In life you tend to be hit by surprise with many different things. Some things are positive, some negative, and even more unexplainable. Illness is something that I have dealt with in multiple ways, from several different angles of my life. This statement I would say is true for most people. This is the surprising part I mentioned. Whether it be an infection of some type, chronic disease, or cancer these are things majority of people will come in contact with in their lifetime. Indirectly, I have come in contact with these disease processes, already in my twenty short years of life. Hardly can I say that any of these experiences have been positive, but a lot have ended on a positive note. Some are still in the book, so to say, as negative …show more content…
This is my reflection back on one of these many experiences I’ve dealt with in my life. Every person deals with their emotions in a unique way, although as humans we tend to cope using the same various principles. As for my mother, she doesn’t like to burden anyone with her shortcoming, so to say. She would rather deal with her issues internally before “burdening her family”, as she would say. Naturally, as her son, I could careless of any type of burden, when it comes to dealing with disease and being there for my mother. I was eighteen years old when I found out my mother had cancer, and that is what she chose to keep from me for a small period of time. In regards to her coping mechanism, I support anybody if what they do works for them in a healthy way. The way things get passed around in my family is you always hear …show more content…
A very difficult situation in my mind. My family dynamic makes situations like this a little confusing, and that exactly how I felt. I wanted everything in the world to be there for her in the most supportive way, but bridging that gap was much easily said than done. The financially situation began to be a concern, the health of my father was already altered at that time, and my younger sibling right in the middle of the emotional situation as well. Taking responsibility has never been an issue for me when it comes to dealing with difficult situations, but I had to begin to prioritize. My mother came first. I might not have approached the subject the best I could have, but it needed to be done. We quickly became on the same page and I was able to be there for her, in more way than one. Finances came in to effect due to my mother’s lack of ability to function at work and around schedule around her treatment. My father, who not a complete care individual, received his help from all of my siblings, five to be exact. My little sister I took as my responsibility. She needed to be talked to about the reality of the situation and know the possibilities that life had set before her. That I can say was not an easy conversation. Regardless of all of these factors, we managed to work through them together as a family. In
Being diagnosed with a chronic illness is a life-altering event. During this time, life is not only difficult for the patient, but also for their loved ones. Families must learn to cope together and to work out the best options for the patient and the rest of the family. Although it may not be fair at times, things may need to be centered on or around the patient no matter what the circumstance. (Abbott, 2003) Sacrifices may have to be made during difficult times. Many factors are involved when dealing with chronic illnesses. Coping with chronic illnesses alter many different emotions for the patients and the loved ones. Many changes occur that are very different and difficult to get used to. (Abbott, 2003) It is not easy for someone to sympathize with you when they haven’t been in the situation themselves. No matter how many books they read or people they talk to, they cannot come close to understanding.
My mother was a very well-tempered woman, who kept to herself. Like Suzette, I didn’t know much about my mother’s background, or a lot of the pain and hardship she went through until I was older. This is when I realized why my mother conducted herself the way she did, because of all the pain she had built up inside of her from her past. For example; it was very hard to get my mother to talk during emotional situations, she was always quiet and would just mostly stare at you in silence. My mother was born in Philadelphia on October 3rd, 1966. Diane was the oldest of her four siblings, and if it’s as common as I think older siblings tend to have it harder than the others because they have to set examples, their looked up to as the protectors, and are just assigned a lot of responsibility at a young age.
In life, a person experiences different types of situations that bring forth certain emotions and behaviors. Oftentimes, it benefits people if they try to look inside themselves to discover why they act a certain way during various moments of their lives. In this essay, I will be investigating my own reactions to life events and discovering certain positive elements that should be encouraged or any negative aspects of my behavior that need to be changed.
Normally, kids grow up with their parents taking care of them. In my situation, the roles were switched. My brother was 5 years old and I was turning 4. At that age, we weren't completely aware of what was happening to our mom. We didn't know what cancer was, let alone what it could do to someone. I remember feeling the transition of having my mom make us home cooked meals to my dad making us microwaveable food. I remember having to hold my dads hand instead of my moms hand walking into preschool. I would do things for my mom that she would normally do for me if I was sick. There wasn't a moment where I didn't hesitate to help her. I would help my mom go to the bathroom and bring her food whenever she needed it. Taking care of my mom was a priority.
Everyday, I thank God for her health and I'm grateful to myself for all that I was able to do for her. I would absolutely consider the time of my mother's illness as my transition to adulthood because I learned what adulthood meant. To me, adulthood isn't about independence, but it is about responsibility and putting others before myself. In the summer of 2014, I unfortunately learned this lesson the hard way, but as a result my mother is now healthy and I have learned the inconsistency of life. In my transition to adulthood, I was able to step up and take care of the mother who had always been there for me. As a strong and independent single mother, she has always been my hero and the epitome of the adult I always strived to be. Seeing her in her vulnerable state during her illness didn't change my opinion of her, it strengthened it as I learned about the responsibilities, expectations, and sacrifices that adulthood and maturity
My life hasn’t been the hardest, most of all not the easiest. We need to realize, when we get sick that something serious could be wrong with us. My mother and father broke up when I was two years old; shortly after I moved in with my grandmother who fostered me. My mom still took me to all the special events like the first day of school, School concerts, including the first most of all the last time I was arrested. My grandmother, of course went to all the events, how could anyone think otherwise when it was her that raised me.
