The Relationship Between Living In Sin By Adrienne Rich And Those Winter Sundays

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Love is a very powerful force that it constantly being tested and tried. Through the power of devotion and commitment, it withstands many challenges. Love endures many types of situations as seen in the poems My Papa’s Waltz by Theodore Roethke, Living in Sin by Adrienne Rich, and Those Winter Sundays by Robert Hayden. In each of these poems a different situation arises and puts love to the ultimate test of survival.
A common problem in the world today is domestic abuse. Many times the male of a household abuses the woman and children that they life with. Although there are opportunities to safely get out of these situations, women too often stay. While this seems crazy that anyone would even think of staying in a situation of such violent nature, the reason is for more astonishing. Many times the women of these relationships love their abuser. An article written by a woman named Amanda …show more content…

This father not only provides for his son, but also goes above and beyond to cater to his wants as well. “When the rooms were warm, he’d call” (Hayden, 7) is an example of the many things this father does for his son. He wakes up early in the morning, starts a fire to warm the house, and then when the house is warm enough for comfort, he wakes the son. Despite all the father does for his son, “No one ever thanked him” (Hayden, 5). The love of a parent to a child is unconditional, however, in some situations there is no relationship between the two. In this case, the love this father has for his son endures an uneasy relationship. The son is very indifferent and unappreciative of the father and instead of the relationship suffering, the fathers love endures the emotional abuse and continues to care for him and accommodate to his happiness. As a father, he puts his son before himself and undergoes the

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