spontaneous choices with little thought put into them. This was due to the environment I lived and the development that was happening in the prefrontal cortex of my brain. Studies show that the development in this part of the brain during adolescents is a crucial time (Blakemore, 2012). It is typical for adolescents to have egocentric thoughts and perspectives, often causing bad decisions or accelerated learning capabilities.
As my self-ego continued to change, I began to care more about what my peers thought of me, I began to question if my clothes were good enough.. As my self-ego began to develop, through social interactions with my family and friends, I learned what was socially acceptable.. I would compare what my friends thought and done to how I seen myself. I no longer allow what others think of me affect my self-esteem. I have learned to set personal goals for myself that help to provide self-esteem when they are accomplished..
During adolescents people are often making decisions that can impact the rest of their lives. If there is not a stable and responsible parent there to be a role model it is easy for them to go down the wrong path. I grew up in a home with both of my parents until I was the age of twelve. Both of my parents had an authoritarian parenting style. When a parent has high demands and low responsiveness they are considered to be authoritarian (Berger, 2016). It was always made very clear to me that I needed to make good grades in school, however I cannot remember one time that either of my parents helped me with homework. I often struggled with the fear of not being good enough during most of my Operation stage of cognitive development. At this time my attachment style towards my parents was avoidant. Wh...
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My family and life structure would be considered a nuclear one. According to Berger (2016), a nuclear family is one that consists of both parents raising a child under 18 years old. My husband and I are legally married and function as a team while raising our daughter and providing for our household. We both depend on each other a lot. We both work full time day jobs, so we alternate pick up and drop off of our daughter for childcare. We both have other interests and commitments that neither of us could do without the help of the other. I attempt to have structure in our household, and keep everyone and everything organized, but it isn’t always easy. We are definitely dysfunctional. The day to day things get done religiously, but everything else gets done eventually. I have to play everything ahead for it to have any functionality or structure.
Nuclear Family. Noun. A couple and their dependent children, regarded as a basic social unit (Abate and Jewell, The New Oxford American Dictionary). This definition has changed in both meaning and prevalence over time; it used to signify just a father, a mother, and their children, but now it’s become more inclusive to families who didn 't quite meet that description. Also, this set-up is far less common that it was, since rates of single parents have skyrocketed over the past 50 years (Tenenbaum, “Honor Thy Mother”). Despite this, the nuclear family is still the basic foundation of all familial relationships today. The novel Cold Sassy Tree by Olive Ann Burns is based on the lives (and deaths) of each member of a nuclear
Beyond genetics, parents have an extremely significant impact on the emotional, moral, and social development of their children. This is understandable, as many children interact solely with their parents until they reach school-age. Parents have the ability to determine a child’s temperament, their social abilities, how well-behaved or in control of their emotions they are, how mature and ambitious the child will be, and so forth. (Sharpe) Furthermore, parents have both ideals for their children as well as ideals for themselves, and how they raise their children is deeply influenced by this.
Children who are under the influence of parental guidance tend to have better behavior and can distinguish between right and wrong. “Children placed in situations lacking parental guidance are six times as likely than those with parental guidance to have a high level of overall difficulties including, emotional issues, conduct disorders, and peer problems” (McGuire 2014). Children do not have to worry about the weight of responsibility because their parents take on that responsibility for them. Kids brought up in normal, loving environments behave in a more civilized manner and exhibit better etiquette than those who are placed in negative, harsh environments such as...
Deep down inside, I have always known my parents are loving parents that will do anything they can to support me to prosper and succeed in life. The only problem is that my parents came from very traditional household that used the authoritarian parenting style, so that is the style they used on me. While growing up with parents using the authoritarian parenting style, I was not exposed to their warmth or nurturing side. Instead, I was taught to respect authority and traditional structure in a demanding, controlling and punitive way. This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school.
