The Mother-Daughter Relationship in A Taste of Honey
The play "A taste of Honey" is set up in England in the 1950s.
Helen is a single mother in a time it was very hard to rise up a child
due to the criticisms of society for being unmarried.
There were and still are social expectations on how should a good
mother be, caring, comprehensive, loving etc which Helen does not live
up to them.
The relation between Jo and Helen all over the book is a destructive
and negative relationship "Drink, drink, drink you make me sick" with
some moments of affection " I'll pay, you're not stupid. You'll soon
learn…you're wasting yourself".
Helen drinks, she is poor, living off of men putting them before Jo,
she is sarcastic and cold when it comes to Jo "I can't bear to be
parted from you" and inappropriately shares her sex-life with her
daughter but worse of all, she regrets that she has had a child; many
of these attitudes make Jo fell disgusted towards her mother, making
her even more insecure.
Jo only being a child is scared and vulnerable, not having a mother
rollmodle or any advice from her mother "It's your life, ruin it your
own way", Jo without noticing she is following some of her mother's
patterns making the some of the same mistakes, and following certain
life styles, which are the same things that made her feel disgusted of
her mother.
Jo fells jealous of the attention her mother gets from other men, and
as she has never been felt loved by anyone and has no experience of
love whatsoever, Jo with no experience and with out an a advice a
traditional mother would give, she soon gets pregnant.
Helen moves with a man leaving Jo alone. Once she is pregnant and
having no friends, Jo lives with Geoff, an homosexual that at a time
was also very strange and criticized in society.
In some way, Geoff shows a caring attitude towards Jo that Helen never
had "Why don't you go back to school".
She allows her mother to control her and make decisions for her. During their conversation, she asks her mom if she should marry Mr. Jones even if she does not love him. Her mother does not seem to care until Helen mentions that he is Vice-President of the company. Her mother says that she should marry him whether she loves him or not because he will be able to take care of her and Helen. They continue to discuss how Helen can marry this man that she doesn’t like so she will never have to work again and he can support her mother, or she can say no at the risk of losing her job and not being able to support her mother anymore. Helen ties in how life is making her “feel like I’m stifling!” (591). Again, I feel this is another representation of Helen not being able to handle the pressures of society. Helen can’t talk about important decisions she has to make without feeling claustrophobic and blowing up by saying things like “I’ll kill you!” (592). I think she blows up because her mother is always nagging her and she can’t handle it in that moment anymore, especially since it is a conversation about
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was no mother figure spoke of, just her father, which she lived with alone other then
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"He would come back some day; they couldn’t make him pay forever. But he wanted his child, and nothing was much good now, beside that fact. He wasn’t young any more, with a lot of nice thoughts and dreams to have by himself. He was absolutely sure Helen wouldn’t have wanted him to be so alone."
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