we don’t know them, is crucial. In this paper, I define compassion as a process of noticing others suffering, appraising its significance, feeling empathetic concern, acting towards alleviating their pain and learning from the experience. Each step of the process is discussed as follows:
Noticing. A crucial first step in the compassion process is noticing other person’s suffering, becoming aware of their plight and feelings. Noticing may occur because of paying attention to the subtle clues like other’s emotions, deviation from their usual behavior (Frost, 2003) or more easily when people call out for attention. In any case, openness and receptivity is important for receiving these clues. People may vary in their ability or motivation in noticing
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Atkins & Parker (2012) point out that noticing itself may not lead to compassion. After noticing someone’s suffering, a person might develop negative emotions like distress, sadness, anger, or even to thinking that the person deserves this situation, that do not lead to compassion. The specific empathetic concern felt by the person is a result of the appraisals by him or her as relevant to self and goals. Appraisal theorists have also recognized that the degree to which empathetic concern is felt by the observer varies with how closely others relate to the observer’s sense of self, and the incongruence of others suffering with observer’s goals and values.
Feeling. It is often colloquially said that people feel compassion. This feeling is innately other-regarded i.e. we feel it for someone else (Cassell, 2002; Solomon, 1998). When people feel compassion they have a vicarious experience of the persons situation (Clark, 1997) or what Nussbaum (2003, p. 327) describes as “the imaginative reconstruction of the experience of the sufferer.”
Responding: What distinguishes it from empathy is that compassion implies an action (Nussbaum, 2001). For compassion to exist, there must involve some sort of response or what Clark (1997) called a behavioral display. The response does not have to remedy or entirely alleviate the suffering (Blum, 1980; Solomon, 1998) but some movement as a response to pain is
Lama starts his chapter with his meaning of compassion. He shares that most “understand it mainly in the terms of empathy- our ability to enter into and, to some extent, share others’ suffering.” (Lama, 538). He describes compassion to be somewhat natural for humans but, must be continuously worked on in order to reach “great compassion” which “causes the one who is compassionate to dedicate themselves entirely to helping others overcome both their suffering and the causes of their suffering.” ( Lama, 538). However, he explains that
Compassion towards someone or something that an individual has can spread to others and change their perspective and thought process on that specific subject. In the novel, Fahrenheit 451, by Ray Bradbury, provides a story of a man who
The two essays “On Compassion” and “This is Water” by Barbara Ascher and David Wallace argue their different viewpoints on both compassion and empathy. While Ascher simply argues that compassion is not a simple character trait but more so a skill acquired overtime; Wallace tries to convince his audience that humans are preprogramed to be motivated by their own selfish desires and must reprogram themselves to think out of sympathy and concern for others. Barbara Ascher’s, essay, “On Compassion,” compels the audience to interpret the compassion and empathy with their underlying definitions. Ascher states “I don’t believe that one is born compassionate. Compassion is not a character trait like a sunny disposition.
Compassion has became something rare in our society, and something that a lot of people lack. The author, Barbara Lazear Ascher, explains to us that compassion is not a character trait, but rather something that we learn along the way with the help of real life situations we encounter, such as the ones she encountered herself. Ascher persuades her audience that compassion is not just something you are born with by using anecdotes, rhetorical questions, and allusions.
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Human beings surpass other animals in the ability to vicariously experience other beings feelings. Two overlapping and interchangeable terms have been developed to explain human’s capacity to experience others’ feelings- sympathy and empathy. Though convenient, the interchanging has created some confusion. Burton, in his support, points out people always confuse the word empathy with sympathy, compassion as well as pity, which are just but reactions to other people’s plight (1). This paper discusses the difference between empathy and sympathy and analyzes the story “Every day Use” from the sympathy and empathy perspective.
Empathy is imperative to teach kids from a young age in order to help them recognize mental states, such as thoughts and emotions, in themselves and others. Vital lessons, such as walking in another’s shoes or looking at a situation in their perspective, apprehends the significance of the feelings of another. Our point of view must continuously be altered, recognizing the emotions and background of the individual. We must not focus all of our attention on our self-interest. In the excerpt, Empathy, written by Stephen Dunn, we analyze the process of determining the sentiment of someone.
What is compassion? It has two components. One component of compassion means to put yourself in another person’s shoes, and ask yourself, What if I were that person? How would I feel? So, compassion means to develop an awareness of the suffering in another person. Another component of compassion is self-compassion, having compassion doesn’t always have to be putting everyone else before you, sometimes compassion can mean putting yourself first. Throughout generations, compassion has played an important role in many people, it’s a natural instinct within all of us. We show compassion towards our loved ones, when confronted with someone in pain, we
Empathy, is a self-conscious characteristic human beings hold that allows them to understand another individual’s situation and feelings (Segal, Cimino, Gerdes &Wagaman, 2013). In regard to ho...
Compassion is a feeling that humans portray towards others, but you also have to act in some way to aid them and to decrease their suffering. Barbara Lazear Ascher's purpose “On Compassion” of her essay was to distinguish emotions that people feel towards homeless people. She posed the question of whether or not people feel compassion or pity towards homeless people. The thesis statement is the first sentence, which encompasses the main themes that compassions revolves around somebody’s circumstances, rather than a situation that one can dream about. In other words, it is one’s reality. Specifically, “the man’s grin is less the result of circumstance
For instance, if one person is despondent other will do anything to make ones pleased. Everyone deserves compassion, and that no one should be the judge to whether the other person actually deserve it or not, but in general, some individual do not always feel the need to extend their compassion to others, in most cases because they do not think the others deserve it, or it’s because some people do not feel as though they are able to afford to help in any way possible. For example, there are people who naturally have sympathy to one another, but in some cases some people just have sympathy for interest. Some people help the needed one for interest to show the world their good actions, but in reality they are people who are just showing their compassion for interest or benefit. Compassion is someone who is willing to help the needless, who is always there for them in the hard times. “However, compassion is defined as the emotional response when perceiving suffering and involves an authentic desire to help alleviate that suffering” (Seppala). The compassion of a human is portrayed through actions, emotions, and most importantly love
Radey, M., & Figley, C. R. (2007). The social psychology of compassion. Clinical Social Work Journal, 35(3), 207-214.
Compassion cannot be confided to just a feeling or emotion of empathy, or the antidote to pleasure of peace. Compassion is a vehicle to improve one’s being, physically, mentally and emotionally. Even without the desire to reach Buddhahood, everyone can benefit from employing and expressing compassion as it is one of the few things one can do that benefits oneself as much as others.
Empathy is biased in many ways because connecting can others can seem hard if they are nothing like us. We might try to denying this, but “recent studies have shown
Careers, school, work, activities, and spending time with friends are only some of the reasons why people are becoming inconspicuous and are unable to show compassion towards the problems and feelings of other people. Having compassion and sharing the feelings and problems of another is called empathy. Displaying empathy towards another person’s stress and worries is an extremely important concept that more people should know about because it will help both themselves and the other individual. Not only does it help them, but it helps shape society. Even adolescent students