Relational Skills In Christian Counseling

The objective of the counselor ought to be to work himself out of a job. The counselor should work with people in such a way as to encourage personal discovery of the truth about their situation and personal responsibility in planning a solution to their problem. In so doing, the counselor is a teacher, training people to develop healthy life management skills in any of the following areas:

• relational skills

• decision-making

• dealing with crisis

• conflict resolution

• communication skills

• thinking processes

• self-perception

• setting personal boundaries

As the counselor helps people work through their current situation by merely guiding or facilitating the process, people learn for the future. People are more likely to change because they own the solution. They were not simply told what to do.

Christian counseling is the bringing of truth of the

I believe that fear started back before slavery. No one ever took the time out to find out where was this fear coming from and how do we as people should deal with it. A good way to deal with fear is to find someone who you trust and just start to ask questions. You have to understand yourself before trying to understand someone else.

Because we have not had a clear biblical picture of what Christian counseling should be or detailed biblical answers for many of the harder psychological problems, the entire area of Christian counseling has been caught up in controversy for many years. The basic underlying question is how much should Christian counseling be based directly on the Bible and how much should it be based on secular research and counseling methods. There are numerous schools of thought on the subject of Christian counseling in our churches. Positions are as varied as the many flavors of Christian churches and denominations. Based on my experience, I recognize five distinct general categories or positions on these