There is a fine line between BDSM and Abuse. BDSM is consensual, it requires respect and trust, and is meant to be sexually arousing. While an abuser has no respect for another’s feelings and inflicts pain. Liberal Feminist Tropes Debunked is a blog written by a radical feminist who does not reveal her name. She discusses a variety of topics including gay rights, abortion, and BDSM. She has said that radical feminists believe that BDSM is degrading to women and is a part of the rape and abuse culture. Radical feminists oppose anti-egalitarian human interaction. Fundamentally the difference between abuse and BDSM is that abuse is out of terror, rage, hate, and psychological torment. While BDSM is meant to be for fun, joy, love, and connection. …show more content…
BDSM includes bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M).( "BDSM n. (in entry B, n.)". Oxford English Dictionary Online (draft ed.). Oxford University Press. June 2013.) Bondage is consensually tying, binding, or restraining a partner for erotic stimulation. Materials such as rope, cuffs, bondage tape, or other restraints may be used for this purpose. Dominance and submission is a set of roles where the dominant has the power and the submissive is willingly giving themselves to their partner. Physical contact is not a necessity, and D/S can even be conducted anonymously over the telephone, email, or other messaging systems. In other cases, it can be intensely physical, sometimes crossing into sadomasochism. Both parties take pleasure or erotic enjoyment from either dominating or being dominated. Sadomasochism is the giving or receiving of pleasure from acts involving the receipt or infliction of pain or humiliation. Practitioners of sadomasochism may seek sexual gratification from their acts. ("Definition of SADOMASOCHISM." Sadomasochism. Merriam-Webster. Web. 9 Dec. 2015.) “Recent archaeological evidence suggests that dominance and submissiveness as sexual practice dates back at least 5000 years ago” ("BDSM Culture Throughout History and To The Present (Maybe NSFW)." Observation Deck. 2 Dec. 2015. Web. 9 Dec. 2015.). With the release of the book Fifty Shades of Grey in 2011 and the recent …show more content…
The submissive and the dominant discuss what they are willing to do, what they like, and what they are absolutely uncomfortable with. Discussing each other’s boundaries builds emotional support and can also be a form of foreplay. There is a saying in the BDSM community; safe, sane, and consensual. Safe is being knowledgeable. Knowledgeable about the techniques and safety and acting with that knowledge. This includes protection against sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy, and psychological safety. The BDSM community teaches people the proper way to use the equipment. There are books to help people practice safe BDSM. SM 101 by Jay Wiseman, Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns, by Phillip Miller and Molly Devon, and The New Topping Book and The New Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton. Sane is knowing the difference between fantasy and reality. Having a clear mind. Consensual is respecting each partner’s limits. A way to keep each other feel comfortable is a safe word. A safe word is a word that has been decided before four play and sex by the participants to let one another know when one of them has reached their limits. BDSM must be consensual. ("BDSM vs. Abuse." BDSM vs. Abuse. Web. 9 Dec. 2015.) The blogger said that BDSM is not always completely consensual. Which is sadly true sometimes. Sometimes people are pressured into sexual activities by their partner. She does realize that people do consent to being sexually
The Scarlet Letter can easily be seen as an early feminist piece of work. Nathaniel Hawthorne created a story that exemplifies Hester as a strong female character living with her choices, whether they were good or bad, and also as the protagonist. He also presents the daughter of Hester, Pearl, as an intelligent female, especially for her age. He goes on to prove man as imperfect through both the characters of Dimmesdale and of Chillingworth. With the situation that all the characters face, Hawthorne establishes the female as the triumphant one, accomplishing something that, during Nathaniel Hawthorne’s time, authors did not attempt.
Sexuality is very diverse, in some instances normality is based on the cultural context of the individual 's society. In "The other side of desire" by Daniel Bergner, the author goes in depth into the lives of four individual 's whose lust and longing have led them far down the realms of desire. The current paper addresses the four individual 's Jacob, the Baroness, Roy, and Ron each exhibits a paraphilia that may or may not meet the full criteria in the DSM-5. Furthermore, each person’s specific paraphilia is conceptualized and explained in depth. Countertransferential issues anticipated before working with these individuals is analyzed and clarified. Also, the apprehension of sexual arousal and sexual behaviors is conceptualized into normality
the thought police. In today’s society if a women gives into sexual intimacy with another person
Clenora Hudson-Weems, founder of Africana womanist theory, defines Africana womanism as “an ideology created and designed for all women of African descent. It is grounded in African culture, and therefore, it necessarily focuses on the unique experiences, struggles, needs and desires of Africana women” (Hudson-Weems, 2007). Finding the existing philosophies dealing with women’s issues lacking, Hudson-Weems sought out a new perspective that would reflect the unique experience of Africana women. This paper explores the formation of Africana womanism and how it departs from traditional feminist theory. While Africana womanism claims to better meet the needs of Africana women than traditional feminism, there are a number of fundamental deficiencies in that theory as well. This paper will focus specifically on Black feminism in examining this failings.
