Rejection is inevitable. It happens to all of us at some point in our lives. When we get rejected we can’t help but stop and ask ourselves some questions. The first question we usually ask is ”Why?” Then come the thoughts that we rehearse over and over again. We replay that moment of rejection, wishing we’d asked more questions or said less in response. Often we wonder for weeks, “What did I do wrong?” Sometimes we think, “What can I do to get them to accept me again?”
When we are rejected we tend to do one of three things: reject the person who rejected us, reject others we think are like the person who rejected us, or reject ourselves.
Rejection engages our emotions to respond in hurt and carry offense.
Our thoughts about rejection determine what we believe and ultimately what we do in response to the hurt. But it all starts in the mind. When we rehearse what the other person did to reject us, then we have begun the process of solidifying a belief into an offense. This is what so many tragic shootings stem from — hatred develops after obsessive thinking becomes justification for an offense to punish others for their actions.
When rejection is from a family member or someone we are in a serious relationship with, it’s hard to move on right away. The level of pain is often tied to the level of commitment. If we have been deeply invested, it is hard to move forward without looking back. In fact, it’s such an intense experience that the brain feels emotional pain the same as physical pain. (Psychology Today)
Thinking differently engages the power of the Holy Spirit in our lives.
God gives us the key to overcoming negative thoughts in response to rejection: prayer. Philippians 4:7 says when we pray, we will experience “... the pe...
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...he enemy lose his hold. Your pain will leave, and the enemy will be defeated by your love!
Overcoming rejection can be a shorter process than it has been in the past. You can have the life you were meant to live by getting rid of the thoughts that keep you bound to the lies of the enemy, and stepping into freedom to think like Christ. Your emotions will follow suit, and you will have the joy of the Lord deep in your soul.
Jill Monaco is the Founder of Jill Monaco Ministries, a non-profit organization committed to loving people the way Jesus loves. She is a popular speaker, blogger and the publisher and editor-in-chief of SingleMatters.com She has a passion to inspire others to have an intimate relationship with God. Jill has been featured on “LIFE Today” with James and Betty Robison and spoken to audiences of thousands. Learn more about Jill at www.jillmonaco.com.
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