Stephanie Coontz's Essay 'We Always Stood On Our Own'

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In the United States, having the willingness to work and being able to rely on your own resources and capabilities without asking for help is seen as the ideal American way. This mentality is part of the belief of self-reliance; the ability to provide for your own needs without dependency on others. Stephanie Coontz (1992) talks in her essay We Always Stood on Our Own Two Feet about the importance of self-reliance within the American family. People saw this value as the standard for a family within our society, and any type of help needed was provided within the family itself. However, families have actually depended on outside resources since way before. In this paper I will argue the misconception that Americans have by believing self-reliance …show more content…

As Coontz (2011) mentions, these settlers could have not been able to survive without the abundant resources of game, plants and berries that were already on this land thanks to the agriculture abilities of Native Americans. These resources gave settlers the opportunity to survive and begin their journey on this land, however this did not mean families were self-reliant. The simple fact that from the moment the settlers came to America and began their lives with resources from the Native Americans can already rule out the characteristic of self-reliance from our past as Americans. From there on, many families depended on help from the community. Coontz (2011) points out that families depended on church institutions, neighbors, courts, and government officials for their survival. Without forgetting about the millions of dollars spent on acquiring land by the government and then being sold to private individuals, something families themselves did not accomplish. Regardless of all this aid, the mentality of self-reliance stuck with the settlers for many years to come. As this belief continued to resonate in American’s heads, the misconception of them doing everything on their own persisted; people could not help but implement this belief onto families and …show more content…

According to Sharon Hays in her book Flat Broke with Children (2013), she points the limited resources that exist for mothers and families like these. She mentions the various programs that currently do exist for these mothers such as SNAP, a program that aids in money for food as well as other helping with taxes such as the Earned Income Tax, TANF an aid for families in need, and Medicaid covers a limited amount of medical and dental expenses. Although such programs do exist, she emphasizes the requirements as well as the stereotype held for the recipient’s of these programs. These cash assistance programs aid a smaller amount of money than what realistically would be needed in order to feed or provide for a family. Now, to even be able to receive these scare resources requires mothers to have a low paying job or undergo many obstacles to obtain or maintain government help until the family is able to overcome their crisis. They are heavily criticized for receiving help and not being able to provide for their own and not fulfilling the American value of “self-reliance”. Women with these struggles are faced upon a situation where due to their circumstances, they cannot provide as much as the rest. If we were to

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