The one truth about normality is that it is a myth. In fact, being different from one another is the only thing that is truly normal. But despite this, sometimes it is much easier to compare yourself to others. Bierce defines this as pain or “an uncomfortable frame of mind that may have a physical basis in something that is being done to the body, or may be purely mental, caused by the good fortune of another.” One’s luck to be normal can fuel the envious feeling that results in pure self-deprecation. And unfortunately, many, if not all humans, have felt this way. A little over four years ago, prepubescent high-school freshman Adrian was called gay by an upperclassman. This upperclassman was a boy that possessed straight everything from …show more content…
The idea of normality rarely bothered me. I began accepting my differences which ultimately allowed me to appreciate originality. During my last year of high school, I was given the chance to perform at the annual Senior Showcase. My family members scattered all over the United States flew out to hear me sing. The occasion felt too significant and too momentous for a random song that everyone would forget about hours after. That night I played and sang “True Colors” in front of one thousand peers, family members and parents to share a message that I will forever remember. I’m Adrian. I’m a fun loving, wild and outgoing kid that loves theater and is beyond proud to be black, white and homosexual. These things may be a part who I am, but they certainly do not define my character. So, I asked, and I ask everyone still, to think of me as Adrian. I don’t want to be referred to as the gay kid, the mixed kid or the theater kid simply because I am just Adrian. Differences may be advantageous, but why highlight them when defining an individual? Why make someone feel less of a person than what they deserve? The support I received after the performance gave me the strength I needed to start the next chapter of my life at college. Furthermore, my progress as a human being gave me the happiness and fortitude required to disregard the belief that normal is
Most people want to be normal. The definition of normal however, depends on the culture of the person making the judgment. Far too often, normal is defined in America by looking at the actions and beliefs of the average white middle class family. This definition of normal fails to let other cultures to be accepted, creating distance and misunderstanding.
As highlighted by the author, Mary Louise Adams in her article, “Excerpts from The Trouble with Normal”, ‘a norm’ “can be defined as something that is usual, typical or standardized” (Hacking, Adams, 2003). Norms are often already so established that most individuals do not realize how much they have shaped society and the people who live in it. Audrey Lord tells us that being a “White, thin, young, heterosexual, Christian, male” defines the characteristics of being “normal” and “privileged,” in which she calls “the mythical norm” (Perry, 2011). We use our sexuality, race and class as a way of giving ourselves an identity for the world to see. This identity will ultimately allow us to understand our place in the world and give
Once you are born, you become a part of a larger group. You will grow up starting at a point in your parent's life and then over time they or even you will change the direction of your families subculture in whatever country you all live in. In America, People strive for the best. Not all get it, but somehow or someone will push that family into a situation where they can move up in the world. Over the years America has came to a point where most jobs pay well and mostly anyone can be considered a middle class resident. In America this is considered normal to the general public. Being normal and striving to be normal is the focus most people try to reach within their lifetimes. Normality is a subculture in itself.
The Short Bus: A Journey Beyond Normal, written by Jonathan Mooney, has provided me with a unique insight into the various thoughts of people who society has deemed as “not normal.” The people that Mooney has included in his book do not really understand why they have been placed under this category. However, they are doing all that they can to not be belittled and to come out on top.
In the 1980’s classic The Breakfast Club, John Hughes wrote it best, “We're all pretty bizarre. Some of us are just better at hiding it, that's all.” Societal normalcy is more of a false notion and facade rather than an fact. Who dictates what normal is? With every person on Earth being different, how is there a norm? The idea of what is “normal” in society is what plagues the monster in Mary Shelley’s novel Frankenstein. Wanting to be a functioning member of society, the creation of Doctor Frankenstein is judged based on his physical differences rather than given a chance to show his true nature. However, society is not always to blame for a person or creatures’ adversity with society.
