From your personal life to your work life, self-management plays an important role in how successful you’ll be. The self management chapter in the Emotional Intelligence for project managers by Anthony C. Mersino resonated with me. It made me realize that I may have issues with self-management, and It is something that I need to work on; especially when my main goal is to become a Project Manager. To manage a team of people and to get a certain project there’s a lot of things I would need to do. According to the chapter, I would need: self control, to acknowledge what triggers certain emotions, and how to reduce or take away those triggers. Self management causes us to focus more on how we are feeling and why we are feeling the way we are. …show more content…
The model had social awareness and self awareness separated in too two different step. Both steps work hand in hand when it comes to project management. If I can recognize my own faults and things that I am not succeeding in when it comes to how I handle my emotions; then I could completely understand where someone else is coming from. Being self aware should automatically make someone socially aware as well, in my opinion. After social awareness comes relationship management, which also works hand in hand. If a person is social aware then they should be able to handle business relationships accordingly. Social awareness and relationship management should be sub-parts of self - awareness. Other than my disagreement with those two minor details of the model, I believe that this is what makes someone a good project manger. It also made me aware that there are several things within this model that I do not completely have under control. Social awareness is a major thing that I realized I needed to work on. Personal feelings do not belong in a work place. As a project manager, if I would have to keep my emotions under check, then so does my team. This may come off as me not being empathetic, and I am completely fine with that. I would not want someone on my team who brings their emotional baggage to work, especially when we are working on big projects. I do not necessarily mean that we should not …show more content…
I did not even realize what some of my triggers was until Mersino put it right in front of my face. It caused me to look back at certain situations and realize that there are certain triggers to my emotional distress.A lot of the emotional break downs that I have had were due to the fact that I misunderstood where another person may have been coming from. Some of the emotional triggers that were mentioned that resonated with me were: moods and attitudes of others, pre-thinking, dwelling , and perceived criticisms. I have to agree that these lists of things are what triggers me and I feel that if many people seen the list they would probably notice a lot of their triggers too. The chapter went into further detail about each triggers and why they might happened. A light bulb went off in my mind where I thought of almost every situation that might have been caused by each situation. A lot of the times if someone has a bad attitude, it is like a domino affect. One persons mood can change everyone else mood. If every one is working in a bad and the quality of the project will most like not be up to standards. Pre- thinking as well can be horrible, there are moments where my negative thing is the reason that a certain situation turns out bad. I would not want to be a Project Manager, and also have a pessimistic attitude
In my own words, I believe that self-control is a deliberate attempt to change the way one thinks and acts about something. For instance, during the month of March, I am on a restricted diet to try to find food triggers to my daily migraines. When I first started, I had to remind myself constantly that at breakfast I wasn’t going to grab a glass of milk, or at lunch, that I wasn’t going to make myself a sandwich. I didn’t realize how hard this was going to be when I first started. There are still times, 15 days after starting, that I am reminded by my mom or dad that I can’t eat certain foods or that I have to pack my own dinner because where we go for dinner won’t have food that I can eat. Every day, I am retraining my mind at how I look at food. I am having to constantly shift my mind away from the long list of food I can’t eat and focus on food that I can. The way that I shift my thoughts of food, is similar to how Erica in Brooks’ book had to shift her thoughts to focus on her tennis match going on. It is a constant rewiring of how the brain looks at the world around us. This process is not easy, and takes a lot of work and time. However, as time progresses, it does get easier. Growing up, I missed a several years of my childhood due to tragedies that occurred. Going through the aftermath of some of the hardships I was facing, I developed an isolated mindset. I thought that if I didn’t get close to people, than I couldn’t get hurt by them as well.
Self-control is a topic and concept argued frequently in the psychological world. Some believe that self-control is an innate feature of human kind, while others, like Baumeister, believe it is a characteristic that can be practiced and strengthened. Baumeister’s model of willpower describes self-control as a muscle that can be depleted and replenished, just as any other muscle in the body. What is self-control exactly? Well, Freud was a psychologist who believed that personality is a biological component of ones-self,...
Cournoyer (2014) holds that if a social worker is self-aware, then he or she can ensure that one’s personal issues and biases remain personal in a professional setting. I scored high on the self-control measure, which indicates that I can manage my thoughts, feelings, and behaviors such that I can simultaneously acknowledge their existence, understand how they might impact my client, and decide how I should react based on my client’s best interests. However, in situations that are emotionally arousing, it is difficult for me to consider other’s thoughts and feelings because when my emotions are raging a disconnect occurs between my intellect and emotions, which in turn produces a narrowed, one-sided perspective. To counteract this tendency, I will practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing exercises when working with clients to ensure my focus remains on the
“Emotional self-regulation refers to the strategies we use to adjust our emotional state to a comfortable
One very important trait all people must have is self-control, regardless of what profession they have. In Peak Performance Ferret notes
In this paper I will be discussing two theories that my classmates and myself have learned about during this semester. The main objective is to explain, compare and contrast the theories using the information that we have learned inside of our text books. The two theories that I have chosen to use are the social bonding theory and the self-control theory. I chose these theories because these were the two that I was most interested in during my time of study.
