Marriage, a Backbone to Civilization
Marriage matters. If marriage did not matter, would it even be considered when growing up? The common child at some point thinks about getting married and having children. Our society has gone through monumental shifts throughout its history. A theme that has not changed however, marriage, has survived through it all due to its importance. Our children and our health are two of the most important aspects of life. Marriage will help in both of those categories. Children have better relationships with their parents because of marriage. Watching their parents, they grow up having better relationships themselves. Increased success in school has been noted. Families are more financially stable, leading to a better environment for a child. And of course, we need our health to maintain anything, and that too is affected by marriage. Marriage is recognized everywhere in the world. It has been around for centuries and is a cornerstone to the foundation of modern day society.
Having your mom and dad around is great. When mom cannot handle something, go ask dad. When dad cannot handle something, go ask mom. Where a strong marriage is, a strong family tie lies within. CIVITAS, the Institute for the Study of Civil Society reports:
On average, children whose parents married and stayed married see their fathers more frequently than children whose parents divorced or never married and have more affectionate relationships with their fathers.
I have witnessed this myself among my friends whose parents are separated or divorced. Love is there for both mom and dad but one parent is just around more often. In all my friends’ cases, their mother is the caretaker. Marriage allows for...
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I agree when Kingsolver says that traditional families have more stability for their children. My parents are together and we do have stability. It is still hectic because of three children going in different directions but at the end of the day, we are all together sitting at the dinner table talking about how are day went. My parents do model for me how a married relationship should be like. They show me how strong their love is and how I should be able to find someone who loves me just like my parents love each other. Their relationship had made each of their children successful.
As discussed before neither of the fiction couples had it. As for the real relationships, it’s a different story. There is somewhat a little emotional support between my parents. They have been marriage for thirty years. Faced plenty of bumps in the road. Their relationship is more than just leaving together though but it’s not a couple on either. They are more like friends that support each other. The loving connection no longer there only when it comes to a kiss goodnight before bed. Even if they actually listen to each other and are compassionate about the struggles each other are going through. They never saw to agree with their opinion on how to fix it. From my perspective, they have the ‘50s style marriage. Were you must agree with what the husband’s views are, the wife is the housekeeper, the husband to quote brings home the bacon and does the yard work. Thus making the emotional support rather one-sided my mom supports and is there for my father but he isn’t there for her. Emotional support is a two-way street, not one way. But when I look at my brother’s relationship with his fiancé Sarah they do share emotional support for each other. Somehow a couple that is only been together for about fours years has more support for each other than a couple that has been together for thirty years makes no sense. Part of me wonders if it due to the fact they are still getting to now reaching
No matter where you are from, nation, ethnic background, religious background, or social class, marriage is a part of life. It doesn’t
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When we think of marriage, the first thing that comes to mind is having a lasting relationship. Marriage is a commitment of two people to one another and to each other?s family, bonded by holy matrimony. When a couple plans to marry, they think of raising a family together, dedicating their life to each other. That?s the circle of life--our natural instinct to live and produce children and have those children demonstrate your own good morals. I have never been married; but I don?t understand why when two people get married and vow to be together for richer and poorer, better or worse, decide to just forget about that commitment. A marriage should be the most important decision a person makes in his or her life.
Fairfax, “Marriage is one of the core values of society. Almost 20 years ago, the well renowned black scholar and psychologist Dr. Na’im Akbar (1991) penned the following: ‘‘marriage is such an important lesson in manhood (womanhood) development. It is no wonder that every society requires some form of it’’ (p. 13).” This coincides with the values that I stated above that were considered important in my culture. Marriage is important to more that my culture obviously but in my culture there is always this well-known quote from the bible: “He who finds a wife, finds a good thing (NKJV Proverbs 18:22). That is basically religion and love in the same
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can, because the love between a mother and a father plays an important part in a
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...lthy and successful family. If a father is missing from a daughters life they are then considered deprived of a significant amount of love, self-worth, and confidence. The effects of a fathers absence has been demonstrated in the research presented as being damaging to the overall wellbeing of their daughters. It doesn’t matter if the catalyst of the father’s absence is divorce or having a child out of wedlock as a society we need to fix this problem. Before adults decide to have children they need to first prepare for a healthy marriage which includes learning the dynamics of a marriage. The logic behind this would be to decrease the amount of fathers lost to divorce. There are times, for instance death, when the loss of a father is unavoidable, but we need to begin to educate our fathers with the importance and impact they bring to their daughters lives.
is the most usual in which a man and a woman unite themselves in the
Love conquers everything. Or at least, that’s what Romeo and Juliet thought. But marriage and love can be complicated, and some argue that marrying someone who shares your religious beliefs can make things much easier. Is having the same religious and spiritual beliefs part of criteria many people use when seeking a marriage partner? It is strongly felt that the person they are going to marry should have the same traditions and customs, and intensity of belief as they themselves do. For them, it is an imperative part of marriage. A correlation exists between religious shared beliefs in marriage and marital satisfaction, although the nature of the relationship is not certain. History says that religion starts wars. If that is true, what will it do to a dual-religion marriage? This paper will discuss people’s views on why it is actually a major criterion to have a partner that has the same religious beliefs.
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