Personal Narrative-What Is Attachment Disorder?

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My story began in a cradle in Romania that contained a heart that has been broken, and fallen apart from the mystery of my childhood. I’m a young European girl named Grace Giorgiana Audiffred; I was very blessed to be adopted by a young couple that is now my loving, supporting parents. I was diagnosed with a disorder called attachment disorder. It’s known for kids that have struggled with the detachment of caregiver or birth parents. What is Attachment disorder? “The condition in which individuals have difficulty forming lasting relationships. They often show nearly a complete lack of ability to be genuinely affectionate with others. They typically fail to develop a conscience and do not learn to trust”. I struggled a lot dealing and accepting …show more content…

As a little girl I developed bad habits with my negativity thoughts that kept me up all night long wallowing in questions that can’t ever be answered. No matter how much I struggled, and how much pain I was in, I wouldn’t regret any of it. I’m very much appreciated my struggles, and the heart breaks of what I’ve had to deal with. My perspective as changed drastically on my adoption. I have simply accepted and viewed my adoption with great happiness and forgiveness. Since I’m much older and matured over the years I see that my birth mother saved my life when I was a little girl by putting me up for adoption. The way I have coped with my disorder is through, Photography, music, and excising. I have turned to the things that make me happy and the things I love to do in my free time. Photography has helped me to view things and see things through a different lenses, and accept things for what they are for example it helped me to forgive my birthmother, I had to adjust my lenses to face the truth to what really could of happened to her, such as rape. It helped me to realize that maybe I wasn’t the problem, and maybe it wasn’t her fault

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