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The novel ”Your shoes” by Michele Roberts is a story about a mother who is “writing” a letter to her daughter. The story is somewhat about how parents and children communicate, or fail to do so. Roberts is acknowledging that a lot of parents believe that material gifts can take the place of emotional support, and that displays itself in the form of the mother. The narrator of the story is the mother. The mother is in the daughter’s room and she is having an inner dialogue. Roberts has chosen to give the story a first-person narrator so that the reader experiences the emotions that the mother has. The first person view also makes the mother more trustworthy, which affects our view of the story. The narrator is limited to her own point of view. But she does comment on the daughter’s behavior and what she has said. The mother is probably about 40 years old so she wouldn’t understand how the daughter feels and why she has done the things that she has done. Even though the mother tries to be like a friend to the daughter by buying her shoes and giving her all the things her own mother didn’t give her. But then again the mother ignores the emotional needs of the daughter. She gives the daughter whatever she believes that she wants and whatever the mother would have …show more content…
The narrator talks as if she is angry with her own mother. She says that she preferred her fathers company. The narrator calls her mother a “A plump woman with a loud jolly laugh” she then continues describe her as “Fat, let’s be honest. Terribly vulgar, always saying the wrong thing then laughing.” Apparently, the narrator has a kind of hate to her mother and that hate becomes an insecurity when the narrator realizes that her mother loves the granddaughter more than she loves her own daughter. The narrator obviously disapproves of her own mother. She neglects her mother with a pride in learning and in a close relationship with her
...ther is losing her daughter to time and circumstance. The mother can no longer apply the word “my” when referring to the daughter for the daughter has become her own person. This realization is a frightening one to the mother who then quickly dives back into her surreal vision of the daughter now being a new enemy in a world already filled with evils. In this way it is easier for the mother to acknowledge the daughter as a threat rather than a loss. However, this is an issue that Olds has carefully layered beneath images of war, weapons, and haircuts.
This story begins with a request for the narrator to come in and discuss her daughter. The narrator's response to this is "Who needs help" (199). Her response is a statement and not a question. It conveys the narrator's negative attitude about the type of help the social worker, society or etc. can give. The narrator thinks "Even if I came, what good would it do? You think because I am her mother I have a key, or that in some way you could use me as a key. She has lived for nineteen years. There is all that life that has happened outside of me, beyond me" (199). This shows that she does not believe that she could do anything for her daughter even if she did come. Women in the 1950s, as portrayed on television, were very involved in their children's lives. They were always on top of things. By making the narrator appear less than involved and knowledgeable about her daughter's life, the author is contradicting the mainstream view of a mother in the 1950s.
The grandmother is an old woman who believes that the ways of the world should be kept the same and not change. She calls a black child ‘pickaninny’ and has many references to “back in her day.” She has very traditional ways and values. She dresses very fancy and proper in a nice dress while the mother in the story wears pants which are not considered to be ladylike. She dresses this nicely even though they are just going to be sitting in a car
...e on her part. Throughout the story, the Mother is portrayed as the dominant figure, which resembled the amount of say that the father and children had on matters. Together, the Father, James, and David strived to maintain equality by helping with the chickens and taking care of Scott; however, despite the effort that they had put in, the Mother refused to be persuaded that Scott was of any value and therefore she felt that selling him would be most beneficial. The Mother’s persona is unsympathetic as she lacks respect and a heart towards her family members. Since the Mother never showed equality, her character had unraveled into the creation of a negative atmosphere in which her family is now cemented in. For the Father, David and James, it is only now the memories of Scott that will hold their bond together.
Because this woman is a slave, she has no right to her own child, therefore she cannot claim him as her own. No matter how much she loves him or how much joy that he brings into her dreary life, he can never be hers, and her heart breaks when he is taken away from her. Mothers have a very special bond with their children; they feel a love that can be described as much stronger than any other kind of love in the world. This love that is felt by the slave mother in this poem literally changes the tone of the poem when the narrator speaks about the mother and her son. Despite the anguish and despair that she feels, the thought of her child can lift her spirits, only for the child to be taken away from her. Because of her race, she cannot claim any right to love her own child. As a woman, her right to be a mother and raise and love her child was taken away from her. The slave mother had no rights to herself or her own children, and her race and gender are the main causes for
... The mother's approach is a source of terror for the child, written as if it is a horror movie, suspense created with the footsteps, the physical embodiment of fear, the doorknob turns. His terror as he tries to run, but her large hands hold him fast, is indicative of his powerless plight. The phrase, 'She loves him.' reiterates that this act signifies entrapment as there is no reciprocation of the ‘love’.
