Unrequited Love
The study takes into account the numerous negative effects both on the "Would be Lover," and the "Rejector"(p.377). The negative effects on the "Would be Lover" include, Heartbreak, Anger, and Humiliation, whereas the effects on the "Rejector" also include Anger but also Guilt and Scriptlessness. Unrequited love deals with a social relationship between two people many if not all of the eight overarching themes in social psychology are observable in the behavior of the couples.
Construction of Reality is the axiom that each person's view of reality is a construction, shaped both by cognitive processes and by social processes (Smith & Mackie 1995). What this says is that reality is basically in the eye of the beholder meaning what is seen and what is heard is very personal and varies greatly from person to person. One example of this is during the breakup of the couple, the "Would be Lover", may disagree about whether an explicit message of rejection was delivered and therefore persist in their advances towards the rejector who views these actions as inappropriate, irrational and/or obnoxious(p. 380). In this case the "Would be Lover" doesn't interpret the message given as rejection, possibly because from her point of view the relationship is strong and heading in a positive direction with the affections being mutual, therefore when the advances continue the "Rejector" sees them as inappropriate and irrational because he does not take into account the broad contrast in views. Another instance in the relationship involving the construction of reality is the issue of attraction. Initial romantic attraction seems to depend on the partner's desirability such that the most desirable partners elicit th...
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... had been paying a lot of attention to the "Rejector" but not letting his feelings known we could still say that he is processing his options in depth. When the time comes to let his feelings be known and the "Rejector" rejects him outright then she is being superficial she based her decision on a limited amount of information,(his attractiveness and possibly the sound of his voice). Although after making such a quick decision often the "Rejectors" will look back on the events with regret and may feel the reacted incorrectly. If we examine the breakup then the roles are somewhat reversed, the "Rejector" gives all of the possible choices fairly good thought in order to make the break up as least painful for her partner as possible. Whereas if the "Would be Lover" still believes that the relationship is still positive then he hasn't given it much thought at all.
When thinking about romantic relationships, whether in the movies, media or your own relationship what characteristics come to mind? The topic we will discuss in this presentation attends to the romantic relationships within interpersonal communication.
William Shakespeare’s play Hamlet is the dramatic story of a son who felt betrayed by both his mother, and the woman that he loved. Written in the Elizabethan era, around 1600, “Shakespeare's focus on Hamlet's intellectual conflicts was a significant departure from contemporary revenge tragedies… which tended to dramatize violent acts graphically on stage” (Hamlet). The play depicts Hamlet, the Prince of Denmark, who it visited by the ghost of his father, King Hamlet. The ghost reveals how he was murdered by his brother Claudius, who then claimed the title of King, and married Hamlet’s mother, Gertrude. Hamlet vows to avenge his father’s untimely death. Hamlet is in love with Ophelia, but her brother, Laertes, and father, Polonius, warn her that Hamlet can never really love her. Ophelia, following her father’s wishes, is unwittingly enlisted to spy on Hamlet, which leaves him feeling betrayed. Hamlet rejects Ophelia, accidently stabs and kills Polonius, and then hides the body. Ophelia becomes so distraught over her father’s death, that she ultimately drowns herself. Hamlet is devastated when he learns of Ophelia’s death. The play culminates with a sword fight between Hamlet and Laertes. Hamlet’s mother dies from inadvertently drinking poisoned wine that was intended to kill Hamlet. Laertes and Hamlet are both stabbed with a poison-tipped sword, but before dying, Laertes confesses that Claudius was the mastermind behind everything. Hamlet forces Claudius to also drink the wine and the irony is that everyone dies in the end. One of the most controversial topics in history is the relationship between Hamlet and Ophelia. Hamlet’s letters express his sincere feelings, and reveal that he was very much in love with Ophe...
Dating back to the early 1900’s and all the way through to the present, romantic relationships have been viewed differently. From strict unwritten dating regulations to not having regulations at all, recent generations have become more liberated in making their own decisions. The progressing times have made us become a more accepting society and have caused a decrease in the strong practice of religion and class. Even though differences such as religion and class in relationships were more than an issue they were not always a complete deterrence.
In order to distinguish the difference between loving and liking, questionnaire should be undergone. Firstly, the love-scale should be set which referred to the association response from the questionnaire. Some questionnaire items had to be provided according to the attitude of the respondents toward the target person. The questionnaire represented the personal visions of two panels of students and faculty about the ideas of love and like. It contained theoretical thinking and pointed to the three elements of love mentioned in paragraph one. The questionnaire items included two categories, like and love and questionnaires were distributed to 158 dating couples at the University of Michigan. The results found that love and like were more strongly related among males than females and it gave some proofs for the suggestion that it was more illustrious for women to differentiate the two emotions than men. The results also showed that women like their male friends more than other side like them. Moreover, women were prone to say love to same-sex friends more than men and those might be some kinds of the gender differe...
