Why Women Still Can T Have It All Essay

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How in the world are you going to have it all? Is it even possible to have “it all”, the luxurious car, your dream house, a great career, and a picturesque family? Sure, but you have to pay the price of sacrificing a commitment. Women have a tough choice in between focusing in a high ended job or attending their family. But do men have the same problem? Anne-Marie Slaughter, former Director Policy Planer at the State Department and author of Why Women Still Can’t Have It All, impacted many young and elderly women with her claim. Women were in shock when Slaughter complained about her job because it took too much time away from her family. But women weren’t the only ones obstructed by this article. Why Men Still Can’t Have It All was produced by Richard Dorment, senior editor at the Esquire magazine, as a response to Slaughter’s article. Dorment complained that men also have restraints that block them from achieving “it all”. Although Slaughter believes women can’t have a balanced life and Dorment believes that men have disadvantages of having it all; I believe that Slaughter made the major points of: both men and women can’t have it all and working out a flex schedule with the workforce. …show more content…

Dorment doesn’t start his article with a personal anecdote, instead he who goes right at the truth. He explains that being a boy or a girl can already determine big advantageous in the future by giving the readers facts. He then states that he is responding to both Slaughters, Why Women Still Can’t Have It All and Sheryl Sandburg’s Lean In. He calls Slaughter immature as he introduces Sandburg as a “more grown up” person. He called out Slaughter as being babyish but Dorment’s tone in his article was less-reader friendly than Slaughter’s. Especially because he didn’t back his opinion with anecdotes like Slaughter

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