Discovering My Triggers
The definition of triggers is something that quickly, and unexpectedly changes our emotional framework in that second. I will be talking about six of my different triggers, focusing mainly on four negative ones that have an adverse effect on my emotional well being. I will also write about two other triggers that have a positive effect on me. I am a very reactive person; when something has an effect on me, it’s usually extremely easy to see it on my face, my body language, and in my tone of voice.
The first trigger I will be talking about is criticism. I can immediately pick up on when somebody is criticizing me. When I can sense that the person or people that I am interacting with are starting to criticize me, I immediately put up a defensive wall. I get angry, and feel a deep sense of hurt, as if the person or people do not recognize how much effort I put into something or what my true motivation was. I often start to cry or yell, and start shouting in defence of myself. After I have had time to cool off or think about the criticism, I often feel embarrassed and recognize that what they were saying was true.
My second trigger I have is seeing someone I love or care for not choose me. When I see someone I care for choose someone else over me, I feel a deep sense of betrayal. I withdraw and think to myself, “if they truly care about me, they will seek me out.” I hide this feeling very deep inside of me and bottle it up. This in turn often leads to prolonged feelings of betrayal that go on way longer than they should. Sometimes these bottled up feelings cause me to snap at others and have a quick temper.
My third trigger is lateness. Time is a very important thing to me, and weather you show up on time...
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.... My family, on both sides, is very touchy, so that is the kind of environment that I grew up in. Naturally these triggers evoke feelings of togetherness, kinship, and love.
My sixth, positive, and final trigger I will be talking about is shared interests or a curiosity in my interests. When I find out that someone I’m interacting with shares similar interests or is curious about my interests, it makes me excited, happy, and animated. Young, old, male, female, friend, stranger, it doesn’t matter; when I find out we share an interest, I am the happiest person alive. I love talking about shared interests, and gaining new insights on them. I believe this comes from being home schooled and the fact that I had the opportunity to cultivate my own interests independently. This trigger knocks down any walls that I might put up emotionally, and I become a lot more friendly.
Family relationships assist me because they help me focus on my family rather than the tragic event that happened. The effect a family has on one another during a time of difficulty is very strong. One might have a mother, a father, and also brothers, sisters, grandparents, etc. These are the people that one will draw closer to in times of need. Besides their spouse, one’s relationship with their mother is the closest relationship one will have with another human being.. For six weeks, Lorri is alone on an island with the two deceased passengers, Josie Archer and Clarence Fuller, and all that she longs for is the accompaniment of her mother. Her only will to live is so that she could be with her mother again since she has not been able to see her for years before because of World War II. In Wick 's book, Every Storm, she says, “ 'Mother, Mother,’ Lorri sobbed, not able to get close enough,” (Wick 93). When one does not have a mother figure, they lose that maternal bond. The relationship between a mother and child is strong because no one will be able to replace ones real mother. This certain situation made me think of how lucky I am to have a mother that cares about me. It also made me think that if I were in the same
Being together and having this kind of trust, can also build a strong bond within the family. Building good bonds within a family can help to build a strong core, and when someone has a problem, they know they have their family to lean on. Having a strong core within a family develops a sense of security, because each person knows that they have eachother’s backs. The bond built between family members can help you solve any problems you face in life. In Desert Exile, many times there were parts of the text that showed lots of selflessness or selfishness. These traits can be described when the author is talking about her mother, “My sister and I worried about Mama, for she wasn’t strong… she in turn was, worrying about us, and of course we all worried and wondered about Papa.”(pg. 303). Each family member is worried about one another and is thinking of ways that they can help to keep them safe. The longer they are kept in the camps, the stronger the bonds between them will grow. They are doing everything to keep their mother warm and from becoming
A trigger warning is most commonly found on internet articles, and blogs. It serves the purpose of warning the reader of any potentially triggering material that they may find offensive or may be sensitive toward due to post traumatic experiences in their life. They are essentially created to prevent readers from accidently encountering the material without some sort of warning. An example of this would be, an article that discusses the topic of self harm can cause unwanted flashbacks in a person that has personally experienced this themselves and would not like to be reminded of it, or an image included in an article that reminds a war veteran of the things that they saw while on deployment.
For most people family is one of the most important parts of life. For they are the people who raised you and taught you things needed in life. For most of us we have a connection with are family that is unparallel in life, which is the reason for are undying love. At times though there is a point at which we take are family for granted like they will always be around. Parents might do things that are not agreed upon by the children, yet the parent thinks it is in the child's best interest. Sometimes it might not even be the best thing to do in that situation, yet parents have a true desire to protect their children from the dangers of the world. On the other hand, children do not always listen to the advice their parents give them and can get themselves into a lot of trouble. Anyway you look at it, most of the time we do not realize what we have until it is not longer with us. Many times we do take our family for granted and when one passes away there are many things we wish we could have said or done to show them are love. The play "Into The Woods," by Stephen Sondheim and James Lapine is a direct example of how families treat each other. There is conflict ranging from hating sisters, to protective mothers and a disagreeing husband and wife. In the end lives are lost, family are in pain and those left realize that they need to treat their family better and hold on to the loved ones that they have. Families do encounter many difficult choices together, but they also must solve the problems together, and keep peace within the family, because bad choice will be regretted when those loved ones are not around longer.
We’re called weak for wanting to deal with situations on our own time. Trigger warning, we have professors who may or may not use them. According to NPR Ed a survey was conducting to determine if professor have used trigger warnings in their classrooms “about half of professors said they’ve used a trigger warning in advance of introducing potentially difficult material”. When the survey was conduct overall 51% have used trigger warning while the other 49% have not. Dr. Onni Gust, assistant professor at the university of Nottingham, states “I use trigger warnings because they help students to stop for a moment and breathe, which helps them to think.” Gust highlights the importance of why he uses trigger warnings. He feels as if students should be able to make the choice of whether they want to deal with a certain situation at hand at that time. He gives students time to comprehend what they will be discussing and allows time for them to breathe and think. Gust, contends “unlike with two-year-old, I do not let my students avoid difficult or disturbing topics.” Here he shows that he does not coddle his students the way society has made it seem. Even though he gives warnings he gives them as a way for students to prepare themselves for the topic that is going to be discussed. Trigger warnings are not just considered as coddling and weak but are considered as giving students a
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produce reactions in people that in most situations aren’t the same. The result of a
Emotion is a complex construct that has been explored for many years, yet there is still much to be learned regarding this multifaceted phenomenon. Given the pivotal role that emotion plays in our everyday lives, scholars have demonstrated a continued interest in describing and understanding its functional and structural properties. At its most basic level, emotion is referred to as a positive or negative response towards a given stimulus, which is accompanied by cognitive, behavioral, and physiological characteristics (Carlson, 2013). Although emotions are often perceived to be feelings rather than behaviors, it is often the behavioral mechanisms rather than personal feelings that have adaptive and reproductive significance (Carlson, 2013). In essence, emotion serves as a regulatory mechanism of daily interactions and social relations (Algoe, Fredrickson, & Gable, 2013; Keltner & Haidt, 1999).
In the article The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt, the authors go into great detail of describing the effects of trigger warnings. Using real world examples, Lukianoff and Haidt describes how college students are oversensitive and carried along the school year. The authors explain how this is a negative thing for the college students going into the work force in the future.
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