When comparing myself to the standards of the rest of America I consider myself normal. As an American teen in today's society I believe normal is undefined because there are too many different cultures and beliefs. Since people have become more segregated by race, religion and beliefs, normality can only be based on their own cultures standards depending on what the individual has been accustomed to. In the new millennium, it would not be unheard of for a family to be raised by a grandparent, or even two homosexual parents. I would not call that "normal" or "regular" behavior, but because it is accepted more now than before you know that the definition of weird or exotic has changed. I define normal as what the majority of the American population does. Maybe this is a poor choice of definition, seeing as how we try to stray away from doing what others do or say. I feel that independence is one thing, but if you are not doing what the "in-crowd" is doing then face it, you are an outcast. No one should feel this way, but it is a fact that some do. Since when did not being normal become terrible? In Borders as Barriers: Otherness and Difference by Randall Bass, they present "national geographic nudity". When I read this article, I thought that they were trying to say that it is okay for the natives to be nude because that is what they were accustomed to. On the other hand, people in America just think it is weird because we wear clothes. I somewhat agree with that idea. My only objection is why would it be a shock to see an American in that setting nude also? Bass also talked about exotic by our meaning could be related to "foreign" or "unusual". Even though those words may seem harsh to describe someone, it ...
Gays in today’s society face many problems not only with the Media’s eyes, but also on college campuses. Young adults who self-identify as lesbian, gay or bisexual experience major stresses in managing their sexual orientation.
A “normal person” can be considered many different things, depending on the viewpoint of the person. Often times one would consider a “normal person” to be a person without any sort of mental illness. A normal person is someone who adapts to the norms and standards of society.
In the dictionary, it states that the definition of “normal” is “Conforming with, adhering to, or constituting a norm, standard, pattern, level, or type; typical.”But the word itself has a wide range of meanings.It can mean: “what’s accepted,” “average,” “just like everyone else,” or “just not sticking out in the crowd” just to name a few. We all have different perceptions of what the word normal means, and what is considered to be different.This perception is always changing and is affected by everything around us.If you ask a person what is normal one day, and then ask him again in about a month, that person will probably give an entirely different answer.The word normal is, in the most part, has opinionated definition.It varies from person to person, and changes dramatically as each person learns, experiences and accepts new things.
Saleem states that he’s seen in statistics that normal maybe seen in color and gender. Which in a way are very many schools and jobs use “normal views.” We know that reviewers will find more spelling errors in your writing if they think you're black. We know that professors are less likely to help female or minority students.And we know that resumes with white-sounding names get more callbacks than resumes with black-sounding names.” Why do we, use the norm to see the “difference” in people that have. Different in a way is good to be around, you get to learn new cultures and new ways of life. So why is normal so judged? Well “ Because of our expectations of what is normal.” (Saleem 2016) our expectations are what we see as the norm is, which is what we live around. “But studies also show that discrimination of this kind, in most cases, is simply favoritism, and it results from more from wanting to help people that you can relate to than the desire to harm people that you can't relate to.” (Saleem 2016) What if we don’t mean the norm in people? We need to start becoming one and enjoy each other's differences.
deviations and find themselves perfectly normal. For people shouldnt have that thought that what they
This paper has effort to generally show youths growing up gay. A number of issues have been presented involving gay identity formation, parental interaction, and disclosure. Homosexuality is a very controversial subject. By no mean does this paper try to say that it is “totally correct.” However, the paper does examine logical theoretical ideas of what gay adolescents endure, using and combining research and reports of other gay studies.
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One of the most obvious things that we are noticing in our everyday lives is that people are distinctly different. There are 7 billion people sharing the earth. But how many are considered “normal”? When are people considered abnormal? To be normal is to adhere to a standard or norm, but unfortunately, normality is an impossible and unlikely dream that we will continue to strive for all our lives. We strive for it because it gives us that sense of self that we need to reassure us that we fit in. While undefined, depending on your upbringing, generation and culture, what you consider normal may not be normal for someone else because other countries and cultures have different traditions and practices that they view to be routine; and what in the past has been viewed as normal has evolved throughout the course of time.
It was dark that night, I was nervous that this dreadful day was going to get worse. Sunday, October 23, 1998 I wanted to start writing this to tell about the weird things i’m starting to see in this new neighborhood. Gradually I keep seeing pots and pans on the sink suddenly move to the floor. I would ask my sister but she is out with my mom and dad getting the Halloween costumes. When they got home I didn’t tell them what I saw because i've seen Halloween movies and I have to have dissimulation otherwise the ghost will come out and get me first. October 24, 1998 I think I got a little nervous yesterday with the whole ghost thing. 12:32pm, Went to eat lunch with the family today and I go to get my coat. I heard the words furious and madness,