Response to Random Chores In today’s society, it seems like all parents have their own ways of raising a child. For example, when correcting a child some parents believe the child should be spanked, while other parents believe in just telling the child not to do it again. According to Emily Hughes of the Developmental Psychology Program at Vanderbilt “every parent child relationship is different, so there is not one sure fire way to go about parenting” (Hughes, 2013). A major difference in today’s parenting methods is whether or not children should have to complete chores around the house and if any, what their compensation should be. Deborah McClellan, Millie Kaiser, and Patricia Faughn of the University of Illinois Extension say that “parents …show more content…
The first challenge occurred towards the end of my experiment on a few different occasions. This challenge was my sister Karlie taking credit for some of the chores that I did. This might not be a challenge to you, but it made me angry. I did all the work, not her, so it is not fair to me that she took the credit for something she did not even do. My parents even believed her, which made me even more angry. The other challenge I faced occurred on March 22 and April 3. On these dates, I was not thanked for completing my chores. Both of these chores went completely unnoticed. If you are looking at it from the positive perspective, it is good that only two of the thirty chores went unnoticed, but it still bothers me that they went unnoticed. I think they went unnoticed because they were both little chores and one was done early in the morning and the other was done later at night, right before bed. But besides March 22 and April 3, I was acknowledged in some way by either my mom or dad for completing my chores. The general response to my chores was “thank you”, but occasionally I did get a response like “I did not have time to do this, so I’m glad you did it” or “you helping me saved so much time”. When I received a response like that, it made me really happy. I felt like what I did was actually helpful to my
Children who are under the influence of parental guidance tend to have better behavior and can distinguish between right and wrong. “Children placed in situations lacking parental guidance are six times as likely than those with parental guidance to have a high level of overall difficulties including, emotional issues, conduct disorders, and peer problems” (McGuire 2014). Children do not have to worry about the weight of responsibility because their parents take on that responsibility for them. Kids brought up in normal, loving environments behave in a more civilized manner and exhibit better etiquette than those who are placed in negative, harsh environments such as...
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.
Holding the title of aunt since the mere age of thirteen and being a daughter I have really observed parenting in various situations. From an outside perspective I think parents sometimes get too caught up in wanting to shape their children to become the best person they can be that they often forget that their children are just that “children” and that in reality their behavior is natural. Jennifer senior mentions in her Ted Talk “…I do think that in our desperate quest to create happy kids, we may be assuming the wrong moral burden. It strikes me as a better goal, and, dare I say, a more virtuous one, to focus on making productive kids and moral kids, and to simply hope that happiness will come to them by virtue of the good that they do and their accomplishments and the love that they feel from us.” Which I think sums up parenting which wanting to discipline your children so they can go out to the world prepared but we tend to magnify their mistakes instead of optimizing
Growing up, two group of people, parents, and grandparents, took the time and the energy to raise me. Both of them had different approaches when raising me. These approaches were different parenting styles. According to Baumrind, parenting style was the “[capturing] normal variations in parents’ attempts to control and socialize their children” (Darling, 1999). To put it simply, parenting style goal was to lecture, influence, and discipline a child. In general, there are four parenting styles with their own specific benefits and disadvantages. Furthermore, parenting style, granted the dynamic of the family was understood, can be identified in families.
Is one approach to parenting more effective than the other? Child rearing styles are psychological methods practiced by folks as a part of raising a kid. Today, numerous methods are used and many arguments can be made as to which particular method is more successful. Parents develop diverse techniques of parenting based on social influences such as culture, education, and the way they were previously parented. Two of the most important parenting techniques are known as the authoritarian and the authoritative methods, in other words the “Old” and the “New” strategies. Despite how alike these methods seem to be, their differences are pronounced and deserve deeper exploration.
Some of the greatest milestones in life are graduating from college and getting a first job. However, no matter how challenging those activities are, many people believe the hardest job in life is being a parent and bringing up children. While child rearing is difficult, many also believe it is the most wonderful thing in their life also. Child rearing also has us question ourselves: "Am I raising them correctly?" "Should it be this stressful?" "Should I raise my child like my parents raised me?" "Should I ignore parenting advice I receive?" Diana Baumrind, a clinical and development psychologist, researched parenting styles. Her research can help answer many of these questions as well as define authoritative, authoritarian, permissive, and uninvolved parenting, and the pros and cons of each style.
