In this paper I will be explaining criticism and how to accept it in the work place. Criticism is something everyone will experience in their life. Criticism is will take place in many different settings and during a variety of circumstances. It will often come in one of two forms positive or negative. How you choose to accept both forms of criticism depends heavily on you but also on the person giving the criticism. Some people are naturally very critical and may be unware of the criticism that they are giving. Acceptance means to give consent, believe or come to recognize. It is important to realize that acceptance is a crucial part of criticism. How you choose to accept the criticism that you are being giving will determine how beneficial it will be to you and also your ability to work in the work place with that person .You need to have high self- esteem and feel positive about yourself and your abilities to be able to receive the criticism especially if it is negative. You should also keep in mind that you have full control of what you choose to believe about yourself. It is completely up to you to determine what is constructive or deconstructive for you. As I mentioned earlier some people are naturally critical people who are completely oblivious to the fact that they are criticizing anyone. You will more than likely …show more content…
Positive criticism is given to not just point out what you are not doing correctly or in the most effective way but, to demonstrate or explain how you could do perform better in the work place. This form of criticism is important for you to learn how to take not only in the work place but in life. It will not only improve your work but will be beneficial for the company that you are working for, which could lead to promotions or increase in pay. Basically with learning to recognize positive criticism you are helping yourself and the company you are working
basic charge of this criticism can be stated in the words of a recent critic,
Firstly , Tannen introduces the term “culture of critique” by beginning three successive paragraphs with the term so that the reader will not forget it. Tannen then identifies the problem presented by the “culture of critique”, that is, a tendency to attack the person making an argument, or misrepresenting the issue, rather than arguing against their position itself. She points out that instead of listening to reason, people who are caught up in the culture of critique debate as i...
With all the different types of literature we have in our world, we also have a similar amount of interpretations of those pieces of literature. Each interpretation is as valid as the other. Literature not only allows the writer to create a wonderful world and a story, it allows the reader to fully embrace the story and find meaning out of it. There are also many different types of literary criticisms. These criticisms are vehicles or guidelines for us to use to understand the reading in a very specific way and really pinpoint the issues and overall theme of the story.
A traditional method assumes that the criticism involves both explication of what actually went on when the speaker engaged his or her audience, and an evaluation of how well the speaker performed the task of changing the audiences’ perspective of reality. It is also assumed that the traditional method will create a feeling of identification and sense of relatedness between the speaker or writer and the
Stosny states that “criticism fails because it embodies two of the things that human beings hate the most: it calls for submission, and we hate to submit and it devalues, and we hate to feel devalued” (Stosny). Furthermore, he argues that criticism is used as a form of “ego defense” when we feel devaluated by behavior or attitude as opposed to disagreeing with their behavior or attitude (Stosny). Tony Schwartz, author of the article “There’s No Such Thing as Constructive Criticism” for HarvardBusinessReview.com, says that criticism “challenges our sense of value” and “implies judgement and we all recoil feeling judged” (Schwartz). Schwartz reiterates the point that constructive criticism is a useful tool that isn’t working or doesn’t exist simply because people don’t know how to properly give or receive constructive criticism. To prove this, he lists three reasons why we assume constructive criticism doesn’t work while in reality it actually does. “The first mistake we often make is giving feedback when we are feeling that our own value is at risk. That’s a recipe for disaster, and it happens far more commonly than we think, or are aware” (Schwartz). To summarize this reason he listed, Schwartz states that when we feel like we’re being
When many people write, including myself, they get attached to their writing. Although writing can be a personal thing, I’ve learned that it is important to step away from your paper, and take the feedback on an objective level. The first time I got feedback, I had an overwhelming urge to defend myself. I remember reading that my introduction wasn’t complete, and that my evidence wasn’t properly introduced. I wanted to walk up to those who critiqued my paper, and spit right in their faces. ‘How dare they say bad things about my paper?’ I thought to myself. From here, I went back into my essay, and looked at what they had told me were errors. It was then that I realized that they were right. My introduction needed more background information, and my evidence should have had more of an introduction. They weren’t trying to be mean; they were just helping me receive a better grade, by looking at my essay through an objective view. Now, I go out of my way to ask people for feedback, and tell them to be honest. I want my paper to be the very best it can be, so it isn 't helpful when people hold back. I now understand that those giving feedback aren’t insulting me, or the paper; they are just suggesting ways to improve, or enhance my ideas. Giving and receiving feedback is a hard, yet important skill to learn, and hope to continue improving in this
“You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself” (Sparacino, n.d.). This quote by Bianca Sparacino (n.d.) points out the gravity of the impact desensitization can have on someone. When the word “desensitization” comes up, people tend to think of an emotionally insensitive or callous human. Although this is true, desensitization involves much more than most realize. Whatever leads someone to the point of desensitization takes hold of their emotions, actions, and mind. The term “desensitization” can be defined as overstimulation to the point of indifference, a lack of empathy, and a conditioned response.
