No matter where one grows up, they will always strive for their parent’s approval. The location, the time, or their age will not determine if they would love for their parents to approve of them. The problem usually uproots because the parents grow up in a different generation than their kids. Some parents want their kids to do better than them, or grow up as they did. In Hosseini’s Kite Runner and in Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, express the problem that children have getting their parent’s approval very well. In The Joy Luck Club there were many incidences where several of the children were striving for their parents approval. The first example could be when June, the daughter of Suyuan just couldn’t find out what she was good at. She tried many different things and the closest she got was the piano. Her mother wanted her to follow through because she seen the potential June had but June just didn’t seem to care all that much about piano making it difficult for her to get the approval she seeks. Another time where this happens could be when June went to go see her sisters. …show more content…
In the Kite Runner Amir is fighting for his Baba’s approval. There were many times where Amir had felt he had done really well and baba just brushed it off. When Amir was growing up he loved to write stories and he believe he had done really well, his baba though didn’t think much of it. It seemed Amir was really frustrated being treated the same as his servant Hassan, which may have made the struggle a little bit harder for Amir, but that much more worth it if he could just get his baba to approve of him. When Amir was older he had written books, and went to school. If Amir would have known his entire life that Hassan was also his half brother, it probably wouldn’t have been such a difficulty, or such a misunderstanding on trying to get his baba’s
It is not often that Amir’s love for Baba is returned. Baba feels guilty treating Amir well when he can’t acknowledge Hassan as his son. Baba discriminates against his son Amir by constantly making him feel weak and unworthy of his father. Baba once said to Rahim Kahn, “If I hadn’t seen the doctor pull him out of my wife with my own eyes, I’d never believe he’s my son” (Hosseini 23). Amir doesn’t feel like a son towards Baba since he seems like such a weakling. This neglect towards Amir causes him to feel a need to be accepted by Baba to end the constant discrimination from his father and he will do anything for it. “I actually aspired to cowardice, because the alternative, the real reason I was running, was that Assef was right: Nothing was free in this world. Maybe Hassan was the price I had to pay, the lamb I had to slay, to win Baba” (Hosseini 77). Amir did not stop the rape of his good friend for one sole purpose. Amir felt that he had to betray his own half-brother to gain th...
Baba, is what Amir called his father. Amir always looked up to Baba. He never wanted to disappoint him. Amir always wanted to be the only boy in the eyes of his father. He was jealous and would do anything for Baba to look up to him or respect him, as his son. Hence, the kite and alley incident. Through all the lies and deception, Baba still viewed Amir as innocent in many ways. Though Baba always wanted Amir to be athletic, play soccer, and display a talent of kite running and flying like Hassan and himself, he still loved Amir and saw his talents as a
Baba is a very high standing man in Kabul, but seems to be extremely harsh to Amir when he was a child. He is a very large, tough man who was very well known in the town and as Amir stated in the novel, “Lore has it my father once wrestled a black bear in Baluchistan with his bare hands” (Hosseini 12). This small detail of Baba makes it known to the reader that Baba is a man of great courage and strength. Some may think that an honorable man is one with no flaws, but many disagree. Every human being makes mistakes, including Baba. When Amir grows up and goes back to visit Rahim Khan in Afghanistan, he finds out that his father lied to him his entire life about Hassan being his half-brother. He also finds out from Rahim Khan that all Baba had back then “was his honor, his name” (Hosseini 223). He did not tell Amir and Hassan that they were brothers because they had a different mother and that would have made their entire family be looked down upon in the town. He did it for their own good, and wanted for them both to grow up as honorable men, like himself. There is a difference in making mistakes and trying to do what’s best to fix them, rather than making the same mistakes over and over again, which is what Amir seemed to do in the novel. Amir was the exact opposite of his father, which made it very hard for them to have a
In The Kite Runner, Amir and his father, Baba, display lives of contradictions while Hassan and Rahim Khan live lives of purity. Baba is displayed as an immoral man while at home because he is not loving his son and he cheated with his friends’ wife and had a child. Even some of Baba’s good qualities, such as his care for Hassan and Ali, his father, seem to have a selfish motive behind them because he wants to keep his son close to him. While Baba is never the father figure in the first part of the book, once they leave their home, Baba seems to care a lot more about Amir.