In this study, another relationship between parenting styles and child development is presented. Participants were 7,836 adolescents enrolled in six high schools in San Francisco. They were provided with a questionnaire that included student background information, self-reported grades, parental attitudes and behaviors, and family commutation information. The study included three parenting styles, which were authoritarian, permissive, and authoritative. Each one of the styles were described in the students’ questionnaire. The authoritarian style included the idea that as a response to a bad grade, parents tend to get upset, and when good grades are achieved, parents tell the student to do even better than what they have done. On the other hand, permissive parenting style was described as parents no caring about the students’ grade, and that hard work in school is not important for them. Then, they included authoritative parenting style as supportive parents that praise the student when good grades are achieved and more freedom to make decisions is given, but when poor grades are obtained, freedom is taken away and students are encouraged to try harder and some source of help is
The peak in risky behavior occurs at about age 17. The rates of risky behavior continue to rise, with a significant increase occurring in the past two decades. Risky behavior in adolescence can have both positive and negative effects. Positive effects risky behavior has during adolescence are individuation, self-determination, and it can create peer acceptance. The tendency to partake in risky behavior during adolescence can be contributed to rapid development of the emotional brain while the cortical areas continue to develop slowly, the need for sensation seeking, beliefs of invulnerability, and deviant behavior demonstrated by
Children usually show ambivalent attachment to their parents when their parents are permissive. Permissive parents usually have few rules and no “standard of behavior” and when there is rules they are often inconsistent. These parents are not usually strict when it comes to school work and their child 's grades, there is no punishment given for poor grades in some cases. The parents are more like friends, rather than parents but are very nurturing and loving towards their kids. The effects of permissive parenting is the child often lacks self-discipline, have poor social skills and may feel insecure since they have no boundaries. With permissive parenting, the child may realize they have to figure out what is right and wrong to do on their own and may have to develop their own self-discipline and responsibilities. On the other hand, the child may be lost, undisciplined and very irresponsible. These children often are involved in underaged drinking and perhaps drug use. Since their parents aren’t very demanding they may “turn a blind eye” to their
In the previous study, Milevsky, Schlechter, Klem, and Kehl (2008) states that adolescence with either both parents are neglectful parenting style or one of the parent is neglectful parenting style score lower on self-esteem than adolescence without neglectful parenting style parent. In daily life, parents that let their children involve in making family decision lead their children to higher self-esteem level than parents that only want their children obey without giving any reason. Parents with authoritative parenting style are more flexible, openness to discussion and also willing to compromise toward their children. In a sample of 230 college student, Buri, Louiselle, Misukanis and Mueller (1988) found that
Would you have come out different if your parents used a different parenting style? If you are considered “cool” now could you have come out a nerd if your parents would have used a different parenting style? “Parenting style is one of the primary determinants of your child’s outcome whether he succeeds, achieves, meets the challenges, flounders, gives up, or runs from or fails in handling life.” (6) The purpose of this paper is to describe the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques of parenting in a psychological point of view. Parenting styles are defined as the “manner in which parents express their beliefs on how to be a good or bad parent.” (4) Each parenting style has its weaknesses and strengths. All parents incorporate love and limit in their style of parenting. There are four different types of parenting styles: authoritarian, permissive, democratic, and uninvolved parents.
Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2). The adolescents who come to be rebellious may showcase hostile behaviors, while those who are passive are likely to stay relying on their parents (2).
Steinberg, Laurence, Elmen, Julie D., and Mounts, Nina S. “Authoritative Parenting, Psychosocial Maturity, and Academic Success among Adolescents.” Child Development, Vol. 60, No. 6 (Dec., 1989), pp. 1424-1436. Web. 1 May 2014.
The extent to which a parent negatively disciplines a child for wrongful behavior may lead to a cascade of psychological problems later on in life. Such problems could include problems in learning, romantic relationships, suppression of immoral tendencies, and overall physical health. It seems intuitive that when a young adolescent is exposed to harsh and restrictive parents, certain negative outcomes would ensue causing that adolescent to grow psychologically into a teen or adult with interesting behaviors.
My parents followed moderately different parenting styles. My mother’s parenting style was strict and extraordinarily Authoritarian, while my dad practiced a mix of Neglectful and Authoritarian parenting. My Father was a workaholic and was not around much. During early childhood, I would be in bed by the time he arrived home from work, so I would rarely see him. He did not get involved with my schoolwork and would rarely show up to piano recitals or swim meets. The few times he did show up, he would ridicule me and tell me I should have done better. Since my
A reflection of the self is an important tool to use to figure out whether or not your self-concept provides you with a positive self-esteem. First ask yourself, ‘who am I?’ and once you figure that out, determine if your perception of yourself is a positive one. If it’s not positive, you might want to consider making a change very quickly in order to live a fulfilling life. An even more important tool is to compare your own self-concept to the perception others have of you. I interviewed four people and asked them three questions. Those questions were as follows. “How do you perceive me physically? How do you perceive me socially? How do you perceive me psychologically?” Their overall physical perception of me is, I am beautiful,
One's dream and aspirations to supersede in life must be stronger and greater than limitations set forth by others. The experience that were bestowed to me during my short life has elevated me to the woman I am today. Please walk with me as I give you the opportunity to see the world from my eyes: