Identity and Its Impact on Female Sexuality in the 21st Century

Nowadays, more people tend to care about and work on social justice. Women’s rights, as one of the topics, draws people’s attention. The society and female-selves have rethought the meaning of being women in the 21st century. Therefore, nowadays twenty-something girls start to behave differently from early generation. One of the behaviors becomes ambiguous, which is female sexuality. In “Selections from Hard to Get: Twenty-Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom”, Leslie Bell argues that neither contradictory directing nor expectation from others is the main reason that causes female sexuality. She sets up this claim, because the identity a woman established by herself impacts more on a woman’s sexuality. Establishing an identity is more important because it’s more independently authentic, also it represents what the woman wants, who she truly wants to be. Another reason is that, sexuality is one of the changed-behaviors that women use to prove their established identity. Therefore, female sexuality is driven by identity rather than social expectation or confused directing from others because, first, the identity is established by a women herself independently; second, the identity is the way how a women defines who she is, which matters more than any other outside effects; third, women decide to have a certain kind of sexuality in order to prove their defined identities.

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Man and women are born to be equal, none of the two parties control the other. Women’s behavior, including sexuality should only be done in the way she agrees. Feminist like Bell have nothing against man but they do hate unequal treated. Men’s expectation, or any other outside effect, no matter what, don’t control women’s behaviors. Her independent thought should be the only item to shape any of her behavior. There is nothing women “ought to” do. Women’s identity have to be established by her