Playing Hard to Get The idea of "playing hard to get", which I interpret as a style of flirting meant to increase the significance of the individual by increasing the effort in the "chase", has been only presented in a few studies. One study which was quite interesting and provided many new insights on this subject was conducted by Walster, Walster, Piliavin and Schmidt (1973), in their study they conducted five experiments, all of which failed! They had the same hypothesis as I proposed, that a woman who is hard to get to go out on a date would be more valued by a man, rather than a woman who is easy to get. This was not true due to the fact that men simply get frustrated with these types of women, and do not want to waste their time on a woman who does not show the same interest that they have in them. What they found instead was that men were highly attracted to a woman who was hard to get for other men, but easy to get for them. What I interpreted from their results was that when a woman shows interest in a particular man, he will reciprocate those feelings for her if he knows that she has other options, in terms of other potential romantic partners. This makes her more desirable for the man. Walster, Walster, and Berscheid (1971) showed in their results that the act of playing hard to get was not an effective strategy for increasing one’s status. My understanding of their results was that people like people who like them; this is simple and shouldn’t be complicated further by playing games such as hard to get. What is meant by playing games is ignoring the other person, trying to call them as minimal as possible, and basically ... ... middle of paper ... ...ndifference. Men can usually see through it. We aren’t as foolish as women think us to be,” says Siddharth, a copywriter with a leading ad agency. He’s of the opinion that women should quit “such stupid mind games which did well in Victorian times”, and be direct and open. But then don’t they get the wrong opinion? “We aren’t asking you to jump into our arms. Just say yes when you feel like it, instead of making lame excuses like I-have-a-dentist’s-appointment when we ask you out.” Point noted. Being ‘unavailable’ is pretty much like flirting. Unless you’re able to do it the right way, it’s bound to boomerang badly. So How Do You Learn To Do It The Right Way? Trust your gut instinct. And to a small extent, by trial and error. And remember — you’re going to win some and lose some. But don’t lose heart, have fun.
it came to men. This naiveté affected her in such a way that she neither knew
...y.” (Wollstonecraft, 1792, p.13) Why not strengthen other characteristics and not rely so much on appearance to gain power, luring man through the feminine attraction. Simone De Beauvoir states that, “The female, to a greater extent than the male, is the prey of the species.” (Rosaldo 1949, p.74)
has the newest car, and gets all the ladies. Or the person in art class who
...get bored with what they have, or they just have a different need that is not being met.
mostly loses interest in him after he is engaged to another women. He did tell her about
states that men are to work and make money for the family. A woman's goal was to
led on by those around him and does not have much faith in the woman
She is talking about a man that does not do anything for her, but always wants her to take
The committer is serious about finding the right woman. He asks friends and relatives for introductions. He is usually open to blind dates and avoids the bar scene when looking for a quality woman. On the first date, he is polite and will not bring up the subject of money at the restaurant. He takes her to places where they can talk one-on-one. The non-committer is just looking for a woman. There is no room in his life for the woman. He, on the other hand, loves the bar scene. He usually finds a million excuses why he can't find the right woman and uses such excuses to explain why he is still unattached. On a date, he orders trendy food such as sushi to impress his date, and he monopolizes the conversation. He may even take her to places where there is no chance for good conversation such as a club or a party.
A very common question in life is what makes a woman choose a certain man. Why does it seem that women choose men that are disrespectful opposed to men that are overly emotional and very respectful to women? You would think that most women want to be treated with dignity and kindness. So, then wouldn't the obvious choice for a woman be the nice guy who treats her sweet over the guy who is disrespectful? Well, when it comes right down to the reality of it all, that is not the case. The reasons for women choosing Mr. Wrong over Mr. Right is that Mr. Wrong plays on the emotional and self-consciousness side of a woman.
to support her, and that without a woman a man is incapable of living independently and caring
One truth we learn about human nature is that men often use women for there looks because thats the only thing that attracts them. As soon as the women lose their beauty, or if the beauty comes with to much baggage then the men back out leaving the women hurt.
strong bond with them will show them that there is someone out there who is willing to