Matching Cube Analysis Around the GCU campus, marriage and engagement is in the air. Men and women who have been together from a few months to a few years have made the decision to commit to each other for the rest of their life. In the Bible, there are four different Greek words that mean love: agape (Godly), eros (erotic), storge (family), and philia (friendship). In social psychology, there are three main types of love that combine to form different types of love. In Sternberg’s Triangular Theory of Love, there are three main types of love: liking (intimacy alone), empty love (commitment alone), and infatuation (passion alone) (Kassin, Fein, & Markus, 2013). When intimacy, commitment, and passion are combined, an experience known as consummate …show more content…
I am an outgoing type of person that tries to get involved in my church, school, and community as much as possible. Cynthia is more timid and prefers to stay at home and relax. Although I do not agree that we should rate people on their attractiveness, my family and close friends repeatedly told me I was out of her league. They regularly said I was an eight and she was a four. This goes against the theory that people who are similar to each other in attractiveness seem to gravitate towards each other intelligence (“Lecture 5,” 2015). To me, she was out of my league because she was the most beautiful woman on the planet. I overlooked her frequent judgmental comments of others and lack of ambition to serve the Lord in all she does. One can attribute this to the halo effect, which is when we assume people who we find attractive in looks also hold additional positive traits like social skills and intelligence (“Lecture 5,” 2015). We wanted different things for our futures; I wanted to settle down on the east coast and start a family via reproduction and adoption while pursuing ministerial roles in the church, whereas she wanted to stay in Arizona and did not want to adopt. We had different intellectual abilities. I was an AP student through high school and I am a student in the Honors College at Grand Canyon University. Cynthia graduated high school taking the bare minimum required classes and is currently not attending any college. My interest is to do well in school and pursue my masters, but she has no interest in higher education. The way our schedules worked, we were never able to satisfy each other’s love languages. I was a full time student living at GCU working two jobs and volunteering to lead the young adults group at my church. Cynthia lived with her parents an hour away and worked a part time job. Every so often, she would come to GCU to visit me or I would drive down to her work and surprise her during her
A History of Marriage by Stephanie Coontz speaks of the recent idealization of marriage based solely on love. Coontz doesn’t defame love, but touches on the many profound aspects that have created and bonded marriages through time. While love is still a large aspect Coontz wants us to see that a marriage needs more solid and less fickle aspects than just love. The first chapter begins with an exploration of love and marriage in many ancient and current cultures.
Different forms of romantic love between a man and a woman can be seen throughout each of the three chosen texts, but through each negative aspect of these relationships they appear to affect them in an adverse way, whether this is through false love, forbidden love, or through unrequited love.
This passage marks the first of several types of love, and gives us an intuitive
Conception of Love in The Kreutzer Sonata Perhaps Tolstoy's short story, “The Kreutzer Sonata”, truly captures one definite conception of love, albeit a very negative one. To understand more about what is brought to light in this story, we need to take a look at it, more importantly at the character of Pozdnychev. Pozdnychev has just spent several years in prison for the murder of his unfaithful wife, as we find out early in the story. His tale is a sordid one, as he relates his past life, before his wedding, the meeting of his wife, their marriage, their dreadful relationship up to the murder itself and the tribunal. What is interesting in his story remains the unique perception he has on love, on marriage, and on society in general.
In Aldrous Huxley’s A Brave New World, pleasure is the main driving force in life. The government uses tools such as the wonder drug soma and the endorphins naturally released during and after sexual intercourse to keep the minds of their well-tended flock off of matters that might concern them if they had not previously been conditioned to resort to a vice the moment that they begin to conceive an ill thought. Lenina 's adulation of John, the Savage, is perhaps one of the more obvious triggers of soma usage within the novel. Lenina does not understand John 's concept of love, and attempts to show her affection in the only way she knows how, and that is by having sex with him. She thinks this is a normal act, but for him, it is sanctity. John believes that one should only express their passion through sex if they are married as is the custom on the reservation. This leads John to call Lenina many obscene names and to send her into the tender arms of soma instead. She merely wishes him to reciprocate her advances, which she would take as meaning that he was happy to be with her. She simply wants the both of them to be joyous in their carnal revelry but “Happiness is a hard master – particularly other people 's happiness. A much harder master, if one isn 't conditioned to accept it unquestioningly, than truth” (Huxley 227, Brave New World). John and Lenina are very different people however, as Lenina tells Bernard “I don 't understand … why you don 't take
The definition of a relationship has changed so many times in the past decades. It has gone from a connection between two people to an obsession and almost a competition. In today’s world a relationship consists of major intimacy and closeness. There are some who believe that intimacy while dating is wrong. They form their own definition of a relationship into what they call a “godly relationship”. Those supporting that kind of a relationship condemn sexual closeness and monitor who their young people are allowed to date. There are two worlds of dating in our lives today; one with infatuation and the other with togetherness.