Imagine a person had a normal life. My mom was that person. She worked at News Center 7 as a reporter which was a job she always wanted, she also had twin daughters. Her life was great. Then one day everything changed. Life had already been hard for my mom; she was the primary caretaker of my grandmother who had been fighting brain and lung cancer for six months. In early 2003, my grandmother had a stroke. Since then my mom took care of her, while taking care of most of our family. Since my grandmother could no longer be the glue that held us together, it had to be my mom. My grandmother lost her b...
She began to suffer from hair and weight loss as well as the color change of her skin. My mind began to intersect with thoughts of her dying from cancer. I decided negativity would no longer control my thoughts; I had a grandmother who needed me to be strong and think positive about her condition, regardless of the situation and her physical changes. During the time of my grandmother chemotherapy treatments, I would miss school to attend her appointments. As a sophomore in high school, I could only miss a small amount of days before any negative effects displayed toward my grades. Therefore, I would miss school every Tuesday and Thursday for the next four months of my first semester of tenth grade. I didn’t mind because my grandmother meant the world to me and I would have done it a thousand times, if I was given the
I have always been one to spend my time watching things that others wouldn 't think to watch. I have seen things like “The Wind Rises” by Hayao Miyazaki, “Queen” by Vikas Bahl and my favorite “Mary Kom” by Omung Kumar. From documentaries to animes, to silent films. I have dabbled in a little of everything so far. I am known to watch a few of these to pass my summer as well. So, when it came time to watch the foreign film “The Lives of Others” directed by Florian Henckel von Donnersmarck, I was fully aware of what to expect. From the subtitles to funny English accents, to sharpening my skill of being able to read the words and focus on the action at hand. You could say I 'm somewhat of an expert in those areas. Thank you anime! The movie was
My mother was taking care of me, and my three other siblings all alone by herself. When my father was living my mother only had one job, but now she had to work more. She had a massive impact on our lives by making sure we had everything we needed. Because I was the oldest of my siblings, I felt like I was a parent. At just eight years old, I had to skip school just to make sure my siblings had someone to look after them while my mother worked. I was obligated to feed them, give them baths, and put clothes on them. It was very difficult, but I knew my mother had to pay bills, and take care of us and herself, so I knew she couldn’t afford a babysitter. When times got very tough, my mom would get stressed out and take it out on us by throwing tantrums, hollering at us and beating on us. I didn’t have a choice but to encourage my mother, and be the one to push her to not give
Personal Development is a lifelong process that involves the assessment of current skills and talents and the enhancement of oneself based on that assessment which then leads to the realization of goals and an improved quality of life. To be able to assess yourself, you need to be able to reflect on your past which helps you to understand the attitudes you have developed and the foundation that you will be building your life on. Also, you have to reflect on your present to see if there’s room for improvement and reflect on your future so that you can achieve your aspirations.
A reflection of the self is an important tool to use to figure out whether or not your self-concept provides you with a positive self-esteem. First ask yourself, ‘who am I?’ and once you figure that out, determine if your perception of yourself is a positive one. If it’s not positive, you might want to consider making a change very quickly in order to live a fulfilling life. An even more important tool is to compare your own self-concept to the perception others have of you. I interviewed four people and asked them three questions. Those questions were as follows. “How do you perceive me physically? How do you perceive me socially? How do you perceive me psychologically?” Their overall physical perception of me is, I am beautiful,
One's dream and aspirations to supersede in life must be stronger and greater than limitations set forth by others. The experience that were bestowed to me during my short life has elevated me to the woman I am today. Please walk with me as I give you the opportunity to see the world from my eyes:
“A student of life considers the world their classroom” – Harvey MacKay. This quote exemplifies what I aspire to become, a student of life. This is a person who is constantly learning, growing, and evolving, and using the lessons they learn as their platform. In order for one to become a student of life, I believe that learning experiences don’t necessarily always have to happen in the classroom. I have found that through traveling and real life experiences, my way of thinking about life and how things happen has been shaped with a broader understanding of knowledge, rather than just by sitting in a classroom and taking notes. I feel strongly that the traditional model of learning is very effective and that there is much to be learned in this manner, however being able to take what you learn and apply it on a much deeper level through visiting new places and experiencing new cultures and cuisines has helped me develop myself further and become a more well rounded individual.
Name: Anferni Harris Date: July 28, 2015 EN46b Unit 7 Reflective Narrative Essay Grade: _____/100 Directions: Write a multi-paragraph essay in which you look at a frozen moment in your lives that has left you with some sort of truth. Begin typing your essay below: I signed up to be volunteer for community service hours for my honors class. I choose this particular one because I thought it would be easy, but after few weeks, I felt honored for having been a part of it.