Individual assignment: developmental reflection In this assignment I will discuss the death of my father’s best friend, uncle Kobus. First of all, uncle Kobus’s relationship to me and my father will be discussed, as well as the cause of his death. Next, the emotional power of his death will be discussed and four different strategies to resolve emotional situations will be explained and applied to my emotional experience as well as to my father’s response. Then, the responses of my parents and Aunt Wilma will be discussed and how it influenced me. Development According to Louw et al. (2014) there are six developmental stages: prenatal stage, neonatal stage, infancy, early childhood, middle childhood and lastly, adolescence. During the death …show more content…
The death of my father’s best friend When I was in the eighth grade (in 2010) we went to a get together at church. We then met uncle Kobus, who became my father’s best friend, as well as his wife and children. We all started to visit one another and my father and uncle Kobus became best friends. The went to Mozambique together on a church retreat, we went to Eco park together, we were all part of a small concert, and they exchanged their mistakes and problems of the past, thus they were like brothers and soon he was like a father to me. We all got together every Saturday until uncle Kobus and his wife, Aunt Wilma, announced that they were getting a divorce. To me it seemed to appear out of nowhere, but my father told me they were having problems for quite a while. This was exactly four weeks before his death on …show more content…
(2014) there are four instances when emotions appear: basic emotions, emotions involving the self, self-evaluative emotions, and emotions involving others. When uncle Kobus died, two types of emotions appeared, namely basic emotions (sadness and anger) and emotions involving others (sympathy). The basic emotions I felt were sadness, as I was sad that he died and cannot one day witness his children’s weddings of graduation, and anger, as I was angry at my father for not crying about his best friend’s death and that uncle Kobus’s conditions were improving. According to Louw et al. (2014) all individuals experience emotions, which are usually based on the situation as well as the psychological and behavioural reactions. When I found out that uncle Kobus died, I felt devastated, because he was my father’s best friend and he was also like a father to me. According to Louw et al. (2015) there are four solutions to emotional significance, namely problem focused strategies, cognitive analytical strategies, passive dependant strategies, and avoidant strategies. In the case of the death of my father’s best friend, I made use of the passive dependant and the avoidant strategies- I attempted to withdraw myself from the situation and also to deny it. For about a year no one knew how I felt about his death as I did not wanted to talk to anyone about it. I felt empathy towards my father, because his last words to his best friend were “You have to get well soon
The characters in Alice Sebold’s The Lovely Bones are faced with the difficult task of overcoming the loss of Susie, their daughter and sister. Jack, Abigail, Buckley, and Lindsey each deal with the loss differently. However, it is Susie who has the most difficulty accepting the loss of her own life. Several psychologists separate the grieving process into two main categories: intuitive and instrumental grievers. Intuitive grievers communicate their emotional distress and “experience, express, and adapt to grief on a very affective level” (Doka, par. 27). Instrumental grievers focus their attention towards an activity, whether it is into work or into a hobby, usually relating to the loss (Doka par. 28). Although each character deals with their grief differently, there is one common denominator: the reaction of one affects all.
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
In 1969 Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, a psychiatrist, published the Pioneering book On Death and Dying. The work acquainted the world with the grieving process, called the five stages of grief. Kübler-Ross gathered her research from studying individuals with terminal cancer (Johnson, 2007). The first stage of the grieving process is denial. In this stage the person refuses to believe that their loved one is deceased, a common thought during this period is, “This can’t be happening to me” (Johnson, 2007).The second stage of the grieving process is anger. In this level the person becomes frustrated with their circumstances, a customary complaint is “Why is this happening to me?” (Johnson, 2007). The third stage of the grieving process is bargaining. At this point the individual hopes that they can prevent their grief, this typically involves bartering with a higher power, and an ordinary observance during this time is “I will do anything to have them back” (Johnson, 2007). The fourth and most identifiable stage of grief is depression. This phase is habitually the lengthiest as...
Sensorimotor stage (birth – 2 years old) – Children begin to make sense of the world around them based on their interaction with their physical environment. Reality begins to be defined.
