Sharon Olds Sex Without Love

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In "Sex without Love" Olds criticizes those who have sex without love. She genuinely questions it using her perception to again, criticize the "lovers" using unique words to describe of what she thinks.
In the poem "sex without love" by olds talks about having sex without any emotions or feelings. That's where Sharon olds questions on how it is possible to have sex with someone when you don't love them. You don't love that one person then what's the point of having sex. It's not like you have any feelings towards that person. Why not wait for the right person to come along and to know them. Once you get to know that person, that is when you start accumulating feelings and love towards them. The question comes back on how it is possible to have "sex without love". …show more content…

But when the images are examined more closely he finds "something narcissistic in the performance of fine dancers and ice skaters" (line 20) Sutton. "Sex without love." Shows a "contrast between surface approval and deeper criticism of the ones who make love/without love" (Line 2). Many images within the poem appear to suggest that the speaker appreciates when partners pursue in sex without love, but when the images are closely analyzed within the poem, a more weary tone is shown from the speaker. Olds beautiful way of using imagery makes this poem come to reality. Olds uses similes every time throughout the poem to make the spectators to imagine the pictures in their minds. For example, Olds describes being intimacy as being as “beautiful as dancers.” (Line 2) In this line, she questions how one can do such a beautiful act with a person when you are not even in love with

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