Marie, who is a product of an abusive family, is influenced by her past, as she perceives the relationship between Callie and her son, Bo. Saunders writes, describing Marie’s childhood experiences, “At least she’d [Marie] never locked on of them [her children] in a closet while entertaining a literal gravedigger in the parlor” (174). Marie’s mother did not embody the traditional traits of a maternal fig...
was no mother figure spoke of, just her father, which she lived with alone other then
The mother is a selfish and stubborn woman. Raised a certain way and never falters from it. She neglects help, oppresses education and persuades people to be what she wants or she will cut them out of her life completely. Her own morals out-weight every other family member’s wants and choices. Her influence and discipline brought every member of the family’s future to serious-danger to care to her wants. She is everything a good mother isn’t and is blind with her own morals. Her stubbornness towards change and education caused the families state of desperation. The realization shown through the story is the family would be better off without a mother to anchor them down.
With reasons stating that the mother’s tone is too harsh, or that she doesn 't listen and address her daughter when she speaks out, or even that the mother seems to rush through all that she has to tell her daughter. While all of those points may seem valid they can be refuted by exposing that two of the arguments made against the original point, that the mother is loving, can be based on a person’s view and opinion. As one reads the story their minds goes to assumptions based on past experiences and those can cloud their mind. The tone and the speed how the mother tells her daughter all of this information is based on a reader’s assumptions and/or interpretation of the story, not facts. To refute the other argument that the mother does not specifically address her daughter’s outburst is that in the story she does address the outburst, just not in the ways that would seem conventional. After all, this is a story set years ago in a time that modern day parenting is quite different from in the 60’s. The mother addresses the last outburst of the daughter by asking her daughter after all this time she took to teach her daughter how to be a respectable young woman she won’t even take any of the teachings and become just another ‘slut’ in the eyes of the community.
The protagonist, Mama, shows two distinct traits throughout the story. She possesses a hard working demeanor and rugged features, leading to her insecurities shown throughout the story. She raised two children without the assistance of a man in her life, forcing her to take on both roles, and further transforming her into a coarse, tough, and burly woman. Mama portrays this through her own account of herself, saying “[i]n real life I am a large, big-boned woman with rough, man-working hands. In the winter I wear flannel nightgowns to bed and overalls during the day. I can kill and clean a hog as mercilessly as a man”(Walker 1312). It is very difficult for Mama to raise her kids on her own, but she does whatever
Also, it is written as if the narrator is a storyteller recalling and retelling a folklore to the reader. The narrator uses speech and quotes within the story, such as, “ Oh mother do stop crying..’ to give the tale seem more realistic as it makes the characters much more life-like, important and the story much more dramatic. (Grimm) Added to this, the writer does not share the feelings of the mother he just implies them with her actions, for example ‘crying.’ This also makes the story much more relatable because when someone is upset we only see their actions which in turn infer their feelings, rather than being told what they
The second person point of view helps the reader to connect with the girl in this story. It shows the reader a better understanding of this character and how she is being raised to be a respectable woman. This point of view also gives us an insight on the life of women and shows us how they fit into their society. Through this point of view, the reader can also identify the important aspects of the social class and culture. The daughter tries to assert a sense of selfhood by replying to the mother but it is visible that the mother is being over whelming and constraining her daughter to prepare her for
In the beginning, Pastan describes how the mother was “loping along beside her as she wobbled away”(Lines 3-5) which could symbolize the stage of a toddler when it is a necessity to depend on a adult or even more in depth it can be a baby’s first step. When the mother realizes, the toddler stage is over, and sees the own child is growing , “her own mouth rounding in surprise when she pulled ahead down the curved path,”(Lines 7-10) as if the daughter completed an accomplishment without her mother’s help. She waited for “the thud of her crash.. while she grew smaller, more breakable with distance.”(Lines 12-17) which does not literally mean she grew smaller but in fact the mother was seeing her less often, and felt as she could not reach out to her daughter to help her in any way since she never saw her. Meanwhile the daughter was “pumping for her life, screaming with laughter.”(Lines 18-20) having the time of her life. And soon enough before the mother could even realize, the daughter is leaving for college and moving out, or getting married and she’ll leave home “like a handkerchief waving goodbye.”(Lines 23-24)
The social inequality which the Younger's encounter also does not hinder Mama's compassion. Mr. Lindner temporarily shatters Mama's dream of owning a home when he comes to the Youngers prepared to give them money to move from Clybourne Park. The derogatory use of "you people" by Mr. Lindner has little to no effect on Mama's steadfast decision to move to Clybo...