Hooking up has essentially become a social norm in today’s society. Hooking up is almost second nature to adolescents and college students (Armstrong, Accounting for Women’s...) When comparing female standards of hooking up to the male standard it is repeatedly proven that women are judged much more harshly than the average man. Other studies find women’s sexual pleasure is heightened in long term relationships and women are expected to perform sexual acts that society has deemed okay, but men are not expected to return the favor(in the eyes of society.) In today’s society social norms have given women different morals than men and given women different outlooks and expectations of sex. It is not unknown that a woman is judged differently than a man. A man can have several sex partners and a woman the same number, but the woman is looked upon in a negative light. In the late 1950’society frowned upon women having premarital sex, but not men (Backstrom, Women’s Cunnilingus.) Today, the same thing is occurring but with sex outside of the relationship. It is not uncommon that people participate in premarital sex in current times like it was in the past. Now it’s having sex outside an exclusive relationship that people have a negative outlook on. This is exactly what hooking up is: sexual activity, which can span from a kiss to intercourse, outside of a committed relationship. Men are almost put on a pedestal when they refer to the amount of hook ups they are involved in. Women, however, have a completely different set of standards that they are being held too. This makes it much more challenging for a woman to express her sexual desires and keep a respectable reputation. Research implies that women are put to shame when it comes to... ... middle of paper ... ...ion for women just looking for hook ups. Whether it is the amount of sexual partners or how sexual satisfaction is acquired, women should not be placed at a different set of moral standards than a man. Today’s society has wrongly given women a different set of moral standards and expectations toward sexual experiences in comparison to men. Works Cited Armstrong, Elizabeth , Paula England, and Allison Fogarty. "Accounting for Women's Orgasm and Sexual Enjoyment in College Hookups and Relationships." American Sociological Review 1 (2012): n. pag. ASA. Web. 9 Feb. 2014. Backstrom, Laura , Elizabeth Armstrong, and Jennifer Puentes. "Women's Cunnilingus in College Hookups and Relationships." Journal of Sex Research 49 (2012): 1-12. Print. Kalish, Rachel, and Michael Kimmel. "Hooking Up." Australian Feminist Studies 25.67 (2011): n. pag. Summon. Web. 12 Feb. 2014.
Donna Freitas “Time to Stop Hooking Up. (You Know You Want to.)” First appeared as an editorial in the Washington Post in 2013. In this essay Freitas aims to convince her readers that hooking up may seem easy and less stress than a real relationship, but in reality they become unhappy, confused, and unfulfilled in their sex life. “Hookups are all about throwing off the bonds of relationships and dating for carefree sex” personal experience, compare and contrast are a few techniques Freitas skillfully uses to strong convincing essay.
Hooking up, and consent for a sufficient basis for sex that fosters human flourishing is moral based on how society has accepted its norms. Sex is a basic norm for today's society, being that new generations are engaging into the world, sex is no longer a hidden object. Hooking up is moral based on the acceptance of society, no one keeps it hidden anymore. The dating life, sex scene, and even your sexual preference is something that is more broad on life, which is why I argue that hooking up is moral. Acceptance is the key of hooking up, in today's society we do not get mad at those who are hooking up its more of a “to each is own” type of thing, which is why hooking up is both moral and the norm of society. In addition, the consent on sex
the thought police. In today’s society if a women gives into sexual intimacy with another person
...am Victorian society, sexual liberalism transformed the ways in which people arranged their private lives. Shifting from a Victorian environment of production, separate sexual spheres, and the relegation of any illicit extramarital sex to an underworld of vice, the modern era found itself in a new landscape of consumerism, modernism and inverted sexual stereotypes. Sexuality was now being discussed, systemized, controlled, and made an object of scientific study and popular discourse. Late nineteenth-century views on "natural" gender and sexuality, with their attendant stereotypes about proper gender roles and proper desires, lingered long into the twentieth century and continue, somewhat fitfully, to inform the world in which we live. It is against this cultural and political horizon that an understanding of sexuality in the modern era needs to be contextualized.