The purpose of this paper is to review the theory of self-regulation and how it can be applied to practice in health care settings to improve patient outcomes. According to Johnson (1997), more than 25 years of research has influenced the development of the self-regulation theory, which is about coping with healthcare experiences. Health problems have shifted from acute to chronic where it has been identified that personal behaviors are linked to over half of societies chronic health problems (Ryan & Sawin, 2009). As the modern nurse strives to provide specialized care and improve patient outcomes, the utilization of nursing theory continues to gain importance. This theory explains how patients use specific types of information to cope with health care events thus providing a rational for selecting information that can be expected to benefit patients. The concept of self-regulation has been a part of nursing practice in a circumlocutory fashion for years. It has been most commonly referred to as self-management creating considerable ambiguity and overlapping of definitions for that term and self-regulation (SR). For the purpose of this paper these terms will imply that people follow self-set goals introduced by their health care provider.
Applying these aspects of emotional intelligence has a significant enhancing effect on every aspect of life. It allows one to be self aware, improving the ability to process information about oneself accurately (Goleman, 2008). Emotional intelligence also affects management of mood in that it enhances one’s ability to manage emotions, create moods of positivity, and defuse bad moods. Emotional intelligence also comes in handy with regards to motivation of self. It increases an individual’s ability to overcome frustration, the ability to be persistent, ability to engage in tasks that are boring, but necessary, and to be involved in and cut out productive and non-productive actions respectively.
We probably all know people, either at work or in our personal lives, who are really good listeners. No matter what kind of situation we're in, they always seem to know just what to say – and how to say it – so that we're not offended or upset. They're caring and considerate, and even if we don't find a solution to our problem, we usually leave feeling more hopeful and optimistic. We probably also know people who are masters at managing their emotions. They don't get angry in stressful situations. Instead, they have the ability to look at a problem and calmly find a solution. They're excellent decision makers, and they know when to trust their intuition. Regardless of their strengths, however, they're usually willing to look at themselves honestly. They take criticism well, and they know when to use it to improve their performance. As a case in point, I will evaluate my former manager on each of the five components of emotional intelligence. First, she had high levels of self-awareness. For examp...
Self control is important to teach to children because they learn the concept of courage, honesty, deal effectively with emotions, such as anger, and to be patience. Teachers need to demonstrate a positive attitude when they are dealing with different type of behavior. To have a successful and positive response from our children I as a future teacher have to give the attention that they need. For example: If Karen take away Susan‘s pencil and she comes to me to explain the situation, and I ignore...
“Self-concept consists of knowledge, views and evaluation of the self, ranging from miscellaneous facts of personal history to the identity that gives a sense of purpose and coherence to life” (McCrae and Costa, 1996). With self-concept, we learn who we are by observing ourselves and using our cognitive processes to judge and evaluate our behaviour. However, with self-regulation, we are able to use this knowledge and judgment and apply it to future situations and so predicts behaviour and says a lot about our personality. If we are willing to cognitively analyse past situations and apply it effectively to future situations, this means we are changing our behaviour, thus changing our
I scored moderate on the LOC, (specifically internal LOC) and EI assessments. When evaluating these two tests I found a relationship between my control of emotions and my fate. These surveys made it apparent that my capability to control my feelings provides a higher internal LOC. As Mohapatra and Gupta’s (2010) study suggests, “Being in charge of one's emotions leads a person to believe that he's in control of his/her life and can attain his/her goals by well directed efforts” (p. 16). At work I run into this correlation every time I am dealing with a customer. When I am socially aware of their emotions, I can micro manage my own emotions accordingly. In succession, this increases my relationship management capability. If I do not maintain a high level of EI at work I see my customers’ dissatisfaction as my fault. Therefore, when taking the fate of my customers’ happiness into my own hands, whether it goes bad or good, depends on my handling of the surrounding emotions. Before this test I had not critically thought about how I handled my emotions in a work setting. This helped me understand the connection between being in c...
Self-discipline is that of an individual to choose the hard right over the easy wrong when nobody
For me, self-management has always been rather easy, as I am fiercely independent and would rather be left alone to manage myself than work under someone else. However, the toughest part of this particular domain for me is accepting my own failures or mistakes. While I loved learning to be more independent when it comes to school and working when I started my BSW, I also think I became harder on myself when I did not get the right grade, or the right field placement. One of the things I think I need to work own most, is finding a balance between taking responsibility for my actions and behaviors and being too hard on myself for those actions and behaviors. This, like my flexibility, comes back to emotional intelligence relating to my own self-control surrounding my own disruptive emotions, as I can work through my under-achievements without clouding my own thinking, and continue on towards my goals (Goleman,
According to Bryant (2016), “self-leadership is the process by which you influence yourself to achieve your objectives.” So how do you achieve this, you start with developing your leadership point of view. Developing my leadership point of view forced me to reflect on the leader models in my life. It also forced me to evaluate the key events and experiences from my past and determine how they have impacted me as a leader. This self-reflection process allowed me to discover who I am, what my values and beliefs are and what my true purpose is in life. Thus far, this process has made me more self-aware and self-awareness is key to self-motivation and motivating others.