Have you ever felt like your parents don’t understand you or your needs? I know I have. This is exactly what happens in the stories Confetti Girl by Diana Lopez and Tortilla Sun by Jennifer Cervantes. The two main characters parents are trying to do what is best for their family however they have a different view on what is “best” for their family. This is why I believe that The differences in points of view in both Confetti Girl and Tortilla Sun cause there to be varying amounts of tension between the kid and the parent.
From the way that child acts, to the way they present themselves, throughout their entire life they will always fall back on the foundation they were given by their parents. As shown multiple times in The Kite Runner, Amir and Baba's relationship affects Amir's life in childhood and adulthood, and the entire plot of the book. The plot of The Kite Runner is affected mainly by Baba's lack of interest in Amir's life, his failure to treat Hassan and Amir as equals, and his negative impact of taking his guilt and anger from his past out on
Many women find that their mothers have the greatest influence on their lives and the way their strengths and weaknesses come together. In Amy Tan’s The Joy Luck Club, the lives of four Chinese mothers and their Chinese-American daughters are followed through vignettes about their upbringings and interactions. One of the mothers, An-Mei Hsu, grows up away from her mother who has become the 4th wife of a rich man; An-Mei is forced to live with her grandmother once her mother is banned from the house, but eventually reunites and goes to live in the man’s house with her mother. Her daughter, Rose, has married an American man, Ted, but their marriage begins to end as he files for divorce; Rose becomes depressed and unsure what to do, despite her mother’s advice. An-Mei has strengths and weaknesses that shape her own courageous actions, and ultimately have an influence on her daughter.
Amy Tan, the author of The Joy Luck Club, displays life lessons mothers pass down to their daughters through the character An-mei, while Janice Mirikitani mirrors the morales presented in Tan’s novel through her own work, “For a Daughter Who Leaves”. The Joy Luck Club follows a series of mothers and their daughters and how they perceive and react to the cultural gap between them. An-mei’s story follows her through her life in China and her new life in America. In China, she witnesses the abuse her mother goes through and eventually her mother’s suicide. She does not want her daughter, Rose, to repeat the same mistakes her mother and herself made, so she tries to teach Rose how to live a happy and full life without regrets. In Mirikitani’s
Over the course of the novel, Baba implies that he is not proud of Amir and the only reason he knows Amir is his son, is because he witnessed Amir 's birth. He states to Rahim Khan that he thinks Amir needs to stand up for himself more often. Countless times during the novel, Amir feels like he has to fight for his affection, that he has to earn Baba’s love. In order to prove himself worthy of affection and to redeem himself for not being a son Baba could be proud of, Amir yearns to win the kite runner competition. He reminisces on a memory, when all “I saw was the blue kite. All I smelled was victory. Salvation. Redemption” (65). In the aftermath of Hassan’s rape, Amir got rid of Hassan so he would not have to face the cause of his guilt on a daily basis. Amir buries the secret of the rape deep within him, where he hopes that it will not come back to haunt him, which is not the case. “We had both sinned and betrayed. But Baba had found a way to create good out of his remorse. What had I done, other than take my guilt out on the very same people I had betrayed, and then try to forget it all? What had I done, other than become an insomniac? What had I ever done to right things?” (303). As mentioned earlier, Amir is not one who stands up for himself. In order for Amir to redeem himself for betraying Hassan, and not standing up for him earlier,
Shirley Jackson’s short story “Charles” takes place at home mostly in a dining room. Laurie thinks it is funny to tell his parents about a kid who gets in trouble all the time. His parents really want to meet “Charles” who Laurie has been talking about. A PTA meeting takes place and the parents will be looking out for Charles parents. In the story they even start saying they have been pulling Charles. Furthermore “Charles” by Shirley Jackson suggests when parents blindly trust their kids; they might be surprised with the outcome.