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
In Zora Hurston’s novel Their Eyes Were Watching God, the centralized character, Janie Mae Crawford, embarks on a long quest to find the meaning of true love. Like many people, she begins her journey not knowing what love is. Janie encounters many obstacles in her quest for love. But what is true love and how does one know when they have found it? Thesis: Janie’s blind quest for love. It seems that Janie’s destiny is decided for her despite her idealistic and naïve view of love and marriage. Even though it appears that “her dream was dead”, she accepts her fate and “became a woman”, Hurston shows us that though suppressed at times Janie never gives up her dream (25). The symbolic use of the pear tree not only sets the bar high for Janie’s expectation of marriage and love as a partnership like the “bee [sinking] into the sanctum of a bloom” leading to the “ecstatic shiver of the tree from root to the tiniest branch” but also a need for personal fulfillment (11). Her journey to find herself begins under the pear tree but she had to travel through her marriage to the respectable, dependable Logan Killick, wind through her marriage to the showy Joe “Jody” Starks and end up with the love of her life Vergile “Tea Cake” Woods.
During this course we have examined many readings and songs that imply love can be an impairer of judgment. Physical attraction or an early intense emotional connection can often blind someone from seeing the truth in a partner. I will be analyzing works from Zeki, Esch, Stephano, and Leona Lewis that demonstrate how love can affect one’s judgment. The authors show this to prove that one really can be blinded by the love they have for someone.
In my opinion unrequited love is the most painful type of love there is in this play.
For hundreds and hundreds of years, we, as humans have yearned for companionship; sharing our life’s with one another in an intimate, and special way. For some, this is extremely difficult, the feeling of being loved and loving somebody doesn’t happen as easily, quickly, or frequently as they would like, struggling their entire life to find that person who they are meant to be with. These are the people who are desperate for even the slightest bit of affection, the people who will do and give up about anything to feel wanted in this world. For others, this comes rather naturally, adopting the characteristics and behaviors of their parents, people or the environment around them. These people, who are experts at the art of being vulnerable and loving others, are presented with their own problem of being susceptible to get taken advantage of and heartbroken by others. To love is to be vulnerable, although that may seem like an obvious statement; the trick is the perfect amount of vulnerability. Love is a great, outstanding creation, but if somebody is too vulnerable or not vulnerable enough, it can come to a screeching halt where people get hurt or worse. Throughout history other pieces of work by various authors portray love to be a questionable thing that is untrustworthy and that vulnerability is a concept with hidden evils.
In analyzing the aspect of attraction, we take a look at attraction from the perspective of Elaine Hatfield and Ellen Berscheid. Hatfield and Berscheid are American social psychologists whose work has helped to provide insight into what we now know about relationship science. According to Hatfield and Berscheid’s theory on interpersonal attraction, people are attracted to one another for four main reasons. Each reason presented helps to develop the reasons for attraction and relational differences between Landon and Jamie.
Their work has been of great value as philosophers and researchers today study the idea of love. Without their knowledge and viewpoints on the matter, theorists would not have an initial point to base their contemporary research off of. The beliefs of what love is, and the different levels it holds were concepts philosophers studied to help develop and strengthen their metaphysical opinions on love. In the end, Diotima continues to share her perceptions on the principles of love. She declares that once you have been in love, you will never be seduced again. If this is true, how can one explain the desire for an affair or
“The Farmer’s Children” is a horrific tale. Two children, Cato and Emerson, were told by their stepmother to go to the barn and protect their farm equipment. Since the children were poorly dressed and the weather was extremely cold, the boys froze to death. The author, Elizabeth Bishop, used a wide range of literary techniques (foreshadowing, symbolism and allusion) to get her message across. Bishop wrote this story to convey lonely abandonment is a deep pit to fall through. Consequences will have to be paid; Cato and Emerson died as a result of being unattended to.
In this essay I would like to emphasize different ideas of how love is understood and discussed in literature. This topic has been immortal. One can notice that throughout the whole history writers have always been returning to this subject no matter what century people lived in or what their nationality was.
Salty tears of frustration streamed down my checks into the steaming mineral water that surrounded me. No one noticed; no one cared. I was just another stranger in the crowd drifting along in Glenwood Pool. There was only one difference; I was alone. Everyone else in the pool seemed to have someone, and everywhere I looked couples were kissing! If someone had been surveying the whole thing they would have found happiness in every corner ... then they would have seen me; sulking in my corner of the pool with fat, old, wrinkly, bald men swimming past me repeatedly.
The poem "Rosimaya" by Atukwei Okai addresses an idea of unrequited love. It describes how his miss is being inconsiderate as a result of distress, frustration, depression and confusion.