Summary Of Don 'T Believe The Perfect Mother Myth' By Em Hunter

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Traditionally speaking, a true mother caters to the needs of her children and husband. However, with the current stigmas that lie in this society, mothers are suddenly pressured to fit the picture of a perfect mom whose job is to only care for her family. The flaw in this logic lies in incapability of society to accept that once women become mothers they are carrying an extra burden to not only take care of themselves but to also raise their family. Society should respect and appreciate mothers every day, not just on Mother's Day. In the short article called “Don’t Believe the “Perfect Mother” Myth” by Em Hunter is shameful because Hunter is unhappy with the infinite guilt that mothers always feel. In addition, in the poem “DayStar” by Rita …show more content…

Hunter shows an example when she “scoffed at a mother who was groomed impeccably with perfect hair and manicures”. She put the woman in shame because she believes on the society’s standards that a woman should have spent her money on her children instead of exerting the money to her beauty. In addition, Hunter felt “an uncomfortable, suffocating guilty feeling” after she unfairly judged this mom. Her judgmental attitude built a guilt towards her and the other mother. This never ending cycle of shaming never brings moms to a point when they can fully fulfill their life. If becoming a mom equivocates towards giving up her life before, many moms today will have a hard time deciding whether they want to start a family or not. Being a mom incorporates many factors, one of which includes self-care. Even though society influences the expectations of women, mothers need to understand that loving themselves and taking time to devote to themselves is not selfish, but instead healthy. If mothers were to only satisfy the needs of her husband and children, they would drain themselves of the soul they had before they uptake the job of being a mother. Therefore, the shaming of mothers should come to an end because mothers should never be ashamed of taking time to care about themselves since they truly deserve it for all the hard work that they put into their

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