12). What is ok for one to do is not acceptable for another to do although they are equal. This standard is upheld by media on almost every outlet. This can range from women showing off their sexuality to the men being praised for sleeping around or having lots of women around him in one setting. An outside source goes on to state “Under the rubric of the sexual double standard, highly sexually active men are praised or rewarded with high status, whereas highly sexually active women are derogated or suffer a damaged reputation” (Marks, 2008, Pg. 84). In the society we live in a man can have a many sexual partners as he pleases and studies actually show that men do report having more sexual partners than women (Chapter 12). Not only is it glorified and encouraged but there are some countries that practice polygyny which is when a man has more than one wife making it acceptable in various cultures. There are instances where a woman has multiple husbands as well and this is referred to polyandry. A woman’s sexuality is always glorified and placed on a peddle stool in some cases. Men love to admire the female body like to cat call when they see something they like. However, if and when a woman acts in the sexual manner that men glorify them to be in, then the woman is looked at
Generally, if a woman sleeps around with a bunch of guys, society labels her as a “slut” and she’s viewed in a negative light, however, if a man sleeps around with a bunch of girls, society, considers him to be masculine and he’s viewed in a positive light. These types of moral assumptions that come with having sex, naturally place women on the bottom. Although things have become more progressive, with more women feeling comfortable to be sexually active despite the antiquated negative stereotypes, objectification of women in relation to sexuality is still entirely too
There has recently been an increase in casual sex and promiscuity throughout millennials. Although millennials have fewer partners, they are having more casual hookups. Today, “a large generation gap in both attitudes toward premarital sex and number of sexual partners” is greatly affecting our society (Kaplan). Promiscuity is increasing and close relationships are fading. Many are worried the world of dating will soon disappear. This promiscuity “creates a sense that hooking up has replaced traditional dating as the primary means of developing and maintaining relationships among young people, especially college students” (“Is Casual Sex on The Rise in America”). People are not marrying until later in life. They spend much of their younger years single, but not alone. They jump around from person to person, such as in Huxley’s dystopia. Although, unlike Huxley’s dystopia, relationships still exist. Many eventually find their partner and become married later on in
Society, for some reason, has forced a sense of morals or stereotypes on women’s behavior, speech, etc. Women being completely open about their sexuality is not as tolerable as it is for men. For example, a man is sometimes praised for openly discussing, moreso bragging, about the number of women he may have had sexual intercourse with. Society accepts men having multiple sex partners and even so commends them for doing so. For women, on the other hand, they are condemned for doing the same. Society women who chose to go against their views as being sluts or whore, thus attacking their character due to their sexual
Only by experience can people learn how these relationship boundaries should be drawn, and what makes them comfortable. By being discouraged to date and experience sexual activities, women lose the ability to demand a healthy relationship because they don’t know what a healthy relationship is. Purity balls discourage women building healthy relationships from experience because the participants feel that dating, and developing healthy sexual relationships without parental input leads to “getting used, betrayed, [and] having guys deceive [them].” (Baumgardner) While that care is well intentioned it promotes a double standard between young men and young women. Feminists like Amanda Paul believe that purity balls promote double standards between the sexes, because of the use of “purity rings… and overprotective parenting.” These are not commonly seen with young men (Paul) and by neglecting the idea of male sexual purity, it promotes the double standard between young men and young women that is pervasive in Western
Girls and women who are sexually active are shamed of it because of the sexual double standard presented in our society.
Kreager ,A. D. & Staff, J. (2009). The sexual double standard and adolescent peer acceptance.
In the United States, patterns of socialization exist that encourage men to feel they are expected to gain sexual access from reluctant women. They are more likely to be put in the position of decision maker and initiator in hetero-sexual relationships (Glass, 2002). Sex-role stereotypes encompass expected behaviors of both genders and through sexual scripts, guide expectations of how men and woman should interact with each other as strangers. Even though stranger-rape seems to be the least accepted type of rape scenario, men are often excused for being sexually aggressive while women are blamed for certain actions they
Today’s society is a sexual playing field. Celebrities on television and movies, models on the covers of magazines, and even politicians have become sexual legends in the map of American society. The issue of sex is publicly discussed, on media and otherwise, and as such, it has become, to a great degree, a measure of self-worth. Issues such as breast size, penis size, and sexual stamina have flooded the American public with the idea that one is defined by how sexually appealing s/he is.
There has recently been an increase in casual sex and promiscuity throughout millennials. Although millennials have fewer partners, they are having more casual hookups. Today “a large generation gap in both attitudes toward premarital sex and number of sexual partners” is greatly affecting our society (Kaplan). Promiscuity is increasing and close relationships are fading. Many are worried the world of dating will soon disappear. This promiscuity “creates a sense that hooking up has replaced traditional dating as the primary means of developing and maintaining relationships among young people, especially college students” (“Is Casual Sex on The Rise in America”). People are not marrying until later in life. They spend much of their younger years single, but not alone. They jump around from person to person, such as in Huxley’s dystopia. Although, unlike Huxley’s dystopia, relationships still exist. Many eventually find their partner and become married later on in
Paul, E. L., & Hayes, K. A. (2002). The casualties of “casual” sex: A qualitative exploration of the phenomenology of college students’ hookups. Journal of personal and Social Relationships, 19, 639-661.