention, causing poor attitudes, low self esteem, dropping grades, loss of virginity, use of drugs and or weapons, or in some cases mutilation of the body. There are various effects that children have to deal with that maybe extremely hard to cope with. One parent may say one thing yet the other disagrees and makes it impossible for the child to have a stable relationship with both of them. Children need both biological parents at their side to be guardians and counselors in their lives, to be examples of what they need to do to become outstanding citizens in our community.
Marriage is a very joyful event in a person’s life. However, unless much can be done in order to redefine the status of what marriage is all about, divorce and other marital problems will continue to arise tremendously. Divorce is tumultuous event in a married couple’s life. It does not only affect the financial status of the household, but rather it also affects the people that comprises the family especially the children. Families are experiencing many problems today, but the role of divorce in this picture has been frequently overlooked because its destructive effects have been subtle, yet insidious. When the divorce rate increased in the 1960s, few would have predicted its dire consequences three decades later. Yet divorce has changed both the structure and the impact of the family. Intimacy, time, effort trust and love is the key to have a peaceful and healthy relationship. Marriage for life is God's ideal, but divorce is a reality in our society.
Causes can be many, a lot of factors can influence: Lack of communication, Infidelity, Abuse…the list
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In the world we live in today, divorce has unfortunately become a normal thing in our lives. Many married couples are getting divorced for many reasons; problems in the marriage, either a spouse having an affair, a loss of feelings, and many other types of complications. Many divorces involve children who are young and due to their age do not understand what is really going on. We all know someone who has dealt with divorce. Children are the ones who are typically affected the most by the divorce and they will have to learn to cope with their parent’s divorce at such a young age, affecting them in positive or negative ways.
Divorce has a negative effect on the psychological and social aspects of our children, which may appear instantly or not come to the surface for years. This is why I think that divorce should only be a last resort and not rushed into even by couples with the most troubled marriages. The only acceptable reason for someone rushing into divorce is if they or their children are in danger. I believe that marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly and disregarded at the first bump in the road especially when there are children involved. Far too many people do not want to take responsibility for their actions and choices; for example, people use abortion as birth control and couples’ jumping in and out of marriages like it’s a trial and error institution. Marriage is no longer taken seriously; commitment and monogamy are no longer an essential ingredient. For most couples today, it’s not even considered as a part of marriage. The negative effects that divorce has on children should be the number one consideration when a couple hits that hard time in their relationship.
"Statistics show that each year, over 1 million American children suffer the decision made by parent 's to end their relationship" (Amato, 2001). Divorce is the factor that plays a role in many households rather individually planned or just happens. Many people seem to believe that a divorce on young children of age will completely destroy them growing up. Nobody wants to see the good it can do for the children. What if the situation was bad, and divorce was the only safe solution. A lot of adults believe the child is more upset about the family falling apart. In reality most times, it 's because they don 't want to leave home, friends, schools. It wasn 't till I was ten years old that I was aware of what happened.
The first significant cause for divorce is lack of communication. In a marriage, the lack of communication represents a major issue and can hinder the relationship badly. When couples are unable to communicate effectively their feeling or needs, they have become distant to each other emotionally and physically. Some couples do not create time to talk to one another. When a problem starts, which can soon become a bigger issue when ignored. When couples are unable to resol...
When it comes to our families and close relationships, we tend to treat everything with extra care, and even more when we talk about marriage and romantic relationships. What are some of the reasons that cause a marriage to end? The question itself its complicated, the answer is even more. Its seems obvious that when things do not work out, then the solution is try to fix it, if the issue is still a problem, then the only solution left is to end it. Well, Even tough many couples choose to divorce, many other married people, today decide to continue their lives together and never get divorced. But there are other couples who do decide to get divorce. Exist many factors that can contribute to that. Social, Predisposing and Relationship factors, age, poor decision making, and level of education (among other).
Since past, people around the world have to live together by getting marriage, so they can be able to help each other on life. Still many couples can’t be able to stay in relationship; therefore, they choose divorce as a solution to end the problems between them. Moreover, most people think carefully before marriage; instead of, some think that marriage is easy. There are three main causes of divorce: changing woman’s roles, dishonesty, and lack of communication that are going to discuss it below.
Another cause of divorce is due to financial difficulties. Budget handling and debt arising out of low or reduced income is an example of a financial cause of divorce. Fighting over how to budget becomes a major problem in the marriage. In most cases, one of the partners is not content with the overspending habits of the other individual. This will cause a stressful situation which leads to an unwholesome relationship and result in a divorce. A couple struggling to make ends meet has the potential to cause conflict within the marriage. How the economy is today, it seems we are fighting more and more to keep our jobs.