Uninvolved parents are low in responsiveness and control (p. 360). A lot of the interactions between these families are meaningless and the only belongings provided to the child is their basic needs. I can learn from this type of family that by providing a great deal of moral support and encouragement, will help my children to fare better. The second type of parenting is permissive. According to Welch (2009), these parents have high levels of responsiveness and communication, but give no demands or rules to the child (p. 361). I can become a better parent by realizing the negative consequences that this parenting style provides and providing structured rules to my child through co-parenting. The third type of parenting is the authoritarian parent, who is reliant on obedience. These types of parents are low in responsiveness and affections, but high in demand with rigid rules (Welch, 2009, 362). Many children who come from this parenting style are in need of emotional support and have more behavioral problems (Welch, 2009, 362). I have learned that by encouraging communication and discussion with my child, I can help accommodate both of our needs without producing serious psychological effects. Lastly, authoritative parents are those who are responsive, but also demanding of good behavior (Welch, 2009, 362). These boundaries are
Young children are taught valuable lessons, morals and ethics by their parents or elders. Parents take it as their responsibility to make their children better people. But “what about children’s responsibilities towards parents?” a question that I ask myself all the time. Moving to the U.S. and helping my parents adjust to the varied environment and lifestyle answered this question. I realized every child has a responsibility to support and assist their parents when their parents need support. It kept my family bound together when I realized my responsibility towards my
Successful parenting may be judged by many different standards. Raising a child to be a respectful, mature, and independent adult requires a great deal of effort. There are several parenting styles, and not all lead a child to reaching their full potential. Overpowering sternness leads may lead to a rebellious child, while passive parenting may lead children to inept for the challenges of adulthood. Parenting requires more than teaching children submissiveness, or building of self-importance. Children learn best from a role model who is admirable. Parenting is a great opportunity to set the course of one’s entire life in the right direction.
Raising children is not an easy task because it requires strength, love, and patience. In today 's society, to spank, or not to spank, is one of the most crucial decisions parents make on the daily basis. Most parents look at physical punishment as child abuse, others view it as a form of disciplinary action. To discipline children, Developmental Psychologist Jean Piaget and John Bowlby provide readers with the necessities of how discipline should be applied. Through Piaget Cognitive Development Theory and Bowlby 's Attachment Theory readers are able to learn to correct their children in a reasonable fashion. Piaget discusses four early stages of children 's cognitive development and in what stage discipline should be applied. Bowlby looks at how parents must establish strong relationships with
Parenting, which is somewhat akin to teaching, should be regarded as one of the three cooperative arts. Thus conceived, it calls upon parents to assist their offspring in the process of growing up, doing so by observing carefully the steps the children themselves take in the process and doing what is necessary to facilitate their progress. Parenting departs from being a cooperative art, as teaching does also, when it tries to be the active and dominant factor in the process -- when parents or teachers think that what they do should be like the molding of passive, plastic matter.
Parenting styles have the capacity of influencing a child’s social, cognitive, and psychological growth, which would then affect the child both in their childhood years, and as an adult.
Moreover, parents have to teach their children how to behave in appropriate way and to make it easier; the majority of families use the system of rewards and punishments. According to this system, child who behaves in proper way will get a reward that could lead to repetition of this action to obtain next reward. However, when young person present negative behaviour then he/she gets a punishment that will force the child to reflect and to change bad behaviour. The majority of children try to learn things from their parents throughout imitation – they try to act and behave in the same way as mother and father. In this stage of life, young people are able to shape their identities to create unique characters and personalities within the
Parenting is a complex job that requires many different skills that work together to influence a child’s behavior. The theory of parenting style had been largely influenced by Baumrind’s (1971) conceptualization of authoritarian, permissive and authoritative parenting styles which involved various characteristics such as maturity, communication styles, nurturance, warmth and involvement.
I learned at an early age that chores a necessary and being a part of the household meant that you had to pitch and do your part; this is no different than being part of a study group for a school project or designing a group presentation for a marketing firm. Teaching proficient work ethic at a young age can give children the skills necessary to excel in school and during their career as an adult. My father made sure that I knew the importance of getting your work done and getting it done right. During the summer my father would sometimes take me to work with him so I could pick up trash and scrap wood or aluminum. Once we were finished we would go over to the local recycling center and my father would sell all of the aluminum that we had collected. He would give me the money and make sure to tell me what a great job I had done and that he was so proud of me; those words meant more to me than any amount of money. In Jane Smileys (2009) essay, The Case against Chores, she states, “To me, what this teaches the child is the lesson of alienated labor; not to love the work but to get it over with; not to feel pride in one’s contribution but to feel resentment at the waste of one’s time.” (p. 274) Children learn from our attitudes; if our attitude towards work is