Love is a concept that has puzzled humanity for centuries. This attachment of one human being to another, not seen as intensely in other organisms, is something people just cannot wrap their heads around easily. So, in an effort to understand, people write their thoughts down. Stories of love, theories of love, memories of love; they all help us come closer to better knowing this emotional bond. One writer in particular, Sei Shōnagon, explains two types of lovers in her essay "A Lover’s Departure": the good and the bad.
Twicknam Garden was a poem written by John Donne in 1607. It is one of
Many sociologists, such as Anthony Giddens (1992), argue that intimacy within couples has been transformed in contemporary society. Giddens (1992) argues that couple relationships have now become detraditionalised due to a decline of traditional roles males and females play in society. The idea of romantic love (developed in the late 18th century) of having the one and only, no longer exists. Romantic love has been transformed into confluent love, which is a characteristic of the pure relationship. Giddens believes that relationships between couples have developed from what were partnerships between unequals to what are now partnerships between equals. Individuals now enter into relationships for what they can get from the other person and these relationships end when what they get is no longer satisfactory to either individual (Giddens 1992). From this Giddens ...
Dating and marriage is not always how the movies picture it to be. It can be a complicated entanglement that is a special part of one’s life at the same time. Reality imposes a lot of true questions in relationships, which must be figured out in order for the relationship to thrive. Here is my take on dating and marriage for my life.
n Robert Sternberg 's triangular theory of love, love is separated down into three different components. Passion, Intimacy, and Commitment are the three components of love and take on different roles in the theory of love. Passion involves physical and sexual attraction to the someone of interest. The feeling of excitement is also associated with passion, individuals tend to very excited to see their partner. Intimacy involves security, a sense of comfort and trust. If information about oneself is shared that it will be safe in the person of interest hands. Communication is the key element in this component. Commitment involves a decision of forming a long term relationship based on feelings for someone of interest. This in modern time in called
Love begets love. It is universally known that humans long for the feeling of love. However, what humans perceive as love might not be what love actually is. Many people believe love to be either physical or emotional, but it is never seen biological or physiological. Barbara Fredrickson, however, argues in her article “Selections from Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Think, Do and Become” that people are looking at love with a closed view. Fredrickson explains how the system of love is divided in three sections, the brain, oxytocin, and the vagus nerve. Each plays a special part in making a human what they are emotionally and physically. All of these also play
Throughout one’s life, an individual will experience a plethora of different relationships including friendship, family, and even enemies. Of all the relationships, however, the most beautiful and life changing one is the act of in love. Today’s culture has bred us to pursue someone to marry, to start a family, and to live happily ever after, which, in theory, sounds wonderful. Yet, in reality, the happily ever after propoganda is fictitious, for it does not exist. This notion causes a constant struggle between the false beliefs on how love works, and wanting to fall in love and stay in love. This struggle is why the bearing of one’s heart is terrifying. The words of love can never be taken back, and they can even be used against those brave enough to say them, therefore causing emotional trauma, along with a reluctance to express words of devotion again. This devastating experience causes an intense desire to find a way to erase the words of love that circulate in the
Hate, a passionate dislike for something or someone, has taken part of every war in the world, whether it is a political or civil one. Macklemore, the rapper of the song “Same Love”, uses powerful lyrics and imagery in many of his songs. It is in “Same Love” that he raps about a social issue that the world has been dealing with since, some could argue, the beginning of time. In the song “Same Love” he uses his rap to speak to everyone who can make a change in this world. “Same Love” by Macklemore & Ryan Lewis bring awareness to the unjust issue of homophobia by giving people the information they need to obtain a voice and stand up for humans who have had their rights stolen.
Love is many things; it has not one description that can be pin pointed. Love can be described as the openness of a relationship, the sexual attraction between partners, or can be seen as pure attraction to each other’s personalities. In Jonathon Haidt’s book, The Happiness Hypothesis, he writes about the types of love there are and which he believes is the most important. There are two main types of love, companionate and passionate love. Haidt defines true love as companionate love, having more importance in a relationship than that of passionate love. Companionate love is perceived as a stronger love than Passionate love, because of a better understanding in companionship and passionate love will not be everlasting. The idea of companionate over passionate makes sense, but media has formed a different outlook on love that has warped the genuine imagery of love.