The most important formation of the stages of grief was formulated by Dr: Elizabeth Keble –Ross in her book “On Death and Dying “Dr: Kubler-Ross wrote about the stages that dying person move to go the way as they come to ideas. However, all her stages have since been rents by the big grief community as a means of explaining the grief ideas. coming to different ideas with dying is certainly a lost experience and a work for grief, so there is credit to this rending and reason to become popular with stages of Dr: Keble –Ross on the contrary not all people would experience these stages of grief , or , if all are experienced , they won’t expect to happened in this specific order. This is a compare the contrast paper on Keble –Ross, model in its
First of all, infancy, early childhood, and middle childhood are the first three stages of the human lifespan. During infancy in 1955, out of every 1,000 babies that were born, 210 of them died of serious illnesses before their fifth birthday; however,
Even when he tried to stay optimistic, fear and anxiety set in often in Schwartz’s mind. He experienced fear and anxiety related to impending death. Worries of missing out on his son growing up and not experiencing romantic moments with his wife ever again filled him with both terror and grief. He expressed this fear to his psychiatrist and his concern that he might be depressed. Dr Cassem assured him that crying was a sign of acknowledgment of his love for his family. He also worried if there was anything he could do t...
Overcoming the grief that is felt after losing a loved one is a physically and mentally agonizing task. According to Dr. Christina Hibbert, a clinical psychologist who graduated from the California School of Professional Psychology, three main stages of grief include anger, depression and acceptance. Each one of these emotions can be seen in William Shakespeare’s Hamlet and The Descendants (2011, Payne) as the artists explore the effects of grief and the different emotional responses that one can have due to the loss of a loved one. Additionally, in Ismail Kadare’s Broken April, the Berisha family feels the sufferance that is associated with unexpected death, as well as the various temperamental reactions that one will have after losing a loved one. Each of these works of art represent a powerful example of the stages that one will go through after feeling the intense sorrow that is connected with death, as well as the unavoidable effects of grief.
The complexity of the human brain is a puzzle that is not easily understood, but to some the puzzle fits together like a mosaic. The psychology of loss is necessary to recognize how the mind works during hard times. Loss is broken down into five stages, those stages are denial and isolation, anger, bargaining and acceptance. In Shakespeare's play Hamlet Hamlet and Gertrude’s personalities/actions apply to the human experience including the stages of grief and difficult decisions.
Each stage is very different according to Piaget. Cognitive theories focus the attention on conscious thoughts which means someone is more aware of their surroundings. Sensorimotor: Birth to two years. In this stage infants get the feel for the real world and are able to understand physically. Preoperational: two to seven years. Children during this stage are able to identify pictures and symbols. Concrete: Seven to eleven years. At this point children are very concrete in their development but also children start to develop logically and are more organized. Formal Stage: Twelve and up. Teens during this stage are able to think more into depth for a
stage (age 0 - 22), the early adulthood stage (age 17 - 45), the middle adult
It is not like I never see him or talk to him; I do. He has been in and out of my life ever since. Occasionally he calls to say hi or ask how I'm doing; he is never consistent. Our convesations are short and very uncomfortable. When I am out shopping or running errands I sometimes run into him by chance, (or fate who knows). All of our truths and his lies are always there but never talked about. I can't remember the last time he called on my birthday, sometimes I wonder if he even remembers my birthday or even thinks of me when my birthday comes around every year. He never calls on holidays. It is really hard for me to talk to someone who was once my father, and now is a complete stranger. After all the things I know about my father, the strangest feeling I have is under the hurt and the pain, what I hope and pray for is day we might go fishing again.
Each person’s life consists of normal stages of development; this is known as life span development. This development starts at infancy and continues through death. In each stage of development, each person experiences four types of development; physical, cognitive, social, and personality.
There are three stages of development after one surpasses childhood which includes adolescence, emerging adulthood, and adulthood. These three stages of development come with various cognitive, physical, emotional changes to an individual that embodies the transition from one stage to another.
The development milestones consist of four stages in life in which we grow and learn as humans. First, there is the sensorimotor stage which occurs from age zero to age two where the child now understands how his or her actions can affect the environment around them. Second, comes the preoperational stage which involves children from the ages of two to seven where the child now thinks symbolically about the objects around them. Third, is the concrete operational stage which occurs in children between the ages of seven and eleven where the child can now deal with general core education problems such as math. Finally, there is the formal operational stage which occurs in children who are eleven years of age and older where these children are now becoming adolescents and adults and they now have the mental capacity to think absolutely and critically. We can clearly observe these steps in everyday life simply by observing children in their environment and noting how each and every child react to their