Her research has shown that daughters describe a mother’s criticism as “ a magnifying glass held between the sun rays … concentration the rays of imperfection” (971). But for a mother a criticism is just a way to help her daughter improve. As sighted by Deborah “ Mothers subject their daughters to a level of scrutiny people usually reserve for themselves.” Meaning a mother will be a tough critic not because their daughter does not please them, but because a mother only wants what is best for their daughter.
Teenagers who overly criticized by their parents may suffer from low self esteem; especially when it’s done in a demeaning manner. Constructive criticism is a better technique used to correct mistakes or any disagreement with teen agers. Teenagers with low self esteem tend to engage in negative activities such as bullying, smoking, drinking, or disordered
Self-acceptance can be a pretty broad term. It can address many different facets of the human experience. It can be talking about your looks, your ideology, your situation; really anything that you experience in your life. That’s why it is important to define it in the way that I see it, because so many others can have a different perception of what it really means. To me, acceptance is acknowledging your flaws and learning to be okay with who you are as a person; no strings attached.
... to everyone else's idea about you. Pretty soon, it affects your life in a much larger way than anyone intended it to. Although at times we do it unintentionally, it does not change the fact that an individual can be hurt by a simple word. The author Jane Porter once wrote, "I never yet heard man or woman much abused that I was not inclined to think the better of them, and to transfer the suspicion or dislike to the one who found pleasure in pointing out the defects of another."
(Chap 10) Soliciting feedback is needed to not only improve oneself but also performance and relationship between family, friend, co-workers, etc. I remember when I was little, I would always eat and would be bigger than the other kids in my grade. I hated when people or my family would tell me to lose weight because it hurts my self-esteem. However, if it weren’t for those feedbacks about my health, I think I would not be aware of how I would have many heart problems or diseases in the future. I’ve became more aware of how I am and started to pay attention more to what I eat and how I exercise. By being more aware of health, actions, etc. people are able to be more positive and learn to value opinions and take action. Self-assessment is when using self-inquiry and reflection in order to gain insights into oneself. Especially when reflecting on certain actions and feelings within the team. When I need calm down or reduce my stress levels, I would meditate or paint to relieve myself. Exercising also helped me to increase my endorphins, especially when there’s so many assignments or in need of a break. People adapt more to reflecting themselves would become more satisfied about
The book I'm a Stranger Here Myself, written by Bill Bryson, is based on a collection of written articles. Bryson writes about everyday events and shows their negative qualities through whining or creative criticism. He attracts the readers' attention by writing ideas that relate to a normal persons life. His methods are very powerful because it attracts his main audience of common people through his simple vocabulary use and everyday middleclass situations. Also between his "complaining" he throws in little jokes that make his stories entertaining. This makes the reader continue reading because it constantly grabs their attention. Another reason of why Bryson's style of writing is very effective is because all of his stories have a main theme that gives a strong and important message to the reader. Some of these messages may be a little controversial to some readers but are very thought out and well explained.
Irrespective of our imperfections we are unique and have our own strengths. We should appreciate all the positives and uniqueness. Give credit where it 's due. We all need help from each other. We need critics too. Let 's thank those who encourage us and also to those who disagree with us, help us find our imperfections and weaknesses. As we grow older and learn more, we don 't worry about receiving, but rather strive for giving it back. Let it be the best of our work, knowledge or even a few words of appreciation. Keep giving it and keep sharing it with others.
According to Career Quotes (n.d.), “What is the recipe for successful achievement? To my mind there are just four essential ingredients: Choose a career you love, give it the best there is in you, seize your opportunities, and be a member of the team” (Career Quotes, n.d.). In this paper I will be addressing the following questions: how do you use critical thinking in decision making and problem solving in your professional life?, what are the three most important elements of personal and professional etiquette that you employ in your professional life?, what are your strengths and weaknesses in your professional life?, and what strategies do you employ to stay on-task and on-time in your professional life?