BDSM, a three part acronym which stands for bondage and discipline, dominance and submission, sadism and masochism (Oxford Dictionary, 2014) has seen a drastic increase in popular culture in the last twenty years (Weiss, p: 104). Since it being brought into the public eye with the Marquis de Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, BDSM has predominantly been portrayed as a sexual deviance that only those who are sexually violent or those who are mentally unsound participate in. Images of BDSM have existed in popular culture for quite some time. Wearing cuffs, collars and leather are often found in both fashion and mainstream media so much so that many who purchase and wear them may not be aware of their significance to BDSM.
Paraphilia has evolved as a term generally referenced as sexually deviant behavior to a broader term and divided into a disorder by the DSM-5. Paraphilia’s are often misconstrued as sexually deviant behavior that is misunderstood by the general public. In this paper, I will attempt to have a better grasp of what a paraphilia is, how to treat paraphilia from a therapeutic standpoint and attempt to discern when a paraphilia may need additional referrals and/or treatment. This paper will also examine the difference between a paraphilia that may be treated through cognitive behavioral therapy and paraphilic disorders, in which distress is found and may need further intensive treatment. Cognitive behavioral therapy is one method of psychotherapy
The preferences of BDSM participants may differ from each other greatly: while some are only intersted in a limited range of BDSM activities, which are not necessarily physically harmful but are humiliating in some way, vebrbally for example, others may be attracted to broad and even potentially dangerous ones. Roles that can be distinguished in BDSM sessions are different as well and can be "switched". Although BDSM is thought to be a form of erotic behavior, most BDSM practitioners describe BDSM activities first of all as a source of sensory pleasure and not so much as a source for erotic
Sexual abuse has a very broad definition. According to the American Psychological Association, “a central characteristic…is the dominant position of an adult that allows him or her to force or coerce a child into sexual activity.” 3 The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act defines sexual abuse as:
In today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex and sexual desires revolve around men, and Hoagland sets out seven patterns showing how this is the case. Sex is thought of as a “powerful and uncontrollable urge” and male sexuality therefore is a basic component to male health, sexual acts show male conquest and domination, sexual freedom gives men total access to and over women, rape is, by this logic, natural and women who resist a man’s advances are “‘frigid’”, sex involves losing control and sexual desire, when described as erotic, “involves a death wish (eros)”. The bottom line is that in today’s heterosexual and patriarchal society sex is all about men having a natural power over women; sex involves a total loss of control which creates a split between reason and emotion since being in control is a matter of reason controlling emotions, “we tend to believe that to be safe we must be rational and in control but to...
Sexual abuse includes any sexual act in which one person has not agreed to it. A woman can be sexually abused by means of, but not limited to force, coercion, blackmail, threat, or embarrassment. Sexual abuse may occur when a woman is forced to perform, watch, or in any other way engage in sexual acts. This includes but is not limited to vaginal, anal and oral sex, fondling, touching, disrespect of privacy, such as showering, being forced to watch pornography or view pornographic pictures, being forced into sexual poses, or being verbally abused in a sexual manner (Morris and Biehl 36, Haley 14).
The other type of sexual abuse that’ll be discussed is rape. Rape is the force of having sexual intercourse upon a person to please your sexual desires. There are three different types ...
The beliefs, traditions, and characteristics of the swinger culture can run a wide gamut. Swingers can be described as consenting adult couples who are interested in having sexual relations with other mutually consenting adults. Couples who belong to this culture believe they live a lifestyle that blends traditional family values, including matrimony, children, and monogamy, with the erotic cultivation of their marriage through the practice rites that consist of erotic costume parties to multiple partner sexual activity as a form of social recreation (Gould, 1998). Swingers are oddly obsessed with personal hygiene. Also, candles and mood lighting often set the scene, with pornographic movies playing to break the ice. Surprisingly a person may be shy, even a
Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie is a Nigerian author who has received numerous awards and distinctions. Her main argument is that everyone should be a feminist not because of our gender, but because it is what is right. Adichie has been featured in Beyonce’s song, “Flawless”, spreading awareness to the idea of feminism. “We Should All Be Feminists” is a book about her experiences in Nigeria, where men are more powerful than women. The intended audience of the passage is each and every person residing in heavily patriarchal societies. Hesr thesis is “we should all be feminists”.
Traditional sex scripts of men and women create for a rape-supportive culture (Check & Malamuth, 1983). Rape is a logical extension of our sex role socialization process that legitimized coercive sexuality. Through these scripts men are taught to take initiative and persist attempts of sexual intimacy. Traits of dominance, aggression and violence are idolized (Martin, Taft & Resick, 2007). Women, on the other hand, are taught to not indicate their sexual interest or engage freely in sexuality. They should possess qualities of being passive, submissive and sexual gatekeepers (Martin, Taft & Resick, 2007).
In the book Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center written by bell hooks, an African-American author, social activist and feminist first published in 1984 the author explains what she believes are the core principles of feminism. Throughout the book the author examines the early feminist theory and goes on to criticize it saying that it did not aim for a systematic change also that the movement has the potential to improve the lives of both men and women immensely. In the book the author investigates the performance of African-American women in the movement and what is needed to drive the movement towards ending oppression of all kinds.