Tranquility In Marital Life Essay

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"The exposure of women to physical and mental problems" is one of the important consequences of disturbing the tranquility in marital life, which has different forms. Depression has been one of these problems. In some cases, the severity of depression has led to a desire for death and thinking of suicide: Behaviors of my mother-in-law is so annoying that sometimes I say I wish I did not exist." Sometimes, I feel so bad which I am so eager to die. At a period that I so shattered I am just waiting for an opportunity to destroy myself " (29 years old, with 4 years of common life). Nervous weakness was another psychological problem: "My nerves has been very weak, I'm upset with the smallest words and behavior, now that I were not suchlike in the …show more content…

Women consider the satisfaction in other dimensions of life based on tranquility in marital life, and they have expressed disruptions in their growth and successes in other areas of life are from the effects of disturbances of tranquility in marital life, which has had many instances. Disruption of the progress of personal programs, including studying, has been one of these examples. The lack of concentration of attention in the performance of their duties and daily routines has been among other instances of disruptions to the growth and success of women: "When one has not tranquility and his spirits are ruined, his/her works will be also ruined, my own when I'm nervous from my life, I'm confused and mistake at work. " Some women have also postponed important life plans such as childbearing and continuing education and the waste of opportunity, and know these from the effects of disturbance of tranquility in marital life. They also spoke of not growing spiritually: "Now, after eight years, I totally feel that I am spiritually lower than the single period and this is due to the kind of life and the tensions and problems that I had after …show more content…

I gave my mariage-portion to give me a divorce, before birth of my daughter I applied to divorce, I'm still asking for it, now my daughter is seventeen years old".
Seeking of alternative for missed tranquility
The issue of "Seeking of alternative for missed tranquility" illustrates one of the effects and consequences of disturbing women's tranquility in marital life, which suggests that women are turned into alternative relationships with the aim of filling the gap caused by disturbances in marital life.
"Spiritual calmatives" is one of the alternatives chosen by women. In the face of impairment of tranquility in marital life, women have benefited from communicating with God and resorting to the household of Allah (PBUH), according to their conditions, in various ways to achieve tranquility: tranquility from God's remembrance of women has also helped to withstand the problems. "When I am nervous I pray two postures and I will feel comfortable. I need to get rid of myself by any way. I'll go to the meeting of recital of the tragedies of Karbala for Imam Hussein (AS), or I will read Lahof for myself and I will cry I will become light; the memory of God will be relaxed. And it helps me to

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