Many people have their own struggles in life, especially when it comes to wanting the best for their children. In “Mother and Daughter” by Gary Soto, the family of two have a struggle with money. In “Charles” by Shirley Jackson, the parents of a young boy are worried about the influences that are being exposed to their son at his elementary school. The authors both used dialogue and story descriptions to prove that parents want what’s best for their children.
He would do anything, even as a small child, to please Amir. Even after he grew up and had a son, he told his son about his love for Amir. “And, under the same roof, we spoke our first words. Mine was Baba. His was Amir. My name.” (Hosseini, 12). If this was a teenage romance novel this would be a love triangle. Between Amir, Hassan and Baba. Amir spent his entire life trying to make Baba like him, to forgive him for killing his wife, to understand him, and get that special father to son bonding. Baba instead gave his attention to the servant’s son, Hassan. Later the story we find out that Hassan is Baba’s son too, but this is after both have died and Amir is a grown man. During his childhood Amir would have done anything to gain his father attention like Hassan had. Baba, feeling guilty, gave his attention to Hassan, and treated him kindly, out of guilt for not being able to recognise Hassan as his son. Yet Baba never treated Amir diskindly, other than the fact they never got along. Hassan did not go to school, and spent his time helping Ali with household chores, but got respected by Baba, and given gifts during holidays and a kite for flying season. Amir and Baba did not click in the way both of them wanted too. Amir tried to fake interests in sports for Baba, but after watching a rider get trampled by his horse, and started crying during the one and only sport event Baba took him too. “I cried all the way back home. I remember how Baba’s hands clenched around the steering wheel. Clenched and unclenched. Mostly, I will never forget Baba’s valiant efforts to conceal the disgusted look on his face as he drove in silence.” (Hosseini, 23) This was Amir memory of the sporting event. Amir need for love from Baba, led him standing in the alley watching Hassan get raped, knowing that when he brought that blue kite to Baba he will earn his love. Hassan on the other hand could not love Amir any less. To
From childhood you need good solicitous parents. If you have good parents, it has good effects on you, but if you have bad parents that don’t care about you, it will have negative effects on you and your future. Of course, that’s not a rule, but in most cases that will be the chance. My parents raised me well and have always loved me, and I love them too. If your life has to be good, you always need some resistance from your parents, so it isn’t all sugar in your childhood. Resistance will surely be good for you. My parents always there to support me. Support is very important for your life no matter your 5 years old or 60 years old. They have been there to support and guide me, whether it is badminton, school or any other problems. So it’s very important to have parents, and most important, parents that supports and guides me.
Children sometimes feel as if parents are mean and overprotective. Children get mad when their parents do not let them date at a certain age, stay out late, and even wear certain clothes. But parents always have a reason for their actions whether the child may like it or not. An example, one’s parent may have dated at a younger age and ends up pregnant. Parents do not want their children to make the same mistakes as they have done. Another example, everyone wants to wear the latest trending clothes. For women the clothes may be too revealing or makes the child look older than what she is. For men, the clothes may be baggy and not professional. Parents try not to let their children dress a certain way because they care about their children’s appearance. Some parents did not have anyone to tell them how to dress or carry themselves when they were younger. All of this ties in with having
When Help Hurts published in June 2013 and Praise Worth Receiving published in July 2012 both identify the importance of involvement of parents within a child’s upbringing and specifically highlights the positive outcome communication plays whether it is in the form of praise or motivation for the child and the parent. It is often seen that a child’s behavior and attitude is reflected by the parents’. Motivation through praise is one of the ways parents can encourage children to do their best as it allows one to gain a greater